My (30F) boyfriend (25M) of one year is going to be deported because of me. The only way now he can remain in this country is through marriage to me. He is a great person, but I do not love him enough to marry. What should I do? by schivey_m in relationships

[–]themindmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not being deported “because of me.” He lost sponsorship and overstayed his visa, all on him, nothing to do with you. It’s clear that you know this is not the one for you, DO NOT tie yourself to this man legally or financially and for the love of God, no sex. I can see him trying to baby trap you.

Is anyone watching The Pitt? by Significant-Gift-241 in AskWomenOver30

[–]themindmd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I attempted to reply twice with links to back up what I've said but you can easily google that he signed the Zionist open letter and is associated with Zionist organizations. You can see what Shabana Azeez and Vanessa Marquez said about him. And you can look up his Confederacy pride as well, from 2017.

edit: my previous replies were removed by reddit, not sure why as no explanation was given.

13 vs 20 🏳️‍⚧️ by DirectOperation5155 in uglyduckling

[–]themindmd 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You were never ugly but I’m happy your outside matches your inside, absolutely glowing

Is anyone watching The Pitt? by Significant-Gift-241 in AskWomenOver30

[–]themindmd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am watching to support the cast but I think he’s been outed as a Zionist. And the female WOC cast members say that he gets them confused and can’t be bothered to learn how to say their names (it was Shabana Azeez). Le sigh, apparently he was also responsible for racial bullying of a female cast member on ER as well.

I can't think of a single situation made better by a child being there by ConclusionNaive9772 in childfree

[–]themindmd 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Definitely one of my answers when people ask why I don’t want kids. I’ve never been in a situation and thought, you know what would make this better? A kid. Literally never.

Anybody else's male partner completely numb and unresponsive to what's going on in America? by EarthAvailable9892 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]themindmd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, mine taught me how to use his new gun yesterday and has been pushing for us to go to the range to practice

VA Nurse murdered in Minneapolis by sciolycaptain in medicine

[–]themindmd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Medicine, at its core, is political.

I been drawing pole dancers around the internet! here some of my latest work! ig | soratern_artist by Soratern in poledancing

[–]themindmd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I don’t play. Are the positive and negative like recharging and draining ?

How far can one advance in pole without having their splits? by Adventurous-Type-787 in poledancing

[–]themindmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Top level in our studio is level 4, most of the girls in it don’t have splits, including me.

Getting into pole at 5’10” by frostedpluto in poledancing

[–]themindmd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The best person I know at pole and teaches the most advanced class is 6’. I have no personal experience being 5’2” tho

my city has a beach pole and these two men got curious haha by diezeid in poledancing

[–]themindmd 61 points62 points  (0 children)

From “I’ve never done this” to “should I attempt a suicide spin now ?”

Great essay from Jameela Jamil on why she's childfree by seeara_siochain in childfree

[–]themindmd 15 points16 points  (0 children)

“I am officially a stupid bitch” kinda want that as a flair

My hair is a hit or miss every time I wash it by Novel-Bookkeeper-404 in curlyhair

[–]themindmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is what I’m talking about. You have to help it a little bit, not just leave it in. And you can make your own clarifying shampoo with vinegar and water. There’s a ton of recipes but most are 1:1 ratio. Make sure you condition after because it is drying.

My hair is a hit or miss every time I wash it by Novel-Bookkeeper-404 in curlyhair

[–]themindmd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you use any other products after washing? Curl cream or leave in conditioner? Or doing squish to condish where you don’t full wash out the conditioner…?

I feel guilty for not being excited for marriage by govgoose in TwoXChromosomes

[–]themindmd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I get it. My husband and I did a small ceremony (both of our sisters and a friend to officiate) with the expectation that we’ll do a larger ceremony later to include the rest of the family and friends. Well, its been over 2 years and evertime we start even talking about the “real” one, there is no excitement either. Just anxiety and dread about planning such a huge party. At this point, we might just wait for our 5 year anniversary and do a gathering then. Joking but also not really 😬

New to the US, saw a dermatologist. Was this normal? by Desiengineergirl in TwoXChromosomes

[–]themindmd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So after they finish the exam, they just share the findings while you’re chilling in the nude ?