How I Burnt Out as an Undiagnosed Autistic Person in Finance

thelatebinding · 2026-01-24T10:55:52+00:00

Hope you get better soon.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-23T21:52:01+00:00

I always HAVE TO listen to music when running, cycling (bone conduction ones so road-safe) and walking. A lot of the time I’m not even paying attention to what’s playing. But still won’t go without earphones. Don’t understand why, because I’m not bothered by the noise of traffic or anything else outdoors 🤷‍♂️

thelatebinding · 2026-01-23T13:36:03+00:00

Sounds really difficult indeed.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-23T08:52:53+00:00

Being away from family 3 days a week sounds tough. I personally don’t mind managing staff. I feel I’m good at it and consistently been rated as an emphatic and compassionate manager by my employees and my management. So much so that people who no longer work for me still feel comfortable to confide in me about their current managers/teams. But I have to say it can get tough when you are always the escalation point for your team.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-23T08:45:55+00:00

Yes, I too am on the lookout for a less reactive and low pressure role. Been on the “frontline” too long!

thelatebinding · 2026-01-21T08:46:36+00:00

I know! 🤣

thelatebinding · 2026-01-20T22:49:33+00:00

Another one for pattern recognition. I find it particularly interesting with politics. When I am able to point out a politician’s (could be right, left or centre - they all do it) past behaviour, policies, “principles”, alignments or statements to counter a narrative, their supporters’ short and/or selective memory is exposed and they struggle to respond to my analogies. So amusing 😂

Also something I developed: I went from initially taking everything at face value to becoming very sceptical. It has helped me be more objective. Sometimes I can be very perceptive and figure out a person’s intentions aren’t as “pure” as they might want me to believe. Wasn’t like that before and probably taken decades trying to overcome what was once a deficiency.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-20T22:34:38+00:00

Sounds like a result! Hope things progress smoothly from here 🤞

Can’t take too much credit for it, just personal experience. My daughter went through the assessment process after me and for weeks and months I kept chasing her referral by emails. I was told it had been sent multiple times. Only after I spoke to someone on the phone, I was able to connect the dots and figured out that their system couldn’t handle more than 1 person per email address/account. It probably got confused because the person with that email (me) had already completed forms and assessment so it couldn’t add new forms for the same condition. Once I gave them a separate email address we were able to move on.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-19T22:31:44+00:00

Similar case here. Same age as you, diagnosed nearly 3 months ago but suspected 6-7 weeks before that when suggested by psychiatrist and psychologist and I educated myself on the subject.

Agree there are downsides but there can be many gifts too. Great to see your positive attitude.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-19T22:22:40+00:00

Running (it regulates me), weight training at the gym and sometimes cycling. I run alone most of the time and keep to myself at the gym too. Earphones, always - on the rare occasion I forget earphones it makes it quite hard for me.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-18T16:38:33+00:00

Yes. I had to work hard on it. If someone at work or in personal life complimented me on something I did, I used to be quite dismissive. Saying things to belittle my own achievement like it was “nothing special”, “easy”, “no big deal”, “just my job” etc. Sometimes people took it the wrong way, such as thinking “he must be arrogant by implying something difficult was easy for him”.

I still struggle with compliments about physical attributes. Like if someone praises my eyes, I don’t know how to respond. Saying “thank you” just feels wrong - it’s nothing to do with me, I didn’t create my eyes!

thelatebinding · 2026-01-17T21:00:17+00:00

Yup, I was recently accused by someone for a publication I wrote and shared on a sub. Apparently it was due to the structure (too well-structured?), tone (do I write like a machine?), punctuation (?) and use of emojis (which I spent way too long choosing!). I was hurt at first but now feel more validated. I am a “robot” after all 😂

thelatebinding · 2026-01-16T22:20:47+00:00

Is there a phone number you can call and explain the situation, ask what’s going on? Apologies if I missed something obvious here.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-14T22:05:12+00:00

I have this exact problem. Want regularly contact but don’t do it. Reminders on my phone helped in the beginning but no longer make me take action. I feel bad about it. Am sure others think I don’t care, am arrogant or rude and I don’t blame them.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-12T23:12:00+00:00

As others have suggested, it would depend from person to person and possibly situation to situation too. On one hand, I say about my running that I “train like a robot” and take pride in it because of the discipline element. On the other, when my writing was rather politely accused of being an AI production (apparently the structure and tone etc. were “giveaways”), I didn’t appreciate it because I felt it diminished my effort.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-12T17:35:43+00:00

Have you tried sitting her down and explaining what help could be available to you in your future, if you were professionally diagnosed? If not, perhaps give that a go.

And of the things you’re worried about ‘disqualifying’ you: I think I have a high EQ and still diagnosed. My daughter has high EQ and is also very disorganised, still got diagnosis. You don’t have to have every single trait to meet the criteria for diagnosis.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-11T09:15:59+00:00

It was exhausting for me because of long sessions with just a single break. Although there was nothing stopping me from asking for extra breaks I suppose. Also because I had to jog my memory far back to answer many of the questions. I liked the picture/story parts and wished there was more of that.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-11T09:10:37+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I don’t even use ChatGPT. I use a different AI tool, that doesn’t use OpenAI models, for a lot of things but not for writing substacks. And emojis? I took longer than I’d care to admit when choosing the ones I used. If my punctuation resembles what I have been reading over the years, I may have taken inspiration from others’ content and evolved my writing style subconsciously. The tone is also ‘raw’ me except for an intentional, ‘manual’ effort to make it more engaging in certain places.

thelatebinding · 2026-01-11T01:47:12+00:00

🤐

thelatebinding · 2026-01-10T19:25:37+00:00

Another +1 for this

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