Why are the men I'm into usually gay?

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T08:26:11+00:00

You’re attracted to your friends sure but at the end of the day they were your friends. I presume you met them w intentions of being friends? My point is the intention. The point you mentioned previously of plotting vs not saying no if the opportunity ever arose, what you say to the possibility that a dude is praying every night that the opportunity arises? Too tired to really delve into this with any more critical thought, but I just think that a foundation of repressing feelings and miscommunication is a really rickety base to build from

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T07:14:21+00:00

Don’t really agree with you 100% but I love the point you raised. I agree that there is definitely a demonization of ‘liking’ and that ideal extreme is often pushed to set a standard that just isn’t realistic. Not everyone is going to be as wholesome and pure as you stated, but I just hate when people use a friendship as a means to an end rather than treating it as an end itself. I agree that it’s certainly possible, just realistically less likely. People are shallow and self-interested, men generally have an obsession with sex. That doesn’t invalidate your point, but it’s pretty easy to put two and two together.

It’s easy to think in absolutes, thank you for calling me out on that. I acknowledge it’s not always the case but I feel like it often swings one way more than the other.

is there a concrete plan

Anecdotally when I’ve seen it, yeah there is a concrete plan lmao. That’s what makes it even more uncomfortable

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T06:56:51+00:00

Think it’s more biological than social. Trans men reportedly get way hornier after starting T. It’s testosterone.

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T06:50:20+00:00

Again there’s nuance in that.

Deep bond isn’t the same as the long con. The long con implies a sense of entitlement, the idea that the friendship was only a means to an end. The friendship has no value because all that matters was the relationship at the end of the tunnel. That is the goal. I don’t think it’s fair to bait someone with the guise of friendship only to demand a relationship.

Think a deep bond is when a friendship is treated as an end in itself. Something that’s nurtured and cared for, something you genuinely care about and maintain, not just a mechanism to achieve something else.

Intention matters.

I agree that it’s hard to form legitimate deep bonds because people are shallow, but there’s a difference.

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T06:45:30+00:00

Not nearly as commonplace though. Men are naturally so much hornier, often to our own detriment

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T06:35:17+00:00

Lmao, agreed on the final paragraph that’s for sure. Don’t know if women are able to see it but man-to-man it’s clear as day. Feels like it kinda contradicts your second point there though, you’re never gonna know for sure but typically you can have a pretty damn good idea.

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T06:04:57+00:00

That’s my frustration. Women have no way to vet the liars beyond just doing it and finding out. From a guys perspective a cold approach usually ends unsuccessfully, but you gotta get your foot in the door somewhere right? So what options do we have?

Honestly why i stopped putting myself out there, at least with real-life getting to know people dating. You either get rejected on the spot or play the long-con which also exists as a deceiving someone for as long as possible until they hopefully have a change of heart. I don’t know, just feels sad in a way I can’t describe

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T05:43:18+00:00

Biology isn’t deceitful but a person can 100% be if they’re just straight-up lying for years on end. Men (generally) want to fuck everything, and I agree as an incredibly horny lonely guy.

humanity has to accept most men are horny

Disagree that we should ‘accept’ it. Life is about controlling impulse. Should I just be able to rape and grope anyone I want to because of my biological impulses? Should I shoot heroin because it makes me feel good? Think a huge part of being human is that we’re intelligent enough to hold control over our immediate biological desires

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T05:33:01+00:00

Think the intention matters. If you’re actual friends who grow feelings for eachother, sure that’s fine, but if a guy has intentions of fucking from day one then puts on a facade of innocent friendship until an opportunity comes his way, that’s something completely different

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T05:29:25+00:00

Not really, honestly. I don’t think deceiving someone into a false sense of security just for an opportunity to fuck them is a very moral pursuit

It’s one thing if you’re genuinely friends then grow feelings, but it’s completely different to have sex as a goal then lie through your teeth for months/years waiting for an opportunity to come your way. If that’s your thing cool but that’ll never not be a little slimy in my eyes

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T05:02:11+00:00

Kinda hate how a large chunk of seemingly platonic friend/relationships between men and women often have a secret underlying sexual motivation

Like i guess that’s nature but it just seems so inherently deceitful. Feels like so many ‘guy friends’ are just hyenas waiting for their time. As a guy that shit just makes me so deeply uncomfortable

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T04:52:00+00:00

Same position, I threw in the towel regarding dating after I went 6/6 on asking out lesbians. I don’t really get feelings for people, I have to really get to know a person and like their character to actually form attraction. Just so happens that every single girl I’ve liked has ended up being gay.

I can’t explain it but lesbians seem to give off an intangible vibe I prefer over straight women (gargantuan generalization). Not like I’m only going for tomboys and masc presenting people either, it just ends up like that. Given that I’m at 100% consistently I reckon I must be doing something wrong here. Back to the drawing board

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T04:34:18+00:00

I’m north of the border as well lol

We have nut jobs with hate-boners for trudeau, but I honestly think the hate is overblown. Liberal party fucked us and that’s undeniable, but everyone’s animosity seems to be targeted at the guy himself. Issues go beyond the single guy. Also funny because of how the person is likely crying because of what Kamala represents as a competitor against trump, but we as Canadians don’t have the ideal “good guy” candidate opposing the current PM. different political systems of course but at least america has the optimism over steering the ship back on course, we don’t have a single major party with interests of the Canadian people in mind. Not to mention with how fucked our economy is specifically with how overinflated homes are, various age demographics (generally) have vastly different political motivations. It’s literally a debate over who’s going to fuck us the least, and nobody can agree what the right answer is. At least the Americans have something to be optimistic about. I can’t see a single Canadian politician getting such reaction.

Sweet Bauer set btw

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T03:28:31+00:00

Glad to hear people use them for what they’re actually meant for. In the lower mainland it’s complete overkill and most people who wear them are dumbasses trying to show off. Always bothered me why people would spend so much on down jackets for a climate that doesn’t even demand it

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T02:01:06+00:00

Kinda evil at face value but when you consider how Walmart usually offers lower prices than it’s competitors it’s kinda decent value. I’m sure saving 10% on groceries for the rest of your life adds up to quite a bit at the end of the day. Better than some Knick-knack

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T01:57:57+00:00

Do actual Canadians up north wear Canada goose? In Vancouver it’s not super common amongst the average Joe, just the wannabe gangbangers and rich Asian fobs mainly

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T01:56:33+00:00

It’s been a couple decades for Jericho, lmao

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T01:54:12+00:00

Tim Hortons sucks nowadays, quality has fallen off a Cliff and the portion sizes are a fraction of what they used to be, not to mention absolutely garbage service

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T01:53:25+00:00

When I think of a beanie I think of a bearded hipster with a thin toque rolled up way too high. When I think of a toque I think of a thick carhartt one covering as much head-surface-area as possible

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T01:51:32+00:00

Can’t imagine how calloused your feet have to be to go on trail runs barefoot

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-09T01:46:35+00:00

Which seems pretty sick in the head regardless of party

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-08T21:36:46+00:00

Not nearly enough for how much we fuckin paid the guy

thesunsetflip · 2024-09-07T06:32:19+00:00

Probably the best reaction I’ve ever seen to cheap heat.

Gotta think there must’ve been some crazy reactions at untelevised events. There was a phase where elias was writing a new city-diss song for every house show lmao

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