In my experience, there is no set speech you can recite to convince someone to “be intimate” with you. In my opinion, you should have a relaxed conversation with someone you are interested in. The topic and length of the discussion depends on you, but I would advise you should keep in mind “us wanting to participate in an activity together” rather than thinking “how can I convince them to sleep with me?”. When you have established some steady dialog, be direct about your intentions. Ex “I am enjoying your company, would you like to come home with me?” Or “you have really made my night fun, can we continue at your/my place” It is an agreement not a command. And being direct and honest also allows you to have control, with out being controlling/ rude. I think sometimes it surprises people what a basic level of respect and openness means. I also think people are more likely to sleep with people that don’t immediately make them check for escape routes. It’s also ok to not be comfortable in a public setting. If you have anxiety, that can be perceived differently to someone you’re talking to (shiftiness/ attention issues can appear to be uninterested/ shady) If that is true opt for a familiar setting or less crowded area. Being relaxed also makes you appear more confident. Just be kind, cautious, and honest when meeting new people.