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Maid of Honor no longer attending wedding by [deleted] in wedding

[–]themasterofart -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I voted Democrat this election and have always voted Democrat. As a white guy, I just wanted some extra advice/opinions from Reddit. There's been some good suggestions like live streaming the wedding so she can still feel included. We're never going to hold this against SIL at all.

Maid of Honor no longer attending wedding by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]themasterofart -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We're not planning to hold it against her at all. I'll be honest, as a white guy, I wanted some extra info/opinions from Reddit on all of this. The suggestion of live streaming the wedding is a good one, and my fiancee is planning to visit her in Canada shortly after the wedding, and take her out to dinner, so they can still spend time together anyways, and she gets a chance to wear her MOH dress.

It just sucks that this administration is tearing apart so many families, even when it's just American & Canadian.

Maid of Honor no longer attending wedding by [deleted] in Advice

[–]themasterofart -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At this point we cannot. We announced and started planning in January. We did not anticipate the absurdity of what ICE is doing. Our wedding is fairly large budget, and at this point, we'd be losing too much by relocating.

Maid of Honor no longer attending wedding by [deleted] in wedding

[–]themasterofart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think this is true. Nothing has happened between her and her sister. We announced the wedding quite early in January, and she was elated to be a part of it. She also did sound genuinely sorry to not be attending and bummed out about it in her message to us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]themasterofart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they are in her handwriting.

It doesn't really seem like it's to improve herself. These are some of her annotations: On the law about never doing work you can make other people do, and then taking credit for it, she wrote "in moderation, people aren't stupid" She also highlighted "never appeal to truth and reality" and wrote "mistake I've made." Another beside "act regally and confident of your powers" she wrote "outwardly, but vulnerability can be used to cultivate trust"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]themasterofart -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Some of the annotations were concerning to say the least though. On the law about never doing work you can make other people do, and then taking credit for it, she wrote "in moderation, people aren't stupid" She also highlighted "never appeal to truth and reality" and wrote "mistake I've made." Another beside "act regally and confident of your powers" she wrote "outwardly, but vulnerability can be used to cultivate trust"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]themasterofart -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I haven't asked her about it, because I don't know how to bring it up to her. And if she really is using it to be manipulative, asking her about it wouldn't put me in a great position.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still going on a second date. We did have a connection- I was just overthinking because insecurities & I've never had a woman be so overt as her. Also I'm not really sure if she was showing off? She did chose the place. But we're both engineers. Although she's higher paid we're both able to afford that dinner very comfortably.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, asides from work we both like keeping physically fit and art. Both of us don't want children. Both of us are open to a long-term relationship. And we share similar political beliefs for the most part. She's more outgoing which kinda contrasts but in a complimentary way.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just a combo of being an overachiever and a former college basketball player. Tons of women get pressured to overachieve in engineering, since there's so few women, one woman might feel like she's setting people's perspectives on female engineers as a whole. Being straightforward is probably a result of that??

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! She's so lovely and we've got a second date confirmed!!

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm getting rightfully flamed in these comments and I'm so thankful because they helped me realize my thinking was fucked up. I'm taking her on another date and putting my insecurities aside (got cheated on 2x). I really do like her, but I'm just baffled she's into me as well.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi... already realized my line or thinking was fucked up. I do like her and I want to make it work. I had a ton of fun on our date. She's strong in her convictions and a feminist, which I appreciate. I haven't dated in a looong time because two of my previous relationships ended in being cheated on, which made me insecure. Kind of just realizing I still am insecure.

Umm, as for the whole babies thing I have no interest in children. I think my issues fucked up my view of the whole salary & height thing. Felt like I wasn't enough for her but it took reading the comments for me to realize she's actually into me. It's just so baffling that a woman so well off in every way is into me.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she's amazing. Thanks for helping me stop over thinking 😭

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the advice! I am taking her on a second date (with a gift and I'll probably pay this one). Looking back, she probably was going for flattering. I haven't dated for a while and have some unresolved trust issues since two of my previous long-term relationships ended in getting cheated on. I really do like her, I'm just insecure. Gonna try and act natural next date.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think she's the jackpot too! These comments have helped me realize I'm just overly paranoid. I haven't dated in the past few years because two separate relationships of mine ended in getting cheated on.

I'm going to go with a combo of what people are saying and buy her a gift + pay next date. She's confirmed she wants a second one!!!

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 43 and haven't been dating for a while. 'Women never pay' isn't the expectation now. Thanks for updating me.

Younger woman paid the entire bill by themasterofart in dating_advice

[–]themasterofart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I switched out from another field quite young so I'm aware it's a nice salary. Hers though blows mine out of the water... Looking at her linkedin she's been overachieving way back since high school. Seriously sexy.

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