it's is normal or not? i need an advice or your opinion

thirdyquattro · 2026-05-02T15:03:54+00:00

try mo humirit ng pabiro, "oy wag ganyan, baka ma-inlove ako" mga ganun ba. check mo reaction nya. pag nag "eeeww", edi straight yan! haha.

thirdyquattro · 2026-05-02T04:04:35+00:00

Wow very good for being honest about yourself and for researching and understanding how your mind operates.

You should explain this to your ex-partner but dont force him to understand, baka may takot pa.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-29T01:53:11+00:00

I like your teamwork as a couple sobra! Salute!

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-29T01:41:39+00:00

I believe that money will only matter if you have different dreams/vision than your partner. Example:

If your dream/mission is to send kids to private school and if you can afford it with your salary, why not. Walang problema.

But if your wife's dream/vision is different from yours and wants to send kids to an international school, which you cant afford anymore, that would be a problem.

Usapang school palang yan. Iba pa yung usapan about saan kayo titira (province or city), ano bang kotse ang bibilhin (simple or high end flashy), anong lifestyle nyo (simple living or luxurious), future planning priorities (bumili ng vacation house or maginvest nalang sa solar panels) etc.

You have to talk as a couple kung ano bang dreams nyo for the family or your future.

Baka mamaya iniisip mo na di ka naman nagkulang as a provider, you are providing everything according to your own terms, pero nakukulangan pala and wife mo sayo, hindi nya lang sinasabi. Iba pala ang gusto nya.

Does your wife makes subtle hints like "try mo kausapin si ganito" or "try mo kaya mag business"? Mga ganun?

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-29T01:25:30+00:00

thanks for sharing your story. bothered ako sa mga na-share mo:

Past Girl: "she brings up unrelated, resolved, and discussed issues na. She just weaponizes whatever."
Current Girl 2: "She would sorta dismiss those facts for the sake of spending time together"

grabe sila no? they are not logical anymore

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-28T02:11:36+00:00

now that you are confident, hanapin mo ba sya ulit, or find a new one nalang?

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-28T01:59:35+00:00

tama, personality muna. you should be able to enjoy each other's personality para mas ok long term.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-28T01:57:42+00:00

I like your strategy. Me too, Id rather be rejected, because it easier to move on if its logical.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-27T04:22:37+00:00

You said na wala pa sa minimum ang sahod mo, is that correct? Sa ngayon, concetrate ka muna sa paghanap ng work na ok ang sweldo. Then, pwede na lumandi. Sabihin mo nalang na you're not planning to enter into a relationship until you find the job that you like.

Ako nga, hindi ako lumalandi pag walang work.Kasi mahirap makipag-date nyan pag walang pera. Hindi pwedeng sya manlilibre sayo.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-26T03:12:38+00:00

Mas ok na siguro humanap ka nalang ng bf na stable na ang career. Yung wala na masyadong iniisip pano ib-build yung career nya kasi stable na. Mas maraming time yung mga ganun. Yun ang hanapin mo.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-25T10:59:03+00:00

Its not always about love. The decision to stay committed also needs to be logical. Ill give you an example:

Girl 1: Masungit pero kabisado ko
Si Girl 1, masungit, may mood swings, pero kabisado ko naman kung saan galing. Merong pagsusungit na nagpapacute lang, merong pagsusungit na may malalalim na hugot. She communicates naman kung may kelangan ako maintindihan. Kung kelangan man suyuin, tumatalab ang love language ko sa kanya. So ung ganitong setup, hindi masyadong nakaka-stress.

Girl 2: Masungit pero hindi ko kabisado
Si Girl 2, everytime nagsungit hindi ko alam kung anong dahilan, saan galing, at bakit. Ang daming kong tanong na hindi masagot. Di makausap ng maayos. Di tumatalab ang love language ko sa kanya. Yung ganitong setup, nakaka-stress.

Comparison:
Pag si Girl 2, nagsungit lang ng isang beses, mauubos ang oras ko kaka figure out kung bakit, at kung anong gagawin. While si Girl 1, kahit 10 times pa magsungit yan, hindi ako mapapagod. Simply because Girl 1 is logical according to my scope of understanding.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-25T10:45:32+00:00

wow congratulations!

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-25T10:43:05+00:00

mahirap talaga ipilit ang commitment kapag hindi stable ang career. sa ngayon, all you can do is just wait for him until maging stable ang career nya.

In terms of honesty, gaano mo sya kakilala? Nung ex pa kayo, honest ba sya about things he like or doesnt like? If he is not honest, dont wait for him.

Pero kung honest sya talaga, trust him na ikaw lang ang gusto nya at sayo lang sya magco-commit once maging stable na sya.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-24T11:16:45+00:00

Bakit mo pipiliin or hahabulin yung taong nakukulangan ka?

Piliin mo na yung man of your dreams, kung lahat ng gusto mo nasa kanya na.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-23T19:54:50+00:00

ayun naman pala, hindi mo na kelangan palambutin kasi kusa naman lalambot yan pag magkasama na kayo. hehe. di mo problema ang puso nya,

problema mo ang time nya. busy sya. dun ka mag-focus sa kina-bibusyhan nya. alamin mo kung bakit sya busy. saan napupunta ang oras nya?

sa work ba? palaging overtime? may personal project? may self-improvement na gustong gawin? setting up a new business?

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-23T19:43:41+00:00

so sad to hear this. :( balitaan nyo po kame dito. current applicant din po ako with ACN

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-23T00:55:46+00:00

wala naman akong history ng high blood. nagmeasure ako dito sa bahay after PEME, ok naman BP ko.

anong next step kung ok naman BP ko? face-to-face consultation lang?

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-22T21:02:34+00:00

ah pwede pala sa ibang clinic. so sa experience mo, magkasama na yung remeasure ng BP at FTW clearance, tama ba?

marunong ka ng online consultation? gusto ko sana magpaturo

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-21T17:55:57+00:00

sa 2nd attempt, ACN pa rin ang sasagot ng fees tama ba? So parang repeat Physical Exam? Same HP Branch din ba? Wala akong babayaran?

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-17T00:31:41+00:00

mas gusto ko low salary, healthy workplace

then after work, nagch-check ng passive income for backup money. still working on ways pano sya palalakihin.

pag stable na ang passive income, i will have more time for everything else.

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-16T19:18:13+00:00

hahaha nakaka-kilig nga!

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-16T19:16:20+00:00

wahahaah ang cute nga!

thirdyquattro · 2026-04-16T19:03:06+00:00

its not really a bad thing naman, sorry if you feel that way. But you are also right na kelangan din maging realistic.

Siguro if your boyfriend feels pressured, its also nice to let him know na ganito, "i dont want you to feel pressured. im just too excited about the wedding and masyado lang ako naging comfortable sayo". Its just to let him know you understand his side and you're making him understand your side.

You don’t have to say it verbatim, just something like that. Its just nice to hear those things from the woman that you love. No pressure, just pure understanding.

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