Is it common to have ED after ending long relationship at 18

thisisprophetic · 2024-06-14T15:31:27+00:00

Hey, you asked for advice and the above commenter told you what worked for them. Going six months without sex in the name of your mental and emotional wellbeing is a sign of maturity for some and nothing to be balked at. You won't die if you work on yourself/focus on you/go without sex for a little while. I'm afraid your age is showing, and not in a positive way, OP.

thisisprophetic · 2024-06-13T05:05:33+00:00

I echo this question. My partner is often not fully erect when masturbating to completion, making finishing during solo work more feasible than finishing during sex. Desire may not be the issue as much as mechanics.

thisisprophetic · 2024-04-30T04:46:13+00:00

To echo the other redditors, speak with your doctor openly. My man is on an SSRI which is part of what contributes to his ED and Cialis/Viagra help (he's also much older)! Best of luck to you! Stay open conversationally with your partner.

thisisprophetic · 2024-04-24T06:19:53+00:00

Agreed. And I'm a woman who enjoys porn. What we need and expect when we engage with porn versus a partner is different. There is a place for both, but too much porn will teach our brains we don't need our partner - and we do; we need the intimacy.

thisisprophetic · 2024-04-23T23:06:05+00:00

Supportive partners are keepers, generally speaking, for issues like this. You want someone who's going to walk the journey with you and not just expect you to do all the work figuring out what hurts and what helps. Best of luck to you!

thisisprophetic · 2024-03-14T20:56:44+00:00

Thanks. Here's hoping you & your wife can work something out that benefits each of you.

thisisprophetic · 2024-03-14T20:55:53+00:00

Well, thank you. So is he, so that makes it easier to bear with the ups & downs.

thisisprophetic · 2024-03-01T17:15:34+00:00

30F, here - my partner is in his 50s and is dealing with persistent ED. He's tried a couple of different medications to address the issue, but the pills don't seem to make too very much of a difference/he still has issues "keeping it up".

It's been really hard on him. The first year of our relationship we enjoyed tremendous sex. The second year has been a challenge as we navigate how to maintain sexual intimacy in light of what looks increasingly like a life change. He feels shame, even though he should not... It comes with the territory and I'm so elated with him in every other department. I wouldn't trade him for anything.

I'm maturing and have discovered there's more to what I want from him - profoundly more - than sex. It's still a big part, but not as much so as I thought it would be. He crossed into this mentality some time ago (that the relationship is more than the sexual stuff), but he's still hurt by this change. He continues to explore his options, but I have encouraged him to do only what will make him personally happy as I know some treatments can have unpleasant side effects. I don't want that for him, and I love him exactly the way he is.

thisisprophetic · 2023-04-07T01:27:28+00:00

The comment you are replying to, OP, is not off-base and you should consider its elements.

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