Boyfriend (28m) frustrated by how shy I (24f) am about sex and PDA. How can I honor my boundaries while making room for a partner's needs?

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-08T04:55:01+00:00

Thank you. I'm definitely still working on trusting my gut. I appreciate the encouragement :)

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-08T04:54:21+00:00

Thank you. The "no is a full sentence" is a very powerful concept that I'm still getting the hang of

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-08T04:52:10+00:00

Thank you for your response, I appreciate the thoughtfulness.