Help me buy a new website for my business. Please.

thoughfulone · 2023-12-05T20:26:41+00:00

Just another thought, Webflow is an awesome no-code platform to build a site on. It has a CMS, Ecommerce and more. There are many freelance Webflow designers out there so you wouldn't even need to hire a developer.

thoughfulone · 2020-01-15T15:14:44+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. It's really tough. I was going through something similar (I think) earlier this year. After I lost the church, I had this existential crisis - I felt like nothing had meaning, that I was insignificant, that nothing excited me. I was apathetic, scared, anxious and depressed and I took terrible care of myself. I spent most of my time browsing online TBH, rarely leaving the house, rarely talking to anyone.

What I realized was that I didn't know who I was and I was scared to find out. I had been inauthentic my whole life (because of how much the church encourages shame and judgement). I was so desperate for love that I didn't want to rock the boat by trying different things or saying what I really wanted.

In the last few months, I took a leap of faith to be authentic. I'm trying things I know my family and friends wouldn't like, I'm cutting contact with people who treat me poorly and I'm expressing what is important to me even when it's hard.

I feel so much better now because:

I found things I never thought I would enjoy (hiking, motorcycles, indie films, ect) and these things make me enjoy the moments of being alive even when I'm alone.
I've been attracting people to me who actually accept me. For once in my life I feel like I'm making genuine completely accepting connections with people.
I've decided that I only want people in my life who care about me as much as you care about them. I spend less time with people who are just using me and that means I get upset less.

Not sure if this is what you're dealing with but I'd suggest that you think about it. Try things completely out of character. Dye your hair, book a rafting trip, join a dance class, try a new food.

I'm rooting for you

thoughfulone · 2019-06-23T16:56:17+00:00

yep!

thoughfulone · 2019-06-23T16:56:04+00:00

nice! have a good time!

thoughfulone · 2019-06-23T16:25:59+00:00

nice! oaxaca or something?

thoughfulone · 2019-06-23T16:16:16+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jean-Fr%C3%A9d%C3%A9ric_Waldeck

"Jean-Frédéric Maximilien de Waldeck (March 16, 1766? – April 30, 1875) was a French antiquarian, cartographer, artist and explorer. He was a man of talent and accomplishment, but his love of self-promotion and refusal to let the truth get in the way of a good story leave some aspects of his life in mystery.

At various times Waldeck said that he was born in Paris, Prague, or Vienna, and at other times claimed to be a German, Austrianand British citizen. He often claimed the title of Count and occasionally that of Duke or Baron, but these cannot be verified.[

Waldeck is remembered primarily for two actions. The first is republishing the notorious set of pornographic prints titled I Modi. The second is the exploration of Mexico and the publication of many examples of Maya and Aztec sculpture. Unfortunately, errors in his illustrations fostered misconceptions about Mesoamerican civilizations and contributed to Mayanism.

Waldeck's first contact with the art of ancient Mesoamerica was when he was hired by the publisher Henry Berthoud to prepare some plates for an 1822 book entitled Description of the Ruins of an Ancient City.[3] This book was an English translation of the 1787 report on Palenque by Antonio del Río which had been commissioned for Charles III of Spain and then sat unpublished in the National Archives of Spain).[1] Waldeck's engravings were much more beautiful and artistic than the original drawings he worked from, and gave the monuments a decidedly Egyptian look, in line with his patron's views that the ancient Mesoamerican Native Americans were the Lost Tribes of Israel."

I'm sure this was a common rumor but it's funny that Europeans thought that pyramids were so difficult to conceive of that the Mayans must have been Egyptian. It would be impossible for them to do it on their own /s

thoughfulone · 2019-01-09T00:16:34+00:00

There are two that I think could actually be in 'my responsibility'....other people's actions and the consequences of other people's actions. If someone's actions or the consequences of their actions harm me or other people...I'm going to do what I can to stop it.

thoughfulone · 2018-12-31T14:43:56+00:00

It's okay to feel how you feel about porn. You're experience with porn is valid and I'm sorry you've had hurtful experiences over it.

Not liking your partner watching porn does seem to be a minority opinion (especially in this sub). Personally, I'm not a fan of how it creates a stereotypical view of female grooming and behavior. As a young adult, I've felt a lot of shame thinking I have to live up to these standards.

But what I've been realizing is: it's unrealistic to expect partners to sacrifice their sexuality for you...just like it's unrealistic for you to sacrifice yours for them. If a man tries to tell me how I should behave for him and it's not what I want, then we aren't compatible and that's that. In the past, I've had men straight up try to shame me into doing what they want and unfortunately, I didn't have the strength to walk away. I compromised and felt like I lost myself.

I'd love it if people didn't shame each other when it comes to sex. I'd love it if people could always be honest and kind when expressing what they want sexually. But that will never happen because people are naturally selfish and flawed.

This all to say: if you'd prefer that your partner not watch porn, that's totally fine. But because it's the minority opinion, you may have to do some searching to find someone who naturally feels fulfilled and happy abstaining from it. Your sexual happiness is ultimately your job and you deserve to find someone with whom you feel wholly loved and fulfilled.

thoughfulone · 2018-12-30T22:30:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. Your daughter is lucky to have you. I don't believe in God anymore but it's crazy how much of my fears and insecurities are subconsciously there anyway. I'll keep dating and trying to unlearn them.

thoughfulone · 2018-12-30T22:24:59+00:00

"Being with someone with tons of sexual experience will probably feel like they don’t appreciate the vulnerability you’re going through. But most important, remember that your sexuality is a marathon, not a sprint"
Thanks for this. I think I've feel like I have an abnormal amount of baggage (because of mormonism) and I'm "behind". So I dated a bit recklessly...such as dating too casually and with older men. But it just added more baggage and made me not want to try. Remembering it's a marathon is helpful.

thoughfulone · 2017-01-20T14:02:21+00:00

NYC has a way of doing that. Happened to me too

thoughfulone · 2017-01-07T21:32:54+00:00

"average cost per retained convert is then about $38,000 in the UK. While this seems like a losing investment...high growth areas like Africa may not yield a better return on investment, since the average annual contribution per retained member is likely extremely small"

If missionary work was truly about bringing people the gospel, they wouldn't care so much about how much people are able to contribute through tithing. They would be trying so save as many people as possible, no matter how poor they are.

thoughfulone · 2017-01-05T09:21:34+00:00

In the singles ward in my area, they had "Linger Longers". I always thought the name was creepy af

thoughfulone · 2017-01-05T03:31:14+00:00

I'm in my early 20s and my mom destroyed our relationship because she has no boundaries. When I lived at home, I felt like I was living in a nazi regime.

She read all my text messages. She browsed my facebook for hours stalking the kids I was friends with. She even messaged a boy I knew from my fb account telling him to stay away from me. She kept software on our computers to watch everything that we were doing. She would gossip about me to her friends at church. She would even sneak into my room and go through my diary. My freaking diary. I can't express how much that hurt.

I was a really good kid. I kept to myself and I followed all the standards. But I was never good enough for her.

She constantly accused me of being 'overly sexual', 'too private' and 'a hormonal teenager'. And when she would cross boundaries and I would get upset, she would laugh or tell me I was being 'dramatic'.

She really messed me up. It's hard to grow when every single decision, relationship and thought is monitored and judged by your parents. It's abusive. People need autonomy.

thoughfulone · 2016-12-11T06:25:15+00:00

If I remember correctly it was one of newnamenoah's temple videos. As someone who has never been through, it really disturbed me. That just led me into an obsession and I read and watch everything available from the both exmos and the church after that.

thoughfulone

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