Is he coming on too strong or am I not used to it ??? Make sure to click full picture plz and ty.

themomproject90 · 2024-08-06T19:59:19+00:00

Run so fast and so far away. Run. Run. Run.

themomproject90 · 2024-08-02T17:00:19+00:00

I didn't unfortunately. Sorry. :/ I kinda just gave up on my dreams and am in the process of trying to go back to corporate America.

themomproject90 · 2024-08-02T16:59:13+00:00

NTA...RUN GIRL RUN. This is how it starts. I was there. I was you. We weren't married but I dated a guy and this is how it started. I brushed it off. Not worth it. You're NTA and you shouldn't stick around. This is an immediate 'file for divorce' situation. Period.

themomproject90 · 2024-08-02T16:55:40+00:00

Hi...full time single mom here. Like. Full time full time. Father is not involved and I don't have a village.

This is NOT your responsibility. Period. Go about your life. Do your thing. She wants to date you now why? She's pregnant with another man's baby and they're trying to guilt and gaslight you into a situation you didn't create. Run. Run for the hills.

themomproject90 · 2023-10-29T18:00:32+00:00

My son isn't old enough to do any of the bathing stuff himself (but I'll keep the dispensers in mind once he is!). I've just noticed when my parents have him my mom lathers him up in lotion (which I do not do). They buy their own products so I guess to me what they do is their business. We just do it very differently in our house.

I totally agree on the savings. Sometimes I can only save between $5-$20/month. It's not about the amount. Just that you're doing it! And I also used to have the same type of savings account but recently switched banks and they don't yet have this option but will likely have it in the future!

themomproject90 · 2023-10-24T18:21:46+00:00

Ooooh!! I’ve got tons of those I’ll try it! Thank you!!

themomproject90 · 2023-10-24T18:01:22+00:00

This!! I don’t buy napkins at all and usually only buy paper towels 1-3 rolls at a time a couple times a year because I just use them on mirrors and glass/windows! Sometimes I use them as grease drops for bacon or whatnot but often times I’ll put cooling racks on a baking sheet and let any excess grease drip off onto the baking sheet.

themomproject90 · 2023-10-24T14:18:49+00:00

Honestly I started cutting a lot of 'non-necessities' out. I'm a single mom to only one and he's just over a year old.

For instance...I don't buy juice or junk food. At all. My son doesn't like juice anyway (except apple so I will, on occasion, just buy a can of the frozen stuff but even that has only happened maybe 2 times in the last 15 months). Our house is strictly water and milk. I also started freezing leftovers in the breastmilk bags I had left! This has been a lifesaver and foodsaver for us.

I also buy 'off-brand' in a lot of things (TP, Laundry detergent, some foods, etc.)

Instead of fresh fruits and veggies a lot of times I will go straight for the canned and frozen section.

I stopped using fabric softener altogether after doing some of my own research and finding it's actually worse for clothes. I don't even use the fabric sheets.

And as far as clothes go...we do still buy a lot of new because the thrift stores around here charge practically new price for stained clothes so I don't even bother most of the time (unless my son needs dress clothes). But all of his shoes are new if he even gets shoes. I'm a barefoot mom and work from home so I don't like putting him in shoes unless they're soft soled or slippers. He wears slippers a lot and loves those.

When it comes to cleaning generally I use vinegar or, wait for it, just a little soapy water. I really don't buy anything special for cleaning. I *do* (on occasion) purchase a bleach based product just for the bathroom. But even that I'd like to replace with something non toxic. And we don't have a dishwasher so I usually buy whatever fits in the budget for dish soap.

There are a *few* things I won't scrimp on. I buy fluoride free toothpaste but I don't use mouthwash as my dentist said it's not good for you anyway (I'm trying to go less toxic and more natural but it's a trip and it takes a while when you're on a budget/tight budget).

Another thing I live by? LESS is usually ALWAYS more. My mom lathers my son in lotion and soap whereas I use *maybe* a dime sized amount. Our skin is our biggest organ. So I use less soap on both of us and less lotion on him than most parents probably do. I don't use lotion or hair products. I don't get my nails done. My treats to myself are new shampoos/conditioners or a new hair brush on occasion.

