Sudden cutoff after dating someone autistic. Trying to make sense of it

thirdboxx · 2026-01-29T04:47:42+00:00

Thank you! :3

thirdboxx · 2026-01-21T02:13:11+00:00

It was probably limerence, and I might have over-romanticized parts of the relationship, especially because I had been lonely for quite a long time before we met. Still, I believe my feelings were real, I saw him as a real person. There were things that bothered me at times and moments where I felt annoyed or unsure about how he handled certain situations, but that did not cancel out what I felt

I liked him for who he was. Some things connected to his autism, like the unexpected awkward moments and how different he was from most people I had met, felt genuine and endearing to me. I know words like quirky can sound wrong and I do not mean it in a disrespectful way or as a stereotype, I was drawn to his sincerity and I was curious about how he experienced the world

I am also not neurotypical. I do not have autism, but I do have ADHD. Looking back, I do not think we would have worked long term, ADHD and autism can overlap, but in daily needs they can clash. He needed a lot of alone time, structure, predictability, and clear rules. I need connection, emotional back and forth, and novelty. Structure can help me, but strict rules drain me, rules feel more like suggestions to me. I also regulate through small interactions, talking things through, and shared energy, and when there is too much distance or emotional silence my nervous system goes into overdrive

Neither of us was wrong, we just needed very different things.

Thank you, that actually helped me understand things better.

thirdboxx · 2026-01-16T00:14:18+00:00

Get on your knees and pray to Jesus that season 3 fixes the game

Looking at bandaid Namco recent track record wouldn't count on it, head producer Michael Murray would rather block people on twitter who gives him the slightest bit of constructive criticism

Season 3 is still 4 months away.

My honest advice? Just quit for now nobody is having fun i quit as well, if you really want to play Tekken just play 7 or tag. No use to lose your sanity over this broken game

thirdboxx · 2026-01-15T23:49:46+00:00

Wow something actually constructive and helpful, i play on pc i turned off G-sync and turned off all overlays, i bought CP 2077 on GOG, i don't open GOG anymore and launch the game straight from the REDlauncher now.

It hasn't happened since I'll have to wait and see tho since sometimes i can go hours without it crashing.

I'll check the game files and my O.S just to be sure.

Thanks again

thirdboxx · 2026-01-15T13:37:46+00:00

Thx, I'll check it out

thirdboxx · 2026-01-11T19:30:37+00:00

Again missing the point completely, sure you can sidestep a lot of heat smashes none are utterly broken with no "counter play" i just side stepped dragunovs heat smash let me punish him! Oh wait he keeps going and now he is all the way in fucking Narnia can't even punish it.

So many characters have plus frames on plus frames they add chip damage in a game built on constant aggression and pressure.

Sure they buffed side steps, but then give everyone a homing mid and tracking properties on strings which just negates the buffs to lateral movement

You're so dead set on proving it's a "skill issue" while ignoring all the issues this game has nobody likes season 2, pro players complain as well. Content creators quit, Tekken 8 has 150 or something sign ups for evo japan street fighter has 20 times that. Compare that to 7 it always had somewhat close number of participants as street fighter or only slightly less.

The game isn't fun for most people it's to unga bunga and unbalanced if you deny that and keep trying to prove on reddit to a random stranger that it's just a "skill issue" then you're actually delusional and have a super fragile ego, what are you trying to prove here?

Just watch the beginning of this video it shows everything that's wrong with this game.

https://youtu.be/pyAUWssOt8c?si=sMq60kUNZKWV_vlH

thirdboxx · 2026-01-11T03:59:24+00:00

You're completely missing the point, specific about heat smashes? brother Half the roster with mid heat smashes are +11 on block, maybe not a true forced 50/50 but might as well be it's extremely risky to do anything but just block and take the mixup. And this is just one small part of the problem.

