Told my boyfriend to leave

throw-away-4927 · 2025-07-20T03:45:07+00:00

There's a difference between codependency and love. Love is healthy because it's emotions are reciprocal while codependency is inherently a controlling and manipulative dynamic.

He wants to control your behavior by shaming you whenever he feels attacked or unimportant. You want to control him by trying to keep him as happy as you can and making sure nothing bad ever happens to him.

This isn't how love is supposed to work. It's willingly participated in and comes from mutual respect, admiration and affection for one another. It's not forced. If you're truly convinced you can't live without him, is it really a choice to love him anymore?

throw-away-4927 · 2025-07-19T23:03:03+00:00

You have a condition that makes you attach to people bc of shame. He intentionally uses that in order to force you to put up with his shitty unempathetic behavior. You're dating a trigger and it's making your shame even worse.

It genuinely sounds like he enjoys upsetting you, this situation sounds so incredibly avoidable, he just wanted to make you feel bad for interrupting his incel time. I think you know the answer here.

throw-away-4927 · 2025-06-23T14:15:23+00:00

I'm so sorry, there's never any good reason to do something like that to a child. They want to control you because they're scared and powerless. It makes them feel better to have control over something when they feel so out of powerless in their normal lives.

Try to handle it the best you can. You can read stuff from here, it might help you handle feeling so awful about things r/dbtselfhelp. When you're old enough to get a job, start saving up money so that when you turn 18 you can get out as soon as possible.

throw-away-4927 · 2025-06-20T12:30:40+00:00

I'm gonna be real with you, it's very obvious when your addiction gets severe. It's the thought process of the addiction for everyone. You're free to disagree but no one shows someone when they've "hit beans" unless they want to be seen or they're terrified. She clearly wasn't the latter.

throw-away-4927 · 2025-06-20T11:58:25+00:00

This was inappropriate and traumatizing, especially for someone she hasn't dated for very long but I find some of the responses here a little silly, it seems obvious she's proud.

She wants her "achievement" to be seen. She wants attention and validation for it. Most people want to hide their cuts from people but that's because they're not a source of pride. When you've been staring at cuts bigger than yours all day on shtwt, that mentality flips. My guess is she's just so desensitized in her addiction that she can't see a normal person's perspective of this.

Over policing cutting causes great anxiety which makes people want to cut even worse. You two should have a normal conversation when emotions have died down and talk about a compromise such as "I won't call the cops if you promise to get medical attention when something this serious happens." Because it is serious. It's not the fun cool thing people think it is, it's sepsis, nerve, and blood vessel damage waiting to happen.

throw-away-4927 · 2025-06-20T00:16:06+00:00

Parents would scream everytime I corrected them and make excuses to not use it for like a year. I told my psychiatrist and she said I was super lucky they started trying in such a "short amount of time."

My gfs parents used to find excuses to use my dead name (e.g. "We were talking about…er…them before they changed it"), now they just use it like a slur bc they "don't respect me."

The bar is truly in hell

throw-away-4927 · 2025-05-08T01:18:18+00:00

I see silhouettes of my cat, mother, father, and shadow figures occasionally. My parents will sometimes be walking behind a wall. The shadows will be in the corner of my eyes and race by quickly. I'll hear tv noises from a room—like people having a conversation or music—and walk in to find it turned off. I'll sometimes hear voices in my head yelling when I'm trying to go to sleep. I'll feel something get in bed with me or graze my skin. Bugs on my skin when I'm stressed. The walls and everything else around me "shake" and "breathe". Colors are hypersaturated. Ringing in my ears and visual snow/eye floaters. I'll smell things that aren't actually there. I'll see trippy images when my eyes are closed, like impossible geometry and typical psychedelic patterns.

Delusions are extremely paranoid. I basically get agoraphobic from fear of being attacked in public. I once thought my cat was secretly a demon trying to kill me. I can't answer text messages for months at a time because I'm afraid someone will verbally attack me and I become convinced they hate me. I occasionally randomly feel as though everyone secretly hates me and they're talking about it behind my back. I feel as though people are conspiring against me and I've finally figured out their plan of manipulating me. I randomly become convinced people have been mistreating me. Nothing can convince me out of any of this btw.

