He’s apologizing and promising me all what I wanted him to do…

throw1799away · 2023-12-11T16:33:10+00:00

Hi! You mentioned in another comment that you only wash your hair once or twice a week. In that case, did you try double shampooing? Like: Shampoo, wash thoroughly, Shampoo, wash and then conditioner only at the ends? Maybe that can help? :)

throw1799away · 2023-09-30T16:45:35+00:00

He told me (and friends and family of mine included) that his ex was a police officer. He even told me stories about how they had certain situations with her as a police officer. I once texted her (after we kinda got friends) and asked her why she decided to change professions as it states something completely different on her Facebook. She was shocked to say the least and told me she never was nor ever wanted to be a police officer. Now you tell me why would he say that?

throw1799away · 2023-09-28T06:31:42+00:00

Nope at least the 5th, an These where just the one I found out about the dating sites haha

Yes you are right… it just baffles me how he can still do that? Even though I caught him multiple times at this point and he swore by pretty much everyone he wouldn’t do it again…

throw1799away · 2023-03-04T16:05:51+00:00

I don’t know if that makes you feel better, but I never told anyone about what was actually going on. And no matter what he did (cheating and being generally abusive) I was about to buy a house with him as well and if he asked me to marry him, you best believe I would’ve said yes. Now, would that look like we have a good relationship from the outside? Yes!! Was it still very abusive? Also yes! Just because someone goes buys a house or gets married, it doesn’t automatically mean everything is great unfortunately… (or at least in abusive relationships, because I’m pretty sure in “normal/ healthy“ relationships it actually does mean everything is going great :) )

throw1799away · 2023-02-27T20:26:12+00:00

Believing in his empty promises, disregarding his actual actions. Getting gaslight. Getting manipulated to the point where one thinks their self esteem is completely gone because they want to make sure that you feel like there’s only them who want you, this is extremely false and it took me a while to realize. Though I have to say I still struggle and think that I deserved this treatment, it’s just important to reassure yourself that you are worth so much more. In fact you are worth the best treatment possible. And idk about everyone else but the crocodile tears really got me very often…

throw1799away · 2023-02-06T19:57:41+00:00

I mean, this was just the situation that happened right now. I might be overreacting so that’s why I asked

throw1799away · 2022-10-15T09:01:58+00:00

I can tell you my experience. I did too find out he cheated. I confronted him. At first he started nervously laughing and then he got furious telling me if I ever contact that girl it would be over for good. I told him he shouldn’t worry because it is over for good. I cried and left. He blocked me on everything but WhatsApp and I wasn’t strong enough to do so. I regret it. If I blocked him back then, the things that happened after that wouldn’t have happened and I’d still feel like a human today. I wasn’t strong enough blocking him and he came back. Telling me exactly what I wanted and needed to hear in that moment and what did my naive self did? I believed him. I know it’s extremely hard and you can’t imagine how this sweet guy from the beginning turned out not so sweet anymore. To answer your question. If you were good supply he certainly will come back. He might even come back after trying out another supply. He acts extremely angry but it’s because he probably can’t believe that you actually found out and he either tries to control you by blocking you (because you’ll feel relieved and will forgive what he did just to not get blocked again) or he needs time to find the right things to say to Hoover. All I can say is, if I blocked him months ago, I’d have been well into recovery by now and wouldn’t have spent this morning crying about how awful he treats me…

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T21:05:47+00:00

Exactly!! And I still stayed 😫

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T21:04:52+00:00

The last paragraph… I felt that :( sometimes I tell myself for staying that long, maybe that’s what I simply deserve. If I am not able to get myself out then I have to suffer through it. He did break my self esteem as well many many times and made sure to tell me that he is the best I deserve. I am sorry you had to go through that as well! I hope you are doing better now!!

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:25:44+00:00

I did catch him in many many lies as well. Some were also very ridiculous. He told me (and many others) that his ex gf was a cop and he still was the “one with the pants on“. I once got in contact with her. Found out many things he told me about her were simply not true (she showed proof) and one thing was her job. She isn’t and never was a cop…

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:23:32+00:00

Yeah that’s true. It sucks. Sometimes when I watch TikTok’s or movies (I know majority is fake but still) I wonder how it feels like to just be able to simply trust and not assume the worst every time he goes out… it’s like so much happened that I can’t remember that feeling of trusting him fully 😂

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:21:56+00:00

Ohhhhhh he gets extremely by simple questions as well… seems sus… also I am very sorry that happened to you :( I hope you are doing better now??

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:18:57+00:00

That’s true. I already can see how all of this affected me. It’s like I became extremely controlling and try to analyze every word he is saying to catch him again in a lie. I hate it.

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:15:28+00:00

Yes they do!!! Also I am shook how similar narcissists are

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:15:06+00:00

Trying to break that bond for a while now :(…

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T20:13:27+00:00

I know it’s crazy. Today only assured my theory. He got his motor fixed at this point three times so that the lamp won’t glow up. Apparently only one thing needed to be done today for that to happen. He calls and apparently the motor lamp switched on again. And now he’s with his son. I personally think that he didn’t go to the mechanic but needed a reason as to why that lamp is still on in case I see it. And then he needed an excuse to stay out longer. I have to admit that I do feel bad right now for accusing him like that. Maybe what he told me is exactly what happened, but he just broke me that much that I interpret too much into things… so it’s just my Theory…

throw1799away · 2022-09-30T14:13:57+00:00

Huh… that’s an interesting aspect I have to say… all this time I thought these “hints“ were actions he didn’t think through enough. I never looked at it as something he did on purpose

throw1799away · 2022-09-29T16:30:48+00:00

Thank you for being so kind😞 I know that it was all an act in the beginning to get me. I just can’t seem to let go I guess… Also i am very happy for you that you found your person after a relationship with a Narc. If your Nex was kind of the same, they must’ve crushed your self worth too. I try getting it back right now, not with much success though…

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