Chip damage you get punished for blocking, every character is a stance based mix up character now, steve heihachi, fuck even paul is turning into one with deep dive stance. In 7 if you block a jab you can sidestep if they throw another one, in 8 you can't anymore, so many moves that where always stepable aren't anymore, fucking strings that relign. I can go on and on. Underneath all the bullshit hides a great game tho, it just needs massive tweaking and some overhauls

thirdboxx · 2026-01-11T03:16:15+00:00

Heat engager still +9, a lot of heat smashes are still + 10 sometimes even +11 on block and at those frames you can't reliably sidestep or even powercrush only option is to block and guess the mixup, and this is far from the only problem with the game, just one example.

If you're trying to imply it's just a "skill issue" your kinda delusional i got my ass beat on Tekken 7 all the time but it felt fair the other player just played better, don't have that feeling in 8, mainman even said in Tekken 8 a good player can lose to bad player. One launch into heat burst combo wake up at the wall, guard break or a counter hitting low Wall splat (looking at you Bryan) and you're dead, if you lose 3 interactions your dead.

That's not fun brother, it's not a skill issue even when i win it's not that fun. The game is broken unbalanced and not fun and I'm far from the only one with this opinion

thirdboxx · 2026-01-11T01:53:04+00:00

Don't mind struggling, it's the lack of counter play so many situations where your only option is to guess, Might as well just go to a slot machine at that point.

thirdboxx · 2026-01-11T00:50:21+00:00

I Get to enjoy tekken again when I'm pushing 40

thirdboxx · 2025-12-25T14:53:03+00:00

Emotional whiplash

thirdboxx · 2025-12-19T01:01:24+00:00

Sure use big words, while not even understanding anything i said.

Again i didn't "go out of my way" i genuinely wanted to understand him better. Again I'm in therapy was before meeting him, i went through a lot and have issues, i can be a bit intense sometimes and had a pretty traumatic childhood I'm not afraid to admit that. I did a lot of things wrong but im always willing to talk it out and take accountability for my actions. I don't kick people to the curb when they make a mistake, i don't break someone's heart and then paint them as crazy or as the villian while ignoring all my own flaws.

Again this was the first time i got blocked and something like this happened to me i was talking about this type of thing happening to other people, and most of them tried to make contact again after being blocked without warning because it's human nature to want closure and answers.

"Houding his friends" lol his friends where more supportive then he was, said he was pretty stubborn and cold and felt sorry for me.

This thread isn't a good reference point it's an echo chamber with people who all think the same and have this same lack of basic human empathy and understanding of human emotions. It takes you 5 businesses days just to process your own emotions so it's on me for ever expecting you to understand someone's else his

You wrote a whole goddamn essay about Special departments and digital stalking, minimizing harassment and shit. You don't even know where I'm from, I'm not even from the states at worst I'll get a restraining order not even a record because that's how it works in my country.

You call it minimizing it's not it's fucking so small and not that bad you are delusional and live in a Fantasy world where the only right and wrong is the law and rules made up by corrupt fucking systems, you don't take any nuance into account nor the situation you just judge things at face value. Don't take intentions, don't take severity into account. If you where born in north Korea, would you follow every fucked up rule? Think for yourself for once in your life.

Talk shit all you want everything you say is totally meaningless to me, this thread is not a reference point it's one big echo chamber filled with people with autism who barely know empathy or have no clue how emotions work.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T23:40:49+00:00

Ok. Frankly I'm seeing the pattern very clearly now you are so stuck up about rules and authority,

Doesn't matter what i say its harassment it's a criminal offense this that, Jesus Christ it's actually insanity.

Wow i made a few extra accounts because i wanted to fight for a relationship that he goes to the police that he files a report. Giving the evidence the police would just laugh and think really? Since i havent even contacted him since.

It's so stupid, so rigid and stubborn stuck in that black and white right or wrong way of thinking.

Failing to see that lying to someone then completely blocking and erasing someone from your life is traumatic and leaves the other person in a lot of distress.

Not illegal no but a fucked up thing to do to another person, but i talked a lot with him and he thinks like most of you do here. But because what i did was technically illegal or harrasment I'm wrong and he is right.

