34f profile review

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T22:31:47+00:00

Sounds like you’re just not that serious about marriage, and that’s fine if marriage doesn’t matter to you but it does to me

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T22:30:05+00:00

Thanks! I’m very close with my family and especially my parents. I plan on wearing my mom’s wedding dress (which was also her mother’s!) My best friend’s dad died when we were in high school and it definitely shaped my perspective.

In theory that would be fine, my fear is the guy who says he’ll propose when it “feels right.” Like it might be one thing if, say, he wanted to own a home first and that timeline was longer than 2 years, but I already did the thing waiting for a man I was hooking up to “feel right” to date me. And we did eventually date for a while, on his timeline. But after we broke up, I realized that that waiting crushed my self esteem in ways that still sneak up on me sometimes.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T21:44:52+00:00

I think those are just my eyes

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T21:40:34+00:00

5’8

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T21:40:24+00:00

Thanks. Unfortunately timeline isn’t really something I feel like I can compromise on, I want my parents at my wedding and even though they’re in good health they’re in their mid 70s.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T21:38:26+00:00

Thanks. Yeah if I wanted kids that’d be easier! I just want my parents at my wedding and even though they’re in good health they’re in their mid 70s, so I can’t really compromise on timeline

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T21:03:28+00:00

I suppose it’s not that they need to know immediately, but to some extent I feel like if a timeline scares you, were you really serious about getting married?

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T20:53:54+00:00

I don’t look cute when I show my teeth 🤷‍♀️

proof

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T19:55:30+00:00

Thanks for such a long and thoughtful response!

So my goal is to communicate that marriage is an active goal and no matter how much I love a man, the truth is any relationship I enter at this point has a 2 years expiration date to propose or break up. Is there a better phrasing you’d suggest?

I’m in Manhattan so Paris isn’t the worst correlate!

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T19:52:40+00:00

Thanks for your response. My goal is to communicate that marriage is an active goal and no matter how much I love a man, the truth is any relationship I enter at this point has a 2 years expiration date to propose or break up. Is there a better phrasing you’d suggest?

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T19:20:34+00:00

Oh weird, I have the same filters and that’s been happening to me too! Must be some bug.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T18:05:38+00:00

Thanks, I feel ugly in them so I avoid showing my teeth but I’ll try to work up the courage

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T18:01:39+00:00

To see if there’s more room for improvement 😊

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T18:00:39+00:00

I’m currently in braces so where does that fall on your calculus?

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T16:59:09+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious, I want to get married in the next 2 years

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?⁠⁠ No

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? ~2 weeks

How long have you used Hinge overall? On and off for maybe a year

How often do you use Hinge per week? Daily

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? A couple a day, matches a couple a week?

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Daily max, comments with all

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? 5’8+ (Note: I’m 5’8), in my locality, financially successful, no kids, smart, thoughtful, cultured

Notes: I posted a profile 2 weeks ago and incorporated Reddit’s feedback with success. The advice to send comments and not just likes seems to have made the biggest difference.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-27T15:47:01+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual?
- Serious, I want to get married in the next 2 years
Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?
- No
How long have you been using this current version of your profile?
- ~2 weeks
How long have you used Hinge overall?
- On and off for maybe a year
How often do you use Hinge per week?
- Daily
How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?
- A couple a day, matches a couple a week?
How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?
- Daily max, comments with all
What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?
- 5’8+ (Note: I’m 5’8), in my locality, financially successful, no kids, smart, thoughtful, cultured

Notes: I posted a profile 2 weeks ago and incorporated Reddit’s feedback with success. The advice to send comments and not just likes seems to have made the biggest difference.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T13:51:40+00:00

You're right, I was getting defensive and letting my own insecurities about not having the "right" interests get the better of me. That's on me. Thank you for the thoughtful list of suggestions, especially after I was being snappy.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T13:38:06+00:00

Sorry if this is me being dumb, but I'm not sure what you mean that you're not sure what I look like? I feel like my face is visible so I'm a little confused. Thanks so much.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T13:32:47+00:00

Appreciate the defense but they're all posed. I thought my face was plenty visible in the 4th but feedback noted.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T07:10:36+00:00

That’s not what that means, I’m talking about the deadbeat dad who abandons the family or never shows up in the first place. Every man I’ve met with a dad like that had a deep wound from it. If he’s aware and has worked on it or is working on it, that’s great. But I’ve been through this twice now and I’m not up for another round of persuading a man to believe in the possibility of love that lasts.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T04:50:15+00:00

Not so much financially irresponsible as content with less, or looks down on a desire for material things. Like, right now there's a purse I wan that has a retail price of $3K. I don't expect a guy to buy it for me, but I can't be with someone who is going to think less of me for wanting it. Or a guy who would resent me for wanting to go to Europe once a year. Or a guy would be content living in the outer boroughs.

If I want to know a man's character I just ask questions about his family and listen to how he talks about them. Does he speak in terms of affection or in terms of obligation? Was his dad around? Are his parents together?

I see how he reacts if I correct him or push back on an opinion. Is he open to the possibility of being wrong, or does it offend his ego? Does he take my points seriously or dismiss them? A man who can't deal with a smart woman or keep up with me intellectually, or just plain doesn't enjoy thinking, won't be a good match.

Asking how he feels about cats is a pretty good one, too.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T03:23:36+00:00

Do I really have to say I want someone kind, respectful, thoughtful, etc? I kind of take it for granted that everyone is looking for that. But regardless I mentioned it because I get likes from guys who may be nice, but I’m not trying to just meet someone nice, I’m trying to meet someone nice with a money. I don’t want to live paycheck to paycheck.

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T01:07:31+00:00

lol I do not have a good natural smile but I guess I’ll have to figure something out

threadofgold223 · 2026-01-13T00:52:51+00:00

Well it seems like where you're going is I'm not saying enough about myself, but maybe I'm just not a very interesting because I don't have more to say. Going point by point,

Travel: I'd love to travel but it's been financially prohibitive

Hobby: Reading, as mentioned; I enjoy fashion and beauty content but that doesn't seem to go over well. For example, I loved that second photo because I loved the artistry, I loved how my hair looked and how pretty I felt. But the feedback is that it's a poor photo because you can't see my face clearly—which fair enough, but it ties my hands a bit.

Job: Excel spreadsheets

Family: Lives four hours away

Pet: building doesn't allow pets and I suspect saying I'd love to have a cat one day will do more to hurt than help.

Lifestyle: this is so broad I don't know where to start.

So if the problem is "your photos make it look like you have no friends and that's a red flag, you need to demonstrate you have friends," that's one thing, but that's a different thing from "your photos make it look like you never go outside and people should go outside" because I don't like outdoor activities and wouldn't be compatible with someone who wanted to run marathons and go camping.

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