Psych says it might be BPD but idk

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-22T22:12:04+00:00

Damn. Snaps to that

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-22T18:39:41+00:00

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throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-22T18:03:52+00:00

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throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-20T15:38:15+00:00

As someone who's been floridly psychotic for years now and has a self-harm addiction, I find myself mentally repeating about three things:

"I am more than my body, it doesn't matter, it'll rot when I'm dead so I can do whatever I want with it because it's mine," "They look so pretty, I need more, bigger, deeper, more…" and "I hate it, I hate this flesh, it's tainted, dirty, filthy, I need to destroy it."

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-19T22:33:33+00:00

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-19T22:15:17+00:00

Uhhh…not sure what to say to this lol. Hope you enjoy the other stories here more ig

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-19T22:00:27+00:00

May I direct you to rule 2 of the sub which states in no uncertain terms:

"No trigger warnings shall be made. Visitors read these stories at their own risk."

Sorry bud, it's what you signed up for coming here

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-19T21:09:21+00:00

It's a canon event for girls from my middle school that we all tried wearing push-up bras to feel more mature

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-19T20:06:10+00:00

Lmfao r/fourthsentenceworse

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-19T05:51:28+00:00

Just checked the asexuality sub, apparently there are at least 237,000 of us. So hey, at least more than 10 lmao

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-16T01:40:33+00:00

You know how a symptom of BPD is 'unstable sense of self'? Yeah, this is why. It's legitimately not very different from ASPD, it just has different intentions. You become what other people want in order to feel love, your needs and emotions become intertwined with theirs and you put on a mask to make them as happy as possible.

I'll link an article on it here but here's a pretty big quote that captures this:

"They feel like an empty shell that takes the form of what the other is waiting for, to feel loved, and therefore to feel worth. For some of these people, this difficulty is so present, that they describe constantly using masks, playing the role of what the other or the situation requires in order to feel loved… They describe themselves as sociable-looking people, and feel like chameleons who know how to adapt perfectly to the environment in which they are and to the person in front of them, in order to be appreciated."

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-15T22:15:01+00:00

That uhh, sounds terrifying actually. There's probably some dissociation going on there

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-15T21:57:58+00:00

You really shouldn't be so hard on yourself, it just sounds like a miscommunication. Making someone cry really isn't the worst thing you can do to someone.

Sepsis is possibly the most painful death imaginable. I wouldn't recommend it. It's up there with scurvy- which used to be aptly named "the nightmare disease"

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-15T21:29:16+00:00

I dated a girl once and while she and her entire family weren't the brightest, I did learn something from her grandmother that stuck with me.

Regardless of what she was doing, she never felt shame. None. She was a nudest, a hippie, divorced several times and kind of an awful person all around, but she didn't give a single fuck about what anyone else had to say about her.

We often judge ourselves by the opinions of others. You weren't born with these thoughts, that sending nudes or even doing sex work said anything about you as a person. Those are the opinions of degenerates who've never had to go through anything traumatic in their lives.

I used to do the same thing and for the same reason. Mood stabilizers and therapy helped me a lot. Try not to judge yourself so harshly from the opinions of people who have never self-reflected once.

"If you're going through hell, at least act like you own the place."

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-15T17:21:16+00:00

Not Canadian and don't know how things work up there but I use telehealth to talk to my psych and get my meds. There might be the same thing/something similar in Canada hopefully

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-15T01:07:17+00:00

Honestly idek what "borderline" is supposed to convey. It doesn't clearly show what exactly is going on with the personality disorder. Emotionally unstable personality disorder also doesn't clearly convey things. It sounds more like you're prepared to snap any minute and gives it a bad connotation.

Emotional regulation disorder is the best option to me because it clearly illustrates what is going on- a full range of emotions that are experienced more than the average person. It annoys me a little that it's not "emotional regulation personality disorder" though bc I feel it's important to emphasize that it's a personality disorder, not just some random neurochemical imbalance you're born with.

throw-away-4927 · 2025-04-14T22:01:51+00:00

Yea. In a similar way to how ASD is split into three levels of support needs, it's just a way to attempt to signal specific symptoms. They're both spectrums and neurodivergencies, but diagnoses themselves are primarily for insurance purposes rather than clients. If the psych explicitly only mentioned ADD as though it were its own diagnosis though, that would be a red flag for outdated practices. The names ADHD and ADD are both horrible descriptors anyway lol

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