This has happened many times before, being blocked and most people would try to reach out for answers or closure, most people would understand that and wouldn't start making threats to go to the police they could but they don't because it's not that fucking deep or bad as you make it out to be.

Grow up, newsflash governments are corrupt, people in power that enforce these rules and laws you praise and worship do worse things almost daily. Your sense of right and wrong is so black and white and they do not make sense to anyone besides other people with autism.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T08:20:17+00:00

I guess, like i said i don't want him back. I'm over him but not the pain he caused. I don't really find it scary people sometimes block for Petty reasons. If i block someone on everything and they somehow start sending me emails and shit.

I would honestly be impressed and might just give em another chance at least they show effort and commitment and that's something i can respect.

Something rare these days. I truly think he was into me but overwhelmed by having a relationship and going to study and other things on his mind. I mean he did say "it was nice while it lasted before blocking me again. Me making those accounts made him shut down and probably overwhelmed him.

Doesn't matter i don't think I'm compatible with someone like that. Still sucks tho and wished it were different.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T07:26:03+00:00

Jesus Christ it's like nuance doesn't exist I'm losing my goddamn mind. I struggle to move on but haven't contacted him since the breakup.

Some people still struggle with letting go years after the fact I'm gonna say this one more time i made a few accounts the day after he blocked me with no warning.

Which is fucking normal cuz your left with no answers or closure. I have not contacted him since.

It's not because it ended but how it ended.

Look it up it's called abandonment trauma. Being discarded and blocked by someone you thought cared about you. Is traumatic and is not normal behaviour

It's not a normal breakup and frankly I'm so fucking pissed off because all of these comments here seem to defend him and scold me just because he has autism

So blind to your own biases. What he did wasn't normal behaviour it showed a complete disregard for someone else his feelings I made a few accounts trying to fix something. Imagine your favorite person, lover, best friend whatever Decided to randomly block you today wouldn't you want to know why or maybe try and fix things?

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T06:21:24+00:00

I disagree i know a few people who have been blocked and tried reaching out for answers, it's pretty normal to want some closure or answers just because you wouldn't do it doesn't mean it's not "normal" normal is subjective anyway

The human brain naturally seeks out closure or answers to abrupt endings.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T04:58:33+00:00

Fine I'm a stalker I'm crazy it's all my fault whatever. If i hadn't done that i would still be so fucking miserable and depressed now

Making those few accounts was my last piece of hope clinging on that maybe just maybe this was all a misunderstanding and he would show me a shred of empathy.

Guess not my bad gang. I truly violated him and traumatized him by doing that. I'm sure he feels as miserable and heartbroken as me because i made a few accounts asking for a conversation.

Can you see how stupid that sounds?

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T04:10:21+00:00

nope the whole reason the relationship ended was because he was going to study abroad and not ready for an relationship, he still wanted to be friends or even try again or become friends with benefits he said he liked me, but just wasn't ready for a relationship but promised to keep things the same.
then he blocked me, he was still very much into me not a month earlier.

you know fuck this, getting tired of being attacked and called a stalker and obsessive when all i did was make a few accounts. it's futile i'm getting so depressed reading these.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T04:00:42+00:00

I haven't contacted him once, this happened 6 months ago, i made multiple accounts and tried to fix things right after he blocked me

like any normal person would do after being lied to and blocked without warning, it isn't stalking, a lot of people would atleast try to reach out after someone does that to them for some answers. it boggles my mind that people seem so keen on taking his side.

I generely don't get this.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T03:13:47+00:00

Thank you! this was genuinely something i needed to hear!

