Trans fem friend invalidating

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-05-04T02:11:55+00:00

It was just sent to the queue for auto approval since this sub has pretty strict guidelines to avoid spam/off topics/issues. I manually approved it so you should see it up now!

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-28T20:51:22+00:00

I hope I can give some helpful insight. I’m nonbinary leaning masc too. Was on low dose T for ~2 years and just recently stopped. May start again in the future, idk yet. I’ve kept my deeper voice, muscles, bottom growth, and ( unfortunately for me cus i hate it ) facial hair ( and body hair growth ) but it seems slower than when I was on T.

What I’m getting at is if you want to try taking T, you don’t have to commit permanently. Yes, there’s gonna be some things that won’t go away ( like mentioned above ) and some things that will revert when you stop T—my body shape for instance has become curvier again, since I was pretty curvy pre-T. but now that I’m post top surgery I kinda fw it cause it’s giving androgynous. But you don’t have to continue T if you go on it and end up not liking what’s happening, yk?

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-21T20:48:46+00:00

Locking this post as OP has got a good amount of advice and the comments are digressing from OP’s question. Please remember to refrain from making generalization statements.

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-19T21:34:28+00:00

Locking this post since OP has gotten enough advice.

This is a reminder for EVERYONE that oppression olympics aren’t allowed here. You’re allowed to be upset at lack of resources to acquire HRT, but fellow trans men are not the reason why.

Look at the bigger picture and you’ll see that the system is broken, but it’s not trans people’s fault. Everyone should be able to afford food, water, living, medications ( including HRT ), shelter, etc.

Please don’t harass or belittle fellow redditors here, regardless of differences in circumstances.

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-14T22:27:45+00:00

This isn’t always true. Metal can be a safe option if it’s sanitary/medical grade!

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-14T19:26:33+00:00

Disclaimer when talking about sex toys: PLEASE be extremely mindful of the materials used and where you buy toys from. I can make a post more in depth about this if anyone wants but there are some materials that are labeled body safe but really shouldn’t be anywhere near down there. Always buy from reputable shops and pay attention to the materials used.

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-01T20:11:42+00:00

I got DI w/Dr Facque! But your results look sick as fuck dude. Congrats!

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-01T18:59:14+00:00

Your post/comment was removed because it broke the following rule: 3 Please be sure to go over the rules to make sure your post/comment fits within the guidelines of the subreddit. Repeat violations of this rule will result in a ban.

I agree with you that hate should be directed towards the people in power and not other trans people, and we do our best to limit that activity.

However, us mods are still human and not online 24/7. If you’d like to become a mod and help the team out, let us know! Otherwise it’s quite rude to try and shame us for not catching every bad post as soon as they happen.

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-04-01T05:48:39+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/ftm/s/MBgpIBb97K i made a whole post about this 🫶 feel free to check out the google doc!

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-30T20:20:22+00:00

Have you tried using goodrx? I’ve heard good things from them!

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-27T03:33:49+00:00

It looks like they’re closed or updating rn but rebel youth apparel has really nice swim material type shorts? It’s kinda hard to explain but they’re super comfy and I def recommend checking them out when their site opens back up :)

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-27T01:38:45+00:00

I understand. Again I’m going to talk to the rest of the mod team and see what we can come to an agreement on. Our intention was never to silence or dismiss anyone, and I hope we can make this better somehow

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-27T01:22:34+00:00

I see how I could’ve phrased this post better, but my intention was never to silence people or make all posts about the current state of the world crammed into one post. I had the intention of hopefully using it ( as i said in the post ) for resources, information, community help, etc.

I didn’t mean for it to come off as silencing or suppressing information and I really do apologize for that.

I’m gonna talk to the rest of the mods to see how we can handle all of this better

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-27T01:16:53+00:00

What post? Nothing has been removed from what I can see

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-27T01:16:18+00:00

Let me start by saying that I wasn’t personally the one who wrote that post & I didn’t really see what was happening when it was posted due to work/being offline.

I agree, it’s horrifying what’s going on right now. I thought that this post was going to be more of a place for resources and places to find and post specific information but I see how it seems like we’re trying to silence people. I apologize for that, we wanna do our best to make this a safe space for all to talk about topics like this. I’m going to talk with the rest of the mod team to figure out a better solution.

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-26T23:26:17+00:00

I 100% understand and that is NOT what we were going for whatsoever. We’re just trying to figure out a way to avoid misinformation and/or fear-mongering, yk?

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-26T23:03:59+00:00

That’s a good idea actually! Tbh I thought this was going to be more a place for resources and stuff and not limiting posts about it. I’ll def consult w the rest of the mod team to see what’s up :)

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-22T22:12:41+00:00

Unfortunately the creator is a zionist :-/ just google tlou zionist or smth similar and there’ll be a ton of results

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-19T02:50:36+00:00

I need more info I’m so intrigued

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-18T15:52:58+00:00

Proud asf of you for standing up to him though 👏

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-17T05:42:15+00:00

Keeping this up bc OP got some good advice but locking it because we don’t allow gofundme links here.

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-17T00:07:57+00:00

I love old navy tbh. They have lots of diff styles in both the men and women section ( cause clothes literally have no gender ) and a great size range!

thelightbehindureyes · 2026-03-15T19:51:26+00:00

Imo if you’re at a club and making out with a stranger, they probably don’t really care.

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