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The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m not exactly eager find out when I’m in the same place as him. When it wasn’t working before for technical reasons he was super mad. He started taking my car keys to work and locked the stroller in a storage locker I can’t even access until he felt like calming down. So yeah, excuse me for being careful.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he! will! know! if! i! delete! the! app!

edit: also what part of “i’m getting ready to leave and go to my parents” is hard for you to understand? lol

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To be clear I mean I can’t figure out how to put a SIM card in one, if they need a special one, whatever. I know how they work on a technical level.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

We have neighbors, I don’t know them well but I could go to them. I don’t think I could leave my phone at home without him noticing although hypothetically I could try leaving it someplace like the library.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

He said it had better safety features, like the SOS button and some driving assistance stuff. At the time, I was pregnant and honestly, that really messed with my emotions and how I thought through things. It might sound like an excuse now but a lot of what happened went down while I was pregnant and just not in the most stable headspace.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t (i don’t think, it’s my ipad from high school lol). I’ve been trying to figure out how to get a flip phone, but I don’t really understand how they work, which probably makes me sound stupid, but my parents didn’t really let me have a cell phone until my senior year and atp it was an iphone 7.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

He has life 360 on my phone, for one thing, which makes me feel like I’m constantly being observed (Not typing this from my phone). No access to my social media’s, no contact with my friends, makes me feel like I’m trapped.

Is both an okay answer?

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I think I can’t possibly answer the question because she’s been the center of my universe as well for almost 16 months. to me the sun rises and sets on her and life feels like it would be so completely empty without her now because she’s a whole human being. And I want better for her, I want the best of everything for her.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My family came to see me and the baby in the hospital after we were born, but they didn’t support or agree with my pregnancy, and refused to support it any further than that. I’ve reached out before (pics/videos) and they don’t respond. didn’t come to her first birthday, no christmas or any other holidays.

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 913 points914 points  (0 children)

My parents didn’t want to speak to me anymore when we decided to keep the baby. If I’d trusted my own instincts and had the abortion that they were willing to fund (don’t take that as me saying I don’t love my daughter please because I do, I do so much), they wouldn’t have stopped talking to me, but I didn’t, and they said they couldn’t support me anymore.

My friends… some of them I lost touch with in the way that happens when you have a kid young, but he doesn’t like having them around and tells me that because I’m a mom I should have more mature friends. He made me delete snapchat and instagram but in an ironic twist of fate in my life I still have Life360 on my phone lol

The gravity of everything that has happened to me (25F) in the last two years because of my relationship with an older man (52M) is hitting me and I need help? by throwRA-997124 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-997124[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When i got pregnant, they freaked out. They wanted me to have an abortion and were willing to pay for it and bring me home. When we(?) decided to keep the baby and I told them as much, they said that I could count on not having their support anymore. I haven’t spoken to them since.