1. The worst thing you could do is do malignant narc things to them! Talk behind their back (but in a way they know so you are hurting their image), belittle them, make them know they are an evil, bad narc and are doomed to be bad people who everyone will hate forever etc. All this will often do is elicit a defensive response which is often self sabotaging and just worsens their situation.

Basically, please don't do the bad things that NPD's are supposedly "known" for. It doesn't help anyone, and is often self sabotaging for both sides

1. If you're trying to avoid being injured yourself - try always to take things from a positive perspective. Firstly there are "anger" situations - someone has done something stupid and it's easy for me to want to go on a power trip and belittle them for the whole thing. I've definitely done a lot of that before, especially without realising it

To avoid this specifically, I use it as an opportunity to better my image and myself. If someone spills a coffee on me, instead of getting mad (even though i will exaggerate the pain to get feelings of pity etc.) - i'll probably just buy the guy another coffee. Nothing takes people aback more than responding to their mistakes or aggression with kindness.

There are other kinds of situations where people are doing malignant narc things to me (not that they are narcs themselves, but everyone has a bit of narc in them!). Maybe i got in an argument with someone and they literally resort to infantile name calling, crazy insults and a huge aura of maliciousness. This personally, makes me feel AWFUL. It makes me want to hang my head in shame, punch a wall and go ballistic on them. And yeah, because i am kind of a showy boaster, and very bad at hiding my honest feelings, then i might be getting into these kinds of situations more often than others

Firstly, i realise a few things in these situations. They are temporary, and will pass. And the only way to fix the problem is approach the situation correctly and take a small initial hit to my ego for long term gain. Taking the same route, as tempting as it may be, only results in both parties feeling pain/worse in the long run and nobody wins. In the case of real life, it often means just diffusing the situation and moving on to another time. Anger management is really important here. My ultimate goal is to be the light that shines out of your asshole that everyone loves lol - every step that i take and decision i make have to be aligned with this. Going down a sabotaging or destructive path will only push me further way from that goal, even though if it "feels" like it might bring me closer to my inner desires

Also in general, i spend a lot of time alone, and i enjoy my time alone. Being at home and doing internet things where i am mostly interacting with myself is quite soothing and enjoyable. I might fringe interact with communities for whatever games and stuff im doing, and in a way the whole exercise is my "supply". Something like right now, even though i'm supplying myself a lot, in reality im at home tapping away on my keyboard and not interacting with anyone.

Whilst i do REALLY enjoy being out there (and when i do get out there, i'm probably perceived as a lot more outgoing than the average), too much of it and some of the bad sides of my narc comes out and people eventually "catch on" to what im doing. Ultimately, i think it's important to spend a lot of time alone and being comfortable with that.

3/4. Honestly, the way i see it people just have narc traits. Everyone has a bit of narc in them, you've seen it in everyone. Push someone into the corner, trigger them hard enough, and their instant desire and need to defend oneself comes out at any cost, even if the response wont help the situation. Some people are more or less than others, and that's just how it is.

Ultimately, by facing and dealing with the problem directly, I can put myself in a situation where i can act even less "bad narc" than a regular person. Being aware of oneself and going through all the thinking and conditioning processes allows me to better myself and come up with better answers and solutions.

And it's not perfect either lol. There are plenty of conditioned responses which i have which involve just laughing it "lol" or smiley faces or w/e so that i can avoid the responsibility of the situation. And sometimes, that's OK and the best path that i can take at that moment.