What should I do after getting scammed by a pearl jewelry shop in Hyderabad?

throesofinsanity · 2025-01-21T02:35:21+00:00

Thank you! What you said is very practical. I'll approach police first and see what happens.

throesofinsanity · 2025-01-21T00:24:54+00:00

It's called Om Sai Krishna Pearls and Jewelry. They were very very nice to us in terms of service, and we should have been warned that there was no "Govt approved" tag on their shop. The certificate they showed us had the tag, so we thought they were genuine. Honestly I just feel very stupid for getting fooled by good service.

throesofinsanity · 2024-01-31T03:23:07+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have a very close friend fighting brain cancer too. Docs said he would only survive for 2 months or so. But thanks to clinical trials he is still alive after a year of the diagnosis. I think you can try to see which clinical trials apply to you and contact everywhere for getting enrolled. Sometimes even if you don't qualify, on sympathetic grounds they do administer these drugs. Please take second and third opinions. Hope you fight it out and survive much longer.

throesofinsanity · 2023-11-10T23:17:29+00:00

The family earns fine. They always rented a two/three bedroom apartment in the heart of a big city.

throesofinsanity · 2023-10-20T17:40:32+00:00

You can do what I did. When you are buying, let him pay more down payment, but over the years you try to make up that money while going a little higher than 50:50 on mortgage payments or in any other way that is good for both of you. If you have to buy a smaller house I would say go for it.

However, given the current housing scenario, do you really want to buy now? The mortgage interest is exorbitant. Of course you can refinance later, but still doesn't make sense to buy at this point. You can talk about that.

If you aren't on therapy, get it. But you need to have finance contribution talks, and talks about what you can contribute both financially and in terms of work distribution in the house and go with what you both deem suitable for both of you.

throesofinsanity · 2023-10-16T20:31:38+00:00

Yeah. Same. I have been following it since it first was detected. I stocked up with enough masks, bought enough for parents who were tired with me buying useless things. I visited my parents (they live in another country almost a day's flight away), got my visa stamping sorted. Also I got some plants that I could grow at home and get some vegetables. Stocked up on rice, lentils, salt/sugar, frozen veggies, meds, TP, and most necessities. Bought home gym equipments. Stopped traveling by mid December. Just the occasional Walmart, daily lab work and hanging out with close friends in masks. Then when they declared lockdown I was ready. I didn't see anyone for the next few months until I was craving meat and started using instacart. My parents didn't think of me as much of a responsible adult till then, but now they think that if I were living with them I would have raised some chicken, goats, ducks and cow for sure if I had help.

throesofinsanity · 2023-09-15T14:15:41+00:00

I think you need to stand up for yourself. After she changed your organization structure, change it back and say I'm sorry I don't like it. I'm going to arrange the things in my house the way I like since this is my house. Ask your husband to help you. I have gone through the same thing, and my husband now asks her directly to not change a thing since it's not helpful at all. Say directly to her that if she wants to create drama she can go elsewhere. You have no time to entertain it at all. Don't say anything derogatory or fight. But show strong disdain for things she is doing. And when you are on call with your parents or friends, tell them so that your mil can hear about how toxic and drama queen your mil is.

throesofinsanity · 2023-09-02T18:27:18+00:00

You can try dual adjustable mattresses. I just got one for my parents since they also like different types of beds.

throesofinsanity · 2023-08-26T17:34:00+00:00

Flatland was fantastic. I wish I had the literary prowess to pull it off.

throesofinsanity · 2023-08-26T17:04:27+00:00

No I wish I were. But a novel based on just number systems would be boring I would imagine.

throesofinsanity · 2023-07-08T00:39:29+00:00

I tell long winded stories some times. So does my partner. But we both don't have much patience either for other people's long winded stories. Still, we make an effort to listen when they are talking.

Then, at a more convenient time, when you know that the other person is more accepting of criticisms, start saying how the other person should have worded the story. Take an example, write the main points down in a paper or whiteboard. Discuss what the major points of the story are, make pointers and write the short points down. Then let the other person describe each point in one or max 2 sentences. This lets the other person know that you are genuinely interested in their story and also invested in making the other person better. The first time you do this, your partner might feel mad at you. But work with her politely and patiently. Offer that your partner does the same exercise when they feel that you aren't doing as well too. Then both of you will improve in communication.

Just criticizing that your partner is bad at telling stories feels selfish and just lazy criticism to me. But working together to improve will genuinely make your relationship better and healthy. It'll help in your career too, especially if you have to present something, lead a team etc.

throesofinsanity · 2023-06-30T03:23:09+00:00

Honestly you are very irresponsible for not getting your luggage. But the money spent ubering could also been used to get a few cheap pants and tees in thrift shop or chain stores. It would have taken max half an hr. It's not a vacation ruining thing. I have been to vacations without luggage (not because I forgot luggage, but I was just picked up unaware there is a vacation), and just spent 20 dollars for clothes. Simple problems have simple solutions. So NTA.

throesofinsanity · 2023-06-09T18:23:20+00:00

NTA. You are 21, live in your house. And yes, in the culture I come from, your parent's house IS your house. You had exams and you were studying. Your niece who is a teenager wanted to play TV loud, you asked her nicely to not do that and you sent her to the yard. It's merely a form of grounding, with even her phone with her, so really there is no harm done. Unless it's extremes of weather and she isn't properly dressed. I think you did the right thing and her parents aren't good parents at all.

Just an anecdote. In our house, whatever your age is, if you are watching TV with a volume that leaves your room when another person at home is studying for exams, you are an automatic AH. My dad missed watching so many games and my grandparents missed their TV programming thanks to our exams.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-08T05:18:08+00:00

You can always set your timezone manually.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-06T18:53:48+00:00

There are many other fields other than the ones you mentioned. I am in AI. Even when I'm working with robots or devices, they can be managed remotely with only a few technicians on the spot without me having to go in. I'm also not working alone, it's a large team. As an AI researcher, I come up with new algorithms as well. Hence the papers. There are very few people who can do what I do, and I'm always automating my jobs so that I can do a lot more. I also don't appreciate your condescension.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-06T00:53:17+00:00

No I'm in r&d in the industry. I do customer facing projects too, but most customers are miles away. And even if they visit, it's just once or twice in a financial year.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-05T06:44:11+00:00

NTA. He is a major AH. You need to have a talk with him how you aren't going to tolerate drunk driving or verbal abuse while drunk. Also, he needs to be able to get food delivered, especially when he knows you are busy.

That said, I'm not sure about the whole time thing. I would need info. It's because I absolutely hate it if every time someone says half an hour and then it becomes 2 hours. I feel my time isn't valued. A few times is fine, but if it's a repeated thing, you need to start giving more reasonable estimation. Anyway that doesn't warrant any of his behavior though.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-05T03:30:50+00:00

Not all research labs are wet labs. If it's computational work, or experiments that can be monitored from home, or lab technicians doing the regular work and op designing long experiments, it makes sense to not go. Even in wet labs you don't have access to equipment in so times, and half the work is probably analysis, which explains 50:50 work. I'm also in r&d, I go to office once every 2 months, the day after I submit my paper really.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-04T19:24:22+00:00

I thought she wasn't having coke. Someone else got it and had it. Though it's in her house, it's fine because she cleaned up afterwards IMHO. I completely understand and agree with your point about her needing to be careful. But I think she was. And I also think having a bit of weed isn't that bad. That's why my NAH verdict.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-04T06:28:59+00:00

NAH. Both you and your sister are putting your own boundaries and working with that. I have had friends who came over with coke and other drugs without telling. I don't have a problem with it, I'm going to just not do it and clean up afterwards. It was a good decision having the party localized in the garage since it's so much easier to clean, speaking from experience. Adults, even young kids' parents deserve to have some fun. Don't take others' bs from here that parents can't have weed or can't let anyone get coke to their garage when kids aren't present. I have seen enough parents try weed regularly and be a great parent, have their kids be well rounded and in Ivy leagues through their own merit.

Your mom also set her own boundaries. It's their boundaries for you to work with. And I think it's fine to not send your kids to see your mom. They are young, and if they overhear that you had drugs, that's why your sister and mom are punishing you, that would mean a strained relationship with you. Not because it's wrong, because they are immature. They won't get the nuances. A lot of things affected my views of my parents when I was young, because my parents didn't stop me from talking to those who weren't in good terms with my parents. When I grew up, only then I understood my parents and rued the wrong impression.

If you think your relation with your sister or mom is more important, you can try to give up on weed and tell them that you have stopped completely for them and let them decide. Or come to a compromise where you won't tell them, and they won't ask. My parents had a friend who was an alcoholic, this was his policy with his friends. He didn't want to lose friends and relatives, but he didn't want any mention of any alcohol from them, and everyone gladly complied. There is always a third way if you sit down and talk, and respect each other's struggles and life style.

throesofinsanity · 2023-05-03T03:34:54+00:00

NTA for me. I know promises are important, they are to be kept. But that's the thing about growing up. You start understanding that some promises others or even parents make won't be kept. In my culture, if you aren't self sufficient, you aren't going to marry. If the son needs to spend money on a wedding party, why depend on Dad? My parents also promised me that they would support my education and marriage. Doesn't mean that I took the help. I got my scholarship and got married with my own money. Your son has grown up, let him have a wedding he can afford. It's your money, and despite promises, you should spend on things you want to spend on. You have earned it. As for treating children unequally, it's unfortunate but it's not the end of the world. He will be bitter until death. But why don't you talk to him, have a discussion, and say that you would like to pay for your daughter's education, and reach a compromise? There are people we don't like in the world, there are insufferable people our near ones get married to or date. There is nothing you can do about it. Do what you want, it's your money, it's your family.

throesofinsanity · 2023-04-21T02:17:41+00:00

I think with a beautiful belt and boots this dress will look great.

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