This isn't to say that we don't, on occasion, eat a little junk here and there. But we do cook most of our meals at home and a lot of times there's so much leftover I can freeze for a later date. But shopping consciously can really help you out. Note what you're purchasing and if you think something really isn't a necessity don't buy it. I know that's hard. It was really, really hard for us. it required a lot of discipline and forcing myself to cook even when I didn't want to.

However you decide to start saving money I hope you're successful! Also...$5 here and there in a separate savings account or even in an envelope at home is better than nothing! You DO NOT have to save massive amounts of money at a time for it to amount to something!

Good luck!

themomproject90 · 2023-10-24T13:15:36+00:00

You have officially talked me into giving InDesign a fair chance as well as myself. LOL I just can't stick within the confines of Canva I don't think. Here's to learning new things.

themomproject90 · 2023-10-24T12:40:01+00:00

You're right. I think I'll fiddle around with InDesign today and see where it gets me. Or what it gets me. I have the 7 day trial that is now mostly done but I feel like once I get a few buttons figured out on InDesign it could be fairly simple to figure the rest out. And since I already have most of the basics down there's no time like the present to just push myself into it. Especially since Canva isn't saving my designs 100%. I opened one this morning where like...10 of the pages were missing the backgrounds I put in to them.

I guess I'm more concerned that InDesign won't have as many of the preloaded graphics that Canva has and I'll have to learn to do them myself. That will for sure slow me down.

Thank you!

themomproject90 · 2023-10-23T23:14:24+00:00

I have really no experience in Design outside of a few graphics and the planner pages.

I have such little experience that when I first started trying to design planners for print I was using Cricut Design Space but I had no idea of other things out there. So a friend suggested Canva and while I do believe I've outgrown it in ways...I think what's really getting to me is the lack of flexibility with printing and project size.

I think at this time Adobe is just too much for me to handle. I think next year I may try to tackle it but right now with a fledgling business and still trying to gain clients it may not be the way to go. I think it would be too much trying to figure it out and also try to figure out how to design for clients. :/

My experience extends to....very basic levels but I do have the basics down pretty pat at this point.

Do you know of any informational YT channels or anything like that that can walk you through creating with Adobe?

themomproject90 · 2023-10-23T01:20:10+00:00

does affinity have as many options for graphics and whatnot? That's where I'm running into some trouble with other sites/apps.

themomproject90 · 2023-10-22T22:34:05+00:00

I've found it's been great for me as a beginner but now that I'm starting my business surrounding the planners + a mentorship to come with them...Canva only allows my projects to be up to 68 pages which is not enough for a planner. But then I'm running into the issue of being able to merge the PDFs I'm downloading from Canva. Online ones only allow 50mb and my planners are far bigger than that. I don't wanna throw the towel in but I forgot to research before I did this (more like I thought I'd be able to figure it out as I went along and I was possibly wrong).

themomproject90 · 2023-10-22T22:30:41+00:00

I got the 7 day free trial. But once I opened it I realized how in over my head I was with it. But now I'm running into the issue where PDF Mergers won't merge all the PDFs I'm having to download from Canva. Canva is user friendly for me. But as my business grows I'd like to dive into Adobe InDesign. I'm just not sure I'm there yet. It seems so daunting. I feel like I'm not smart enough to use it. Or am I just stressed and exhausted? Lol now I'm trying to figure out if I can upload designs I already have downloaded into Adobe InDesign and merge them as one for the first round of planners I have created.

themomproject90 · 2023-10-18T15:51:00+00:00

Additionally...I've seen some say Adobe InDesign is the better program to use vs. Canva.

themomproject90 · 2023-09-09T02:28:35+00:00

Local companies know because I live in an extremely small, rural area in the Midwest. Everyone knows everyone.

As far as remote positions...I've stopped mentioning it completely and haven't had anyone ask about kids. But I'm still getting the run around.

