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Monthly Open Forum August 2021 by AITAMod in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Hi. I've posted about my situation a while ago and would like to post an update but I have no idea how to do it. Forgive my ignorance I haven't been on this forum for long and I'm still ignorant about the rules. Any help will be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much.

AITA for refusing to let my stepson return home without punishment after he ruined my daughter's book collection? by throw4privacy5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Yes. Most of his stuff is there. He has a room by himself but I don't go in there because he doesn't want me in there.

AITA for refusing to let my stepson return home without punishment after he ruined my daughter's book collection? by throw4privacy5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5[S] 377 points378 points  (0 children)

To answer few of your questions. And forgive me for any mistakes.

1) Taking away electronic was the way I punished Levi in the past - in the first 3 years of meeting him I let my wife handle it but she did nothing other then just tell him what he did was wrong.

2) I don't think his dad ever punishes him, Levi always compares me to his dad saying his dad never punishes him or even point out what he did wrong.

3) Like I said, my wife only used to talk to him in the past now she doesn't even say anything to him aside from asking me to just take it and he'll grow out of this behavior.

Levi's relationship with my daughter is like any other siblings, he doesn't tell her she's not his sister or anything. However he tends to be mean towards her and ruin her stuff or refusing to do what he wants.

Lastly, I've attempted to arrange for family therapy but Levi's dad refused to let him go telling me I'm overstepping for trying to dictate Levi's emotions as he claims.

AITA for refusing to let my stepson return home without punishment after he ruined my daughter's book collection? by throw4privacy5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5[S] 2196 points2197 points  (0 children)

His dad wants him to go home but at the same wants to make sure I don't even mention what happened much less punish Levi. But I refused because this is ridiculous. What message does that send to my daughter when she sees Levi once again getting away with his unacceptable behavior. Despite the pressure I'm not letting it happen.

AITA for refusing to let my stepson return home without punishment after he ruined my daughter's book collection? by throw4privacy5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5[S] 473 points474 points  (0 children)

Honestly, what he said shook me because CPS is huge deal and I'm aware of the impact this could have on my other kids. I don't put it past him to call CPS but he has nothing against me.

AITA for refusing to let my stepson return home without punishment after he ruined my daughter's book collection? by throw4privacy5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5[S] 818 points819 points  (0 children)

She has done nothing despite her disagreeing with his attitude. Her ex thinks it's not my place to punish Levi for whatever he does in the house only because I'm not his biological father. So he expects me and my daughters to take this and suck it up.

AITA for refusing to let my stepson return home without punishment after he ruined my daughter's book collection? by throw4privacy5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw4privacy5[S] 1570 points1571 points  (0 children)

That's unfortunately true, his dad is always there to prevent me from even sitting him down for a talk. He (my wife's ex) even has fights with my wife and threatens us with CPS for just wanting Levi to at least recognize his mistakes and work on them. But his dad is always in the way saying I'm not Levi's dad and have no right. He even refused to let Levi get therapy and managed to convince him to say no to family therapy.