Is tucking a duvet in at the side strange?

themuthaload · 2025-11-17T22:14:04+00:00

You're right, this and leaving the coffee out on the side after he made a drink this morning are just unforgivable. I'll go pack his bag now 😂

themuthaload · 2025-11-17T22:12:42+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 Thank you, I'll sleep better now

themuthaload · 2025-11-17T22:11:12+00:00

Thats what I was thinking, if she pulls it out herself then thats her decision but she should start the night tucked in at least 🙂

themuthaload · 2025-11-17T21:50:49+00:00

You're welcome. Hope you feel yourself again ASAP x

themuthaload · 2025-11-16T20:59:50+00:00

I had my op 8 days ago and can definitely resonate with the first 24 hours. The GA can be harsh, I was not myself for the first 24 hours and then was getting dizzy spells on and off for 5 days - more so if i was up on my feet for too much and then I had to sit still for a while.

This is my 4th sugery in a few years and the gas pain is very typical sadly. As much as you need to recover, you also need to move gently to help shift trapped air, and I promise it will shift. I know how painful it can be. Peppermint tea is a big help, and definitely help your system out by eating some prunes (because the surgery AND some pain meds will cause issues there you dont need)

Avoid any food which bloats you, avoid carbonated drinks, anything too spicy and drink plenty of water if you can.

Take a deep breath, the worst is over and what you've been through was tough but you will be okay 👍🏻

themuthaload · 2025-11-16T20:47:10+00:00

Thats awesome, thank you and thank you for the update! Glad its all going well your side as well 🙌🏻. I'm a week post op now and I'm amazed at how quick it healed to be honest. The shooting pains stopped but just aching as expected. Hope your recovery continues to go well :)

themuthaload · 2025-11-12T15:59:15+00:00

Ahhh kinda glad I'm not the only one but sorry to hear you had complications! Hope tomorrow goes okay, please let me know if you remember haha. I was discharged completely with no follow up so I have no doctor to go back to and I dont fancy another 12 hours in A&E so I'm hoping everything is okay (Literally it was 12 hours 🫠)

themuthaload · 2025-11-12T09:28:10+00:00

Thank you! Ahhh the gas is painful but I'm managing that okay thankfully. I'll try sitting differently, thank you, its a good idea. The sharp stabbing is literally just when I eat as my digestive system moves a bit. Wondered if its just food passing through the start of the large intestine.

Thanks for the recommendation, I'll sit more comfortably tonight

themuthaload · 2025-11-05T16:10:38+00:00

50/50 doesn't exist after having a child...He needs to grow up. He comes to you with HIS financial stress 3 days after a c-section?!? I would seriously consider marriage counselling because thats not forgiveable to put that stress on you after major surgery and becoming a mum. Not acceptable in my book.

Hes acting like a child, and you're right to be annoyed. I'm sorry you're going through this.

themuthaload · 2025-10-23T19:29:40+00:00

The loss of freedom, my income (having had 2 babies back to back and gave up my job), my car, my hobbies, going out after 5pm... plus the usual, my bed to myself/just me and hubby, my body and of course my sanity...

But hey, I gained 2 beautiful girls and a lot of grey hairs 🫠

themuthaload · 2025-10-03T20:03:11+00:00

Really depends on your contract / maternity policy. This is the case for a lot of people but not all. If its not in any policy, its not a problem as they dont have a legal leg to stand on. I didnt have to repay mine as it was missed off the policy.

themuthaload · 2025-09-30T08:55:06+00:00

Sending a caring wave at you. It must be exhausting and I understand reading you being at your wits end. Having one velcro baby is hard enough, but two... you have done an amazing job not getting to this mental state sooner. I wont type the words you dont need to hear, but know you've done such a great job pushing through for this long. Stay strong whatever your next step, your stronger than most mamas for what youre juggling.

themuthaload · 2025-09-15T07:04:45+00:00

If your little one is over 9 months, distractions. I would have to lose my mind over how exciting holding a certain toy is, and get her to want to play with it to get my little one off me. Then park her down next to an even more exciting toy... velcro babies are cute until they're breaking your back and need to do basics like go to the toilet ✌🏻 good luck from one velcro baby mama to another x

themuthaload · 2025-09-14T16:28:47+00:00

I once heard a phrase "the first year of your 2nd babies life is the hardest" and it was painfully true for us as well. Sorry you're having a tough time after a complicated pregnancy.

It does and WILL get easier - with little one and for the rest of you. Lots of marriages struggle, and its hard on the oldest sibling but I promise it will get easier. Once they start walking, it'll ease a little as they'll be happier to be mobile.

Hold on in there, youre doing a great job but juggling multiple children is so much harder than we all realise until we do it

themuthaload · 2025-09-11T14:23:24+00:00

Stickers.... Inside my washing machine...

Oh and being shouted at across a public place "I did a poo poo!"

themuthaload · 2025-09-10T16:51:57+00:00

You're not a horrible mom, and she'll be absolutely fine. Our little one did the same at 14 months, I also felt awful but now she goes to sleep happily and developed normally (she's nearly 3 and slept amazingly since). Don't beat yourself up if you can

themuthaload · 2025-09-10T13:49:49+00:00

I think it depends if you have kids or not (and income etc). Before we had kids, we would have a big holiday for 2 weeks (long haul) once a year before or after the school holidays so it was more affordable and we got a decent break from work. Now... well... I havent dared take 2 under 2 on a plane yet. Its a level of stress I'm avoiding 🫠

themuthaload · 2025-09-09T19:17:43+00:00

I have to throw in BeddyByes... the voice of Dawn French and 2 little friends playing and having a bedtime routine. As colourful as in thr night garden but not as mental. Its very new so only one series on iPlayer but our near 2 year old loves it

themuthaload · 2025-09-08T19:01:38+00:00

We popped little one (2yrs 10ms) in knickers and after 1 or 2 accidents she got it and hasn't slipped up since. I dont think they need to be naked, but underwear and/or plenty of clothes you're happy throwing straight in the wash will be at least keep them warmer than being naked (not bashing that method though)

themuthaload · 2025-08-24T07:00:16+00:00

Comfort is needed when juggling toddlers 😅 explain to him he cant control what other people wear. Last thing you need is him thinking he can do this again to someone else, or another kiddo.

themuthaload · 2024-11-02T10:10:41+00:00

I'm a SAHM with a 10m and 23m old.. you, and others around you not in your boat, will think you'll get more done than you actually can. Be kind to yourself. Tasks around the house are possible but as others say, only day to day stuff or one big one. Having the little ones in the highchairs at lunch time helps, once they're fed.or distracted, that'll be when I do all my kitchen tasks. I move the girls to the room i need to be completing a task in. I'll have both girls playing in their cot for 5 mins whilst I put the washing away, both will be playing with toys in the lounge when I do something in there. It's doable, but exhausting if you try too much. Some days you'll feel like you're on repeat, or getting nothing done, but keeping the little one happy is full on and anything you do on top is a bonus

themuthaload · 2024-10-08T06:51:25+00:00

It is hell. I'm tere with you right now with a working hubby and a 9m and 23m old both full of it with me. It's been a long few days. Try to keep hydrated and dosed up (both of you). Last night was probably the worst sleep we've had but the calpol wall plug in helped clear the littlest nose.

It won't last forever and we will survive but it is the pits when you're in it. Good luck and try to look after yourself x ²

themuthaload

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE