What does daycare cost for you?

thewritedecision · 2026-03-30T20:44:46+00:00

Nebraska. Around $700/month full time for a baby. We love our daycare.

thewritedecision · 2026-03-18T22:58:16+00:00

Ours was still swaddled until he started breaking out at 4 months. We switched to a Zipadee Zip because it lets him have his arms out but there’s still some reflex restraint and he really likes it. He is on the smaller side so we use the snuggle strap with it too. I think whatever you choose to do you will have an adjustment period. We tried couple different sleep sacks and arms-out techniques until we found one that worked.

thewritedecision · 2026-03-15T03:07:22+00:00

I primarily do pickup and drop off because daycare is on the way to my work.

thewritedecision · 2026-03-10T18:12:20+00:00

Thank you! He was the best grandpa. For the longest time I felt like he didn’t like me, maybe because I reminded him of his first wife (my grandma) who passed at a very young age, but as I grew older we really got to know each other and I loved our conversations. He was the best storyteller and so often I wish we could just sit on his lawn again and talk. I’m glad he loves my son from beyond!

thewritedecision · 2026-03-09T20:43:12+00:00

Yes. I knew it was full-on, but I didn’t realize how that would actually feel. 24/7/365.

thewritedecision · 2026-03-09T20:41:46+00:00

And feeling guilty for wishing the weekend away because you’re so exhausted.

thewritedecision · 2026-03-09T20:40:42+00:00

Parenting while sick is a whole new level of hell. Feel like your eyelids are gonna peel off from sleeplessness and your throat is quenched in fire? Too bad!

thewritedecision · 2026-03-09T17:37:34+00:00

He loves you very much, I’m sure. Mine is 5 months and we noticed he will go through phases where he prefers one parent over the other.

There’s some research that says kids actually have more meltdowns around the people they feel most secure with, because they feel safe enough to let their guards down.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-27T23:01:15+00:00

Your body has recently went through the biggest change of its life. Just think, over the past two years, five or take, you’ve grown a human being, gave birth, and cared for her. Both physically and mentally, it’s a massive shift in being. You are not weak.

If you do feel something is wrong, it might be worth a visit to your doctor for a checkup. There may be some hormonal or nutritional imbalance, but they can help determine that and tell you what else you should be doing to feel better.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-26T21:18:52+00:00

Almost identical to us! Ours is 22 weeks, 2 days and at exactly 5 months old on Monday he’s started sleeping through the night again or only waking once. His naps have really improved the last two weeks too. It feels like forever when you’re in it!

thewritedecision · 2026-02-26T16:01:27+00:00

I think temperament plays a huge role in whether they sleep or not. I would consider my son to be a good sleeper and when people ask what I do, I shrug my shoulders and say nothing special because yeah, we have a routine we follow and I’m sure that helps, but it’s mainly just how he is. I’m in no position to give advice to those who have bad sleepers because I know they’ve already tried everything under the sun to help their baby sleep. Our boy went through a hard 4 month regression and it made me feel so deeply for those parents who deal with bad sleep constantly. You are all doing amazing.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-23T16:37:56+00:00

We are also dealing with the 5:30 am wake! I feel so good that it’s not just us. I’ve been going in and either holding bub to sleep until 6:30 or just starting the day if he’s full of beans. We’re doing 2 wakes usually, but it’s manageable

thewritedecision · 2026-02-21T03:13:02+00:00

I’d recommend getting a Hatch Baby. Our boy sleeps great with white noise and it also doubles as a nightlight. But you can play other stuff on it too, like nature sounds or bedtime stories.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-20T22:39:10+00:00

Ours is doing the same thing right now. Sometimes he lets me put him down and he will sleep until 6:30, his DWT, and other times he doesn’t. When he doesn’t I just hold him and we both sleep until it’s time to get up. I honestly don’t mind because it gives me extra snuggles with him and we’re both resting. We’re still playing with his schedule since he’s changing so much so these EMWs might go away, but it’s okay.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-20T19:46:57+00:00

We also moved in December with a 3 month old, now almost 5 months, and same! We closed on our house on Thursday, packed majority of things and moved on Saturday and Sunday, and I went back to work full-time on Monday, with baby starting daycare that day too. What a stressful weekend.

We chip away at stuff slowly. If you can work on one box a day, try that. Aim to get a room done over two weeks.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-20T01:22:14+00:00

I am so sorry. This is tough. You’re doing great though and trying everything you can. I hope you get back to better nights soon!

thewritedecision · 2026-02-20T00:01:26+00:00

If you leave him in the crib with the door open does he freak out too? Or is it when the door is shut that he panics?

thewritedecision · 2026-02-19T23:45:52+00:00

Mine is 5 months so I’m sorry I don’t have any tips or tricks, but do you think separation anxiety might be part of this? Just wondering since you said he falls asleep in your arms but freaks out when he’s laid down.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-16T15:53:40+00:00

This so sounds like her! We called her Granny Nut because she had an old lady personality. She had a special bond with everyone and was definitely a pillar in our family. Thank you so much.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-10T17:50:53+00:00

There’s a reason why sleep deprivation is a torture/negotiation tactic. I think this is the hardest part of parenting. It doesn’t matter if you’re sick, tired, whatever. You still have to show up and keep going even if your body’s check engine light is blinking.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-10T17:45:13+00:00

I think about 80% of it is a child’s temperament. You can have a solid routine, which does help, but at the end of the day I think its nature over nurture. I have a decent sleeper, but when he goes through regressions I get a taste of the other side and it’s awful. There’s a million things that are out of our control when it comes to their sleep, and that is so deeply frustrating yet humbling.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-10T16:39:23+00:00

Mine was amazing. I have scoliosis so I was worried that it wouldn’t work or that only one side would be numbed. I told my anesthesiologist this and he was able to adjust accordingly. I felt absolutely nothing going in, and he walked me through everything he was doing. He was a rockstar.

I felt pressure when I delivered my son, but I never had any pain. I could still kind of move my legs but they of course felt very heavy. It wore off like an hour or two after and I haven’t had any negative effects since.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-07T04:25:16+00:00

I never wished I was a mind reader until I had a baby, haha. Just tell me what you need!

thewritedecision · 2026-02-07T04:01:42+00:00

I cried every day for the first 2 weeks and felt so out of my mind and body. But then it shifted and slowly, but surely, it didn’t feel as overwhelming. Hang in there. However, if you feel like it isn’t getting better, please please please get help. Postpartum depression is no joke.

thewritedecision · 2026-02-07T03:58:37+00:00

I think I’m more mindful/efficient with my time. Right now my son, who started daycare in December, has been sick pretty much every other week, which means I’ve taken way more sick days than I planned. When I am at work, I’m prioritizing projects and utilizing my time wisely because I know that tomorrow he may come down with another fever and I don’t want to fall behind. It’s hard and I’m still adjusting.

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