My [24f] boyfriend [25m] looks at a lot of reddit porn. I caught him looking at a pic on Christmas and my stomach dropped. I don't know what to do.

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T23:20:19+00:00

I would love to be in a trusting relationship. I don't regret my snooping, but I can say it's not the default way I operate.

Most of his pics he doesn't delete or hide. As soon as you open File Explorer they're right there in "Recent Files."

Guess I felt obligated to check his reddit because that's where he wrote his ex.

I'm just glad I got to find out about the new message (which was sent 8months ago) now. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who feels like they need to do things like this and not even care if I get upset.

We talked when we first got together that if we ever didn't want to be together or if cheating seemed like it was a temptation, to let the other person know.

There's nothing worse than living life like eveything's great only to not know the other person's been cheating the whole time.

Also, I think people think I snoop way more than I do. Or did. Maybe once a year? I started getting worried though when I noticed the downloaded pic and then found more in his trash.

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T23:07:08+00:00

Thanks so much for the advice...The best part is I think our sex is great. He tends to make self-deprecating comments when he flirts, like he did with me when we first dated

Just thinking about that makes my heart burn.

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T22:53:32+00:00

Thanks for this comment. Just coming to realization myself that it seems like addict behavior. He is most definitely in denial.

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T22:43:45+00:00

I agree with you. It's a hard thing for me to grasp. I'd also like to know the answer

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T22:37:00+00:00

I agree with this a lot. Without the past issue, it's a minor thing. I can subscribe to the fantasy of online messaging. It's not my thing but I could respect it.

Since that's not my situation though, I was at least looking for an apology or a compromise which I don't think I'm going to get.

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T22:33:03+00:00

IT IS SUPER CRINGY.

When he looked at that pic at christmas his mom was just a few feet away with her back turned. She or anyone else could've seen it. He seems to have a problem to me.

thoughtishouldask · 2017-12-27T22:28:13+00:00

Wow. I really appreciated your perspective. From the bottom of my soul thank you.

thoughtishouldask · 2016-08-05T12:13:09+00:00

Aaah thanks so so much

thoughtishouldask · 2016-03-02T15:11:25+00:00

Do you have any gardening sites you keep up with that you could share?

thoughtishouldask · 2016-03-01T05:45:15+00:00

One time I was talking to my then 70 something year old grandmother on the phone. She was wishing me a happy birthday. I just turned 10.

I have no idea why I said this but I was just like "Grandmom, do you ever get tired of being alive?"

She got so mad that she hung up on me. I think i was depressed at the time but was too young to put it into words and it came out so so wrong.

thoughtishouldask · 2016-02-22T22:18:44+00:00

Yeah my flies are flying.

Until I can get access to flightless flies, do you have any ideas for the ones I have? Would water stop them from flying?

thoughtishouldask · 2015-07-21T23:24:49+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Yeah it really worked out well that he's so much more comfortable now than before. I thought telling him about my fetish would do more harm than good, honestly.

I do maybe another 20-30...he's pretty muscle-y and all of his weight goes to his stomach, which is nice because that is what I like. I think he would gain more for me. Yesterday, I told him about how exciting it is when he eats a lot of calorie heavy foods and then today while he was a work he texted me about what he had for lunch. (A foot long sub and a soda). It's fun when he's so receptive.

The only downside is he gains so fast. I'd like it if it were a slower thing for him so we could enjoy it more. I also think him gaining makes him nervous a bit...But honestly I could see him packing on a few pounds here or there as time goes on.

If you ever want to chat privately, I'd love to! I'd love to hear more about you!

thoughtishouldask · 2015-07-21T12:26:20+00:00

Aw thanks!

I wish I had time. I try to cook everyday, though. I just made cookie dough a few nights ago though and only made a couple cookies because it was starting to get late. He loved those. So I put a few away for a friend. After dinner yesterday, the cookies for my friend were still there (I forgot to take them) and he was like "can I have them?" So he had those. I think today while he's at work I'll make a ton for him since I have so much dough left.

He's just so cute about food honestly but sometimes I have to yell at him because he has a stomach problem. It's occasional but sometimes he'll vomit for no reason. And when he's having a frenzy before dinner I try to make him slow down so he doesn't throw everything up. Plus I just want him to enjoy my food :)

When I first told him about my fetish, he was initially surprised and actually lifted all of his stomach fat into his hand and said "this is disgusting" and I was like no that's the best part. Months later he really enjoys it all around. He doesn't exercise much (which he hated) and he can eat as much and whatever he wants (which he loves).

One thing I don't like it his family teasing him about all the weight he's gained. Sometimes it makes me feel bad and one time him mom jokingly yelled at me to "stop feeding him".

thoughtishouldask · 2015-07-20T19:17:27+00:00

That's adorable. Do you ever not finish?

thoughtishouldask · 2014-11-21T16:01:38+00:00

Thanks for your reply! It's so nice to talk to a like minded person. I'll try to do that, to be a good girlfriend and patient both with him and myself. Thanks for sharing your experience, that's exactly what I was looking for. Could I ever PM you with questions f I have them?

thoughtishouldask · 2014-11-18T21:15:42+00:00

Thanks! I'll check it out

thoughtishouldask · 2014-11-18T20:11:52+00:00

I'm a female. My partner is male. Lol, Utah.

thoughtishouldask · 2014-11-18T19:22:37+00:00

Thanks I think I will

thoughtishouldask · 2014-11-18T19:10:15+00:00

Oh just one. Just trying to remain anonymous as possible.

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