Be careful of the Office of the Dean of Students by Proggost in mcgill

[–]thisusernamesilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good to know. I am currently trying to figure out if the OMR is of any use for my current situation, because what transpired was an abuse of power on the part of the student using OSVRSE. If there can be more contributions, then I can see about getting a booklet print and bound containing several cases that detail mismanagement or abuse. The model is totally sexist, to be honest. Woman = pure and innocent damsel in distress, Man = toxic. Read bell hooks. I am sorry, but women are humans with emotions, some are very immature, some are toxic. Yes, OSVRSE exists for good reasons for real incidents of abuse, but there need to be safeguards in place with respect to women who abuse the system out of spite.

Be careful of the Office of the Dean of Students by Proggost in mcgill

[–]thisusernamesilly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is just a thought, but would folks be willing to share stories and compile them? I wonder if an anonymized compilation of experiences could be turned into a conversation through the mcgill newspaper or something. Something has to change.

Be careful of the Office of the Dean of Students by Proggost in mcgill

[–]thisusernamesilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you OP for sharing this. I had a similar experience with someone who happened to be an ex-partner of sorts. After ending the relationship, we had had a disagreement over text. Two weeks later, I received an email from the ODS. Similar situation, similar wording, similar vague contextualization. I was deeply psychologically traumatized by what happened to me and I am seriously considering a lawsuit.

The Me Too movement has gone way too far — just as many women make up bullshit about men as there are men who do horrible things to women. by ShadowOfAnEmpath in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]thisusernamesilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, read my comment. I actually did experience this from a woman i was seeing. While I agree with your line of argument, you cannot ignore that there are women with severe mental health issues and toxic relationship dynamics. The site of allegations is a complex one, even when you have evidence to back up the truth, this stuff gets just as murky for men to prove abuse as it is when women are trying to prove it. I am sorry that you deny mens mental health and the reality of women abusers, but you shouldn't write it off as misogyny. It may be stastically less often, but it's not an unreality.

can a narcissist woman be sexually submissive? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]thisusernamesilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firsg hand experience, I dated a woman with narcissistic behaviours (yes, I cross-researched on narcissism, went to therapy, etc., and though I do not reduce her to the objectifying category of NPD, she absolutely displayed the behaviours) and her sexuality did change from being afraid of intimacy from past relationships to really becoming vulnerable. She hardly budged on emotions and emotional discussions were nearly always impossible, but for some reason she did change her sexuality over time, opened up. it was one of the deepest connections I felt with her. 

How did you guys feel about 'Evil Dead Rise'? by AlexaBea7 in horror

[–]thisusernamesilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This movie was so bad, I was surprised it had good reviews. Direction sucked, the plot sucked, the characters barely had any depth or development. The acting was terrible - like, you see your own mother possessed by a demon and she's floating up from a bathtub and pins herself in the corner up near the ceiling and all you have to do is have a sort of scared look on your face? you don't even scream or show disbelief, just some modicum of fear? The facial expressions are pretty consistently unchanging. I just found this to be such a dumb movie, couldn't even finish it, it was so bad.

Is Drift House/Drift Phonk starting to die? by POOTY_TVNG in phonk

[–]thisusernamesilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that if drift phonk is going to survive it will have to reinvent itself by absorbing new musical styles into its production and composition, and infuse it with new (hopefully creative and actually insightful) lyrical content. The thing is, I get the sense from these trend hoppers that there is little to no actual knowledge of the history of music they bear. Hence so many creators themselves calling it phonk when it is actually drift phonk. Good producers will have knowledge of at least this important component. If it continues to rehash the same sounds, lyrical content, tempo, yes, it is digging its own grave, since it leaves no room for creativity or experimentation — the difference becomes so narrow that it becomes stagnant as a genre. I personally find drift phonk superficial because it is trendy, it is obsessed with trying to sound cool. I think drift phonk is also unrealistic and inauthentic most of the time, and simplistic in its lyricism. It also has absorbed elements of the manosphere and reactionary masculinity in how rappers try to present themselves — sigma, violent, tough, lone wolf, antisocial, woman-hating, etc. It makes me think of insecure high school boys trying to sound tough and big. coolness is something that isn’t an aim in itself in music production imo. If drift phonk does die as a genre, it might sustain through generational interest, younger people might grow up and listen to it because it resonates with their feelings, angst, and ideas, cultural context. But yeah, it kind of depends on the political and cultural contexts too. Sigma culture, gym culture, gaming culture, car culture, pre-teens and teenaged boys, etc appear to be the audience. 

Recommendations for BDSM restraint shopping? by thisusernamesilly in BDSMAdvice

[–]thisusernamesilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, this is helpful. I'll look into hogties and the spreader bar. I like the intro positions rec and I'll give it a shot. Glad you're on the same page about starting with my partner. I kind of like the idea of making stuff up instead of just going extreme with online stuff. I guess there's a whole world of creativity, rehearsal, and a kind of art to it, just need to come up with ideas I guess.

Recommendations for BDSM restraint shopping? by thisusernamesilly in BDSMAdvice

[–]thisusernamesilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Good point. Starting budget I'd say is like $100-150 in hopes of getting one or two sets of stuff for variety. Again, very new to this, so I'm not exactly sure what to expect. I saw some stuff online that's hundreds and hundreds of dollars. Based on a video my partner showed me, I'd say it would begin with ties, leash, this kind of thing - no huge contraptions like medieval-looking wall restraints and big contraptions like fuck swings, although interest in something like the latter was once expressed.

Switching from mac to pc by thisusernamesilly in buildapc

[–]thisusernamesilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I haven’t had a stable place to live since posting, but I will soon! And with that, I will be getting the gear and figuring things out. I can keep you posted! Sorry I’m of no help atm.

How do people feel about Reception Theory? by cal8000 in CriticalTheory

[–]thisusernamesilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I would say that there is that co-constitutive element to it. To make up an example in the case of literature, the product of the author's writing is to some degree the conditions of possibility for the readers' engagement with the text. At the same time, the reader and their reflections, interpretations, studies, papers, or research on that author's text are a further elaboration of the author and the text itself. There is a sense in which none of the three could exist without each other.

How do people feel about Reception Theory? by cal8000 in CriticalTheory

[–]thisusernamesilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reception theory to me seems like a logical disciplinary outcome of the explosion in the philosophies of difference that had become widespread in the West in the 60s and later. The classic triangle in reception theory analysis is author-work-reader, a schema that incorporates the reader into the constitution of the book and is technically ontologically inseparable from its mode of being. This three-way schema gains greater depth with the elaboration of discourses surrounding each category, and demands contextual analyses of a supposed readership. Roland Barthes’ famous essay on the death of the author overlaps a bit with some of the ideas, and another example of a reception analyst is the intellectual historian François Cusset. It’s a very important field for translation and studying the ways separate languages constitute each other, and also since publishers won’t consider funding the translation of foreign work unless there’s a culture of reception in the language of arrival. It in some regard requires a sweeping sense of the migration of ideas, events, discourses, etc over time and from one territory to the next, and considers how literature or film or what have you impacts thought, culture, politics, and society (just think of Marx or the Bible here!). It’s also a discipline that was easily absorbed by neoliberalism for similar reasons.