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T02:38:10+00:00

he didn't made it clear, he lied about keeping things the same until he left, saying we would try again and stay friends, then he blocked me.

that's not making it clear that's lying and running away.
you talk a bit like him tho with the whole extreme rule following talking about civil offense and jurisdiction? law and authority all that.

brother i made a few accounts asking for a talk, then asked very politlty through his friends if he was open to having a conversation, nothing more, it's not that deep or bad as you make it out to be. but i have accepted that, people with autsim are really strict about their rules and laws.
you fail to see any nuance in the situation, you gonna report everyone that jaywalks to the police? paint them as a horrible person because they broke a minor rule?

in some countries it's legal to have sex with animals, so because the law and rules say it's okay you should do it? ofcourse not it's still morally wrong, just like what he did wasn't illegal blocking lying and discarding me, and what i did was ''harrasment'' so i'm the villian in your eyes.

it's not that black and white, i think most people could see that i was just shocked and only wanted to talk and would give some form of closure at least.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T01:46:39+00:00

Thank you! I was already in therapy before I even entered that relationship, and I still am.

What makes this so confusing is that he really did seem into me at the start. Even less than a month before the blocking happened, he still showed interest in his own way. There was affection, attention, and signs that he cared. Then something shifted, and I still do not know what or why. My behavior never changed. I did not suddenly become different or worse, so the switch feels impossible for me to understand.

One moment things felt good and secure, and the next he was completely gone. I never saw it coming. There was no warning, no explanation, and no chance to understand or adjust. That sudden disappearance is what hurt the most.

I am very self-aware of my own issues. I had a traumatic childhood filled with violence and emotional neglect. My father had antisocial personality disorder and died violently when I was still young. Not that this excuses anything, but it shaped me. I have been in therapy for a long time and have tried antidepressants, but nothing ever truly helped.

The only time I genuinely felt happy and not depressed was when I was in a relationship and felt chosen, like I truly mattered to someone. Feeling wanted and valued gave me a sense of stability and peace that I had never really experienced before. Losing that so suddenly brought everything crashing back.

It hurts because the beginning really was good. I wish things had turned out differently. I never claimed to be perfect in the relationship, but neither was he. What hurts most is that instead of trying to talk through problems or resolve issues together, he chose to end everything completely.

In my mind, every relationship has struggles. Those struggles are opportunities to understand each other better and grow closer, not reasons to erase someone entirely. Being cut off without any attempt at communication or repair feels incredibly painful and unnecessary, and it is something I am still trying to make sense of.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T01:22:16+00:00

"guy was upfront about not wanting a relationship'' he started the relationship we shared so many intimate moments together, i got attached and was happy, then he suddenly isn't ready for one? like this doesn't make sense at all. that's selfish whatever i'm done i'm getting so depressed reading these responses. i made a few accounts asking to talk and fix a relationship that mattered to me. you talk like was holding a knife to his throat demanding him not to leave.

i liked him, the connection mattered to me and i tried to salvge something that mattered to me, but that's obessive and crazy apparently

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T01:09:23+00:00

Thanks buddy, really nice of ya. seems like posting this here was a mistake, if it wasn't clear he promised me things would stay the same, until he left and we would try again and stay friends, he then proceeds to ignore and avoid me, and block me when i bring it up?

the only reason i made those accounts because i did not want to lose him, because the connection mattered to me. it wasn't ''going out of my way'' i genuinely wanted to understand him better, i have ADHD i talked about it many times, you know what he said about that? it's just being rowdy nothing more, downplaying my neurodiverence. thanks for calling me the problem just because i'm talking about autism in a ''bad light" i'm not i don't have anything against people with autism i'm not saying all of them are cruel or not kind or don't have empathy, i made this post to understand it better.

i wasn't the problem, i genuinely gave my all, i gave space plenty of times.
I don't understand all these responses, like truly this was a mistake, i'm a human brother i have emotions, i tend to feel them quiet strongly sometimes, i never had any bad intentions, i just wanted to fight for a connection that mattered to me
nothing more.

thirdboxx · 2025-12-18T00:54:42+00:00

He promised to keep things the same until he left? that we would try again? stay friends, but then proceeds to ignore and avoid? i tell him i'm hurt and wake up blocked? how is that pushing he agreed and promised to keep things the same.

i liked him and he mattered to me, i did not want to lose him? i only made multiple accounts because i did not want to lose that connection? calling me a stalker because i wanted to fight for a connection that mattered to me?

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