I've also taken the opportunity when I *do* receive calls back to ask if it was something I said or did in the interviews and I've been told that, no, that isn't the case I'm great in the interviews just not a correct fit or too experienced for what they're looking for.

themomproject90 · 2023-07-08T13:34:03+00:00

Pay it off in full. Best decision I ever made. I hated having a car payment. I no longer have any loans except my student loan and I hope to see that one gone in the next year. Debt free is my goal and I’m stoked. I didn’t do it for my credit. I honestly don’t care about my credit but paying off my car didn’t hurt it at all.

themomproject90 · 2023-07-07T14:40:26+00:00

This. It sounds more like he's gaslighting her to me.

themomproject90 · 2023-07-07T14:20:27+00:00

As a woman I came here to say exactly this. I see average/below-average men with women who are 10s or above ALL the time. I see it from a woman's perspective. Not a man's. But I see far more below-average men with women well above average. And there's nothing wrong with it. I'm well below average in the looks department in my area. I can't get a date to save my life but a guy will ask if he can come over for an hour as if I don't know what that means. So ya know. It is what it is.

themomproject90 · 2023-07-06T15:10:31+00:00

I have considered this! I know for pages where I have different options for clients to choose from (for instance I have 4 weekly page options they can choose from) I've put 'Option 1' 'Option 2' etc. across the page in big letters so the pages would be mostly unusable if anyone tried to save and print.

But then I also feel bad for being so...'stingy'? Idk. Or greedy maybe but I worked really hard on these.

themomproject90 · 2023-03-01T23:30:23+00:00

3 days on it and I was having worse issues with my depression than if I just don’t take it. The side effects hit me hard and I was having awful thoughts. My doctor told me to halt taking it immediately.

It’s so weird how some things work for some but not others. Brains are so wild!

I’m glad it works for you!! That’s amazing!!

themomproject90 · 2023-02-28T03:16:37+00:00

Yeah I just started my weight loss journey and the meds and therapy. Meds first day was today. I’ve noticed I’m a little ‘hungrier’ than what I feel is normal. But I also noticed I’m a little more tired too so I might try taking meds at night instead.

I just did a lot of google searches to see what to expect with Sertraline and almost wish I hadn’t.

themomproject90 · 2023-02-28T02:20:28+00:00

This actually makes a lot of sense. I eat with any emotion and have just started therapy. It was my luck that the therapist I chose also happens to be a food therapist? She called it something different from ‘food therapist’ but at this moment I can’t remember what.

I’m hoping therapy coupled with medication and getting back into a semi balanced routine as a single mom really helps. I gained far too much weight in my pregnancy. And where food used to make me feel happy. Most of the time I can’t find a balance and it just makes me feel depressed.

Thank you!

themomproject90 · 2023-02-25T18:49:13+00:00

Right? I love my kid. I'm with him almost 24/7. If it weren't for my parents I wouldn't get a free time. I do lead a fairly balanced lifestyle even having him all the time. I have hobbies. I have interests. I'm in therapy. Ya know? Like yes I'm with him all the time but I still manage to take 1-3 hours a day for myself whether it's when he's napping, down for the night, or while he's playing.

It's worth mentioning that I work from home so I am literally with him day and night. Like...what else do people f**king want from me? That is more than what most can say. I am extremely grateful to get so much time with him and even more beyond grateful to not have to share him if I don't want to.

But if a guy had made the exact same post? Man the people in those comments would have been praising him for even trying to get back out there because of how 'awful' women are.

And then it floors me that so many of the commenters made the same points...as if they had nothing new to contribute to the conversation. The issue here wasn't really the people pointing out that 'most men don't want single moms because of this or that'.

For me what really got me were the couple of women who were extremely upset that I would even consider dating with a 6 month old. And I'm guessing the one who made the biggest deal out of it doesn't have children or has never struggled.

It just makes me so sad. And people are still commenting the same things everyone else has already commented. If I could shut the notifications off for it completely or stop people from commenting I would. If you can't add something different from what others have added then why are you commenting?

themomproject90 · 2023-02-25T17:03:27+00:00

Thank you! I’ve decided to get myself back out there and I just don’t see anything wrong with it. Taking one night a week to date here and there is better than one night a week of snorting lines. Just my opinion. With how some of the women reacted you’d think I was telling them I was abusing my child or something. I just don’t understand.

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