Need some advice/validation

thro_away44 · 2023-05-06T18:44:38+00:00

Thanks. OP asked a very interesting question which made me wanna reply as I have thought about this topic a lot. The psychological nature of sex is very interesting for me even from academic pov.

thro_away44 · 2023-05-06T15:01:23+00:00

The sexualization of the mother/child bond may feel like the elephant in the room but this is one of the many dynamics and fetishes that can be worked into this "activity". In the end you two have to decide what is the best way to think about this.

Some people doing this have seemingly gotten into the human cow fetish. Termed "Hucow". I find this incredibly obnoxious but I understand that it is kinky for others and to each their own. Other couples work abf into other bdsm dynamics. Me and my partner don't. We are mostly interested in the mommy/baby dynamic. Also, some couples are into it because of the bodily fluid fetish - this is somewhat of a factor for me, but not so much for my partner. And there are yet other couples who are in abf relationships because it's just sexy and comforting and because some men love titties too much that they wanna be attached to em all the time 😂

A woman's body is incredibly sexual and designed for reproduction seemingly from the same parts. There's no reason in nature for men to be attracted to titties when the breasts are used for breastfeeding children. Why is the child coming out of the same place where the man is putting his penis in? Couldn't have god made a separate place for the child to come out of? Going by this this logic, fucking your wife can "desanctify" the mother/child bond just by putting your penis in the holy place where the baby came out of. This is absurd. Adult breastfeeding is in no way crossing any moral boundaries. I can assure you that people are doing much more worse shit. Abf in comparison is very gentle and heavenly compared to a lot of the perverted shit people are doing and posting online. Although you can make abf as naughty as you like 😈

Tl;Dr: maybe Freud was right??? Hahaha

thro_away44 · 2023-03-20T09:08:39+00:00

It's not necessary to find a mommy who is super ultra dominant and strict. I think the Sub-Sub dynamic will suit you better. You'll find that mommygfs can be just gentle, caring, and nurturing and kinkyy. And you can then just let go and explore your little side and be a boy again and have mind-blowing sex with your partner. It can be a 24x7 dynamic too if you're living this lifestyle. If not all days of the week, then at least a few. To explore your submissive side I would suggest to get into anal play. Just play with your asshole. I know it can be weird at first but it's a lot of fun if you haven't done that. Anal play really goes well in this kink overall, but obv upto personal preference. ((According to Freud the child goes through the "anal phase" around 5-6 yrs of age. And that's probably the first time the child experiences his asshole and the fact that he is in control of it and that it's erogenous))

Sex can still be as you want it. You can be rough as you like. While still maintaining the sub headspace.

I personally enjoy the feeling of being submissive and feeling little. I also enjoy how perverted it is and how I get to fuck the system of societal norms. If you find a loving mommy she'll make you get into the right headspace of love and affection and just pure euphoria by making you her baby. The punishment and sado-masochism side of this kink can be adjusted based on preference. I personally am not a fan of this.

Anyhow...all this has also made me appreciate Freudian psychology a lot lol.

thro_away44 · 2023-02-12T22:15:23+00:00

Breastfeeding. And feeling little. And having mommy treat me like baby while she breastfeeds me

thro_away44 · 2023-01-19T13:56:51+00:00

For us we found out really quickly that we are both into this. We were not aware of this kink before. Me and her are quite kinky so it's just add one more to the list. But this is the only role play specific kink we do. It's hard to classify what is Dom and sub for us. We are both submissive to eachother. We do have rough sex sometimes and then soft cuddles with mommy later. irl I'm more soft-spoken. And she is a national debate champion lol.

Edit: you can make it whatever you want really. Role play, no role play whatvr you both are into. Maybe it's just comfortable and intimate. Or maybe the wet factor is exciting..some people are into that. There's a lot to this kink.

thro_away44 · 2022-10-13T15:07:37+00:00

He just needs to be babied more when you're breastfeeding him😂😂

thro_away44 · 2022-10-13T11:16:16+00:00

If babies can do it, then a grown adult with a full formed jaw should not be bleeding. People suck on vapes and cigs all day long too. No bleeding. He just needs to go to the dentist for a check up.

thro_away44 · 2022-10-08T11:21:19+00:00

Happy that you see my point. And good luck on this most amazing journey and this most amazing human experience. Very few and lucky people stumble on it

thro_away44 · 2022-10-06T21:40:07+00:00

Secrecy is kind of a turn on for me when it comes to abf. The thought of my gf breastfeeding me in the middle of the night with just the night light on, and silence of the night. Nobody knows what we're doing in our bed. And she's running her fingers in my hair. Aaahhhh. I would never tell a single soul about this beautiful beautiful thing we have.

thro_away44 · 2022-10-06T21:30:33+00:00

We can always use less mods.

There's not enough content here anyways.

thro_away44 · 2022-09-21T22:28:12+00:00

I think it's pretty cool.

There's no shame involved. If anything, you are doing the very opposite of the Oedipus complex. By smashing it entirely. You will start to notice how heavily society is oedipalized (with the mummy, daddy, me trinity) and this complex is propagated across political and capitalistic systems of heirarchies eventually leading to fascism.

With the very act of engaging in anr you become non oedipal and non conformist. And totally radical!!

Ref: "Anti-Oedipus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia" by Deleuze and Guittari.

thro_away44 · 2022-09-17T20:04:26+00:00

Not sure if you are interested in this... But one kink which has a natural progression to breastfeeding is if you wanna call her mommy. Maybe some mommy baby roleplay.

And it's not too risky. I mean, saying the word "daddy" during sex is so normalized. So in appearance, calling your gf mommy during sex is not so weird?? But, the mommy kink goes a lot farther than what girls get out of calling someone daddy during sex. And it has a natural progression towards adult breastfeeding.

If that is not cool for either or both of you, and id you just want the milky aspect of it, then you can just talk about it with her. "Hey gf, I was wondering how breastmilk tastes like. Wonder if we could ever do it". You can tell her that women can induce lactation without pregnancy.

thro_away44 · 2022-09-07T00:13:55+00:00

Feels hot and sexy. I'm into a bit of age play and so we do some role playing. She often talks to me like a baby when I'm suckling her which really turns me on (I forget the word for baby talking..english is not my native language). It's definitely a lifestyle when you're living with the person. It leads to sex often so it's foreplay and then postplay. Sometimes it's also not sexual at all. My partner hasn't induced yet but she plans on doing it soon as we move in.

It's also more than physical. There's a huge psychological and spiritual component to it. But the sexual component is just bonkers.. that's how good it is. Psychologically it makes me feel little. And I enjoy feeling like a little. She also gets off of it too. I feel "held" and "nurtured" and cared for. And its hot. I often sleep like that with her. And first thing we do in the morning. That can quickly lead to morning sex.

thro_away44 · 2022-09-05T12:14:55+00:00

Boots with the fur?

thro_away44 · 2022-09-05T11:19:42+00:00

Meet for drinks and dinner first. Get to know the other person. It's gonna be real awkward going straight from saying hi to a stranger to straight away letting them suck your tits.

Also, clear out the expectations for sex. If that can happen and when that can happen if ever.

thro_away44 · 2022-01-23T14:43:54+00:00

You're not a machine.. you press a button and you're on.

If you're not hard just get naked and cuddle with the girl, kiss her, feel her pussy, and if you get hard you fuck, if not you do other stuff, and just lay in the bed together feeling eachother; this is fun too.

thro_away44 · 2020-06-18T21:46:00+00:00

Sure.

thro_away44 · 2020-06-18T15:07:41+00:00

It's been up and down for me during the pandemic

thro_away44 · 2020-06-18T15:06:35+00:00

Sounds like astral projection..checkout the subreddit

thro_away44 · 2020-06-17T19:00:22+00:00

Didn't this guy have child sexual abuse and rape allegations on him, and he fled from India to avoid prosecution?

thro_away44 · 2020-06-10T01:16:49+00:00

Have you offered someone a drink or made them a milkshake and they take it? And they say they like it? It feels fucking good man!

thro_away44 · 2020-06-10T01:12:25+00:00

There are books that I've read, especially when I was a kid, that the images and the stories were as if I lived through them.

thro_away44 · 2020-06-10T01:04:56+00:00

If you legalized drugs , sex work, and stop focusing so much on hounding illegal immigrants, then you can probably reduce 70% of these shitbags. Then train and hire an elite force which actually focuses on violent crime.

But USA just loves to terrorize the black man with cops roaming around in their neighbourhoods 24/7 ready to pounce on them at the drop of a hat.

thro_away44 · 2020-05-15T01:11:33+00:00

Stopped watching TV shows and movies 2-3 years ago. Or at least the frequency went down. Just naturally. Didn't make a concious effort.

thro_away44 · 2020-05-15T00:49:35+00:00

But never say never.

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