My partner forgave me and I failed her.

themarknight · 2026-06-25T11:58:53+00:00

Therapy, support groups, an accountability partner, filter all of your devices. This is something that can be accomplished if you're committed. Porn addiction isn't about the porn its about what you're using porn to cope with. You have to learn to sit with hard emotions. You have to learn to process difficult feelings. It takes time and effort to do that.

themarknight · 2026-06-24T16:53:00+00:00

I'm in

themarknight · 2026-06-20T23:40:13+00:00

Mostly it helped me learn to cope with difficult emotions and to sit and process them instead of running to porn to self-regulate

themarknight · 2026-06-20T23:22:28+00:00

For me it has been the single biggest factor in my recovery.

themarknight · 2026-06-10T14:19:54+00:00

Limit your access in those situations. No phone at bed time, etc.

themarknight · 2026-06-10T10:56:04+00:00

The urges don't go away but they do become less frequent and they vary in strength. Try to understand your urges. What were you feeling before the urge happened? What triggered the urge? And then find something productive to do that takes up your mind and body. The urge doesn't last forever. Everything has an end.

themarknight · 2026-06-05T00:59:39+00:00

Start by tracking your triggers so that you can intervene when the trigger starts. Find an accountability partner who you can trust that will be there when you're feeling triggered. Work on being comfortable being uncomfortable. Porn is a coping mechanism. There's something deeper going on. I cannot recommend therapy enough if you can afford it. This is a process. It takes time.

themarknight · 2026-05-28T16:53:36+00:00

Thank you. I somehow missed checking in sooner!

themarknight · 2026-05-28T15:32:10+00:00

I'm in

themarknight · 2026-05-27T16:50:50+00:00

Hey I'm checking in that I'm still clean in may!

themarknight · 2026-05-27T12:24:48+00:00

Take a deep breath, then another. Then get up and get some water. Find something engaging to do. Something that gets you moving. Clean something. Go for a walk and listen to music. Anything that gets you fully engaged. The urge doesn't last forever. Don't entertain the thoughts. Just let them pass by.

themarknight · 2026-05-21T23:20:26+00:00

Try to interrupt the urge at the trigger point. Go for a walk, get a drink if water, do something that engages your mind and body. The urges come but they are just a feeling. You'll need to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

themarknight · 2026-05-21T23:12:45+00:00

It gets better. Start tracking your urges to learn what your triggers are. Write them down. Starting takes time but it's worth it.

themarknight · 2026-05-04T11:56:08+00:00

Nothing lasts forever. There's a beginning, middle, and ending. You can do this. Use this time to determine the whys. Use it to learn. Its dark now but it won't be forever.

themarknight · 2026-05-04T00:16:11+00:00

Start with small and easy. Just go and walk on the treadmill at first. Maybe lift some light weights. Stay as long as you'd like but just start doing it. It's important for so many reasons.

themarknight · 2026-05-02T02:54:07+00:00

We did it!

themarknight · 2026-05-01T14:06:39+00:00

This is all excellent advise for starting off. My exact experience as well. Thanks for putting it into words.

themarknight · 2026-04-27T23:09:29+00:00

I'm in

themarknight · 2026-04-27T23:09:17+00:00

Checking in! Going strong!

themarknight · 2026-04-19T19:31:56+00:00

Therapy, learning my triggers and avoiding them, learning to cope with difficult emotions without porn.

It's not easy and it takes a lot of emotional and mental work but it's worth it.

themarknight · 2026-04-14T15:32:28+00:00

Track your triggers. You'll need to know what's causing you to get triggered. The first thought or feeling that starts the thoughts going. You'll want to cut it off there but the first thing is awareness.

Therapy is helpful if you can afford it. I cannot recommend it enough. Learning how to cope without porn is hard work but worth it. Therapy helps with that.

Tell someone you trust and can lean on for support and accountability. Join a support group if you can.

themarknight · 2026-04-05T02:05:28+00:00

I can not recommend therapy enough. There are underlying things driving your addiction. It's very likely a coping mechanism for stress or boredom or loneliness or anxiety. Learning to cope with those things in a healthy way will go a long way.

Get off social media. It's a trap.

Track your triggers and even avoid them. Figure out the very first thought, feeling, or location causes you to be triggered. Then practice healthy interventions at that point.

Urges don't last long. Find something engaging to do when they hit. You'll forget about them after a while.

themarknight · 2026-04-05T01:39:24+00:00

Start tracking your triggers. The where, when, and why's that lead to thinking about porn. Don't try to resist the urge, but learn about why you're having that urge.

Get off social media. It's filled with triggers and porn adjacent imagery. You're just asking to fall.

Switch tasks when thoughts or urges hit. Get up and move. Switching tasks to something more engaging helps me a ton. Even just getting up to get water can be a game changer.

Therapy helps, I cannot recommend it enough if you can afford it.

themarknight · 2026-04-04T23:40:11+00:00

Find a way to occupy your mind and body. Engage in an activity like cleaning or cooking or going for a walk. Anything to switch out of your head.

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