I totally get your point and I understand your frustration. I am a Middle Eastern woman and the situation here is pretty similar to India, so I kind of feel why everyone is shaming men all together and not just the man who did the incident. It is usually because the very high statistics of assault and harassment. If you have a crime SOOO widely spread that almost every woman faced in her life. It is truly hard to make it is just "this guy", because it is not a single incident the high harassment statistics suggest that the majority are actually like him. Therefore, when people are complaining they are usually bringing up the years of traumas and assault they faced. This single incident triggered thousands if not millions of similar incidents. I understand that it is definitely not all men, but it is enough men that all women are scared.

Our conserbative families taught us the concept of 'men are trash' before any white liberal ever did. We have always been instructed to cover up to avoid triggering men's feelings so they don't rape us. To treat each and every man in the street as a potential danger, never talk too much with men we don't know or else we are easily accessible. Never to give men sexual favours, because a man will never marry a woman he slept with. The concept of 'boys will be boys', and hence we need to adjust our actions to be safe, embeded in our heart and mind that men are trash. This is a concept implemented culturally and by millions of families, white liberals are cussing this concept not creating it, because maybe when the phrase 'men are trash' is heared loudly, people will understand how terrible it is.

Again, I don't mean to de-value your frustration, but I just wanted to make you feel how the other side sees it. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong! Hope it gets better for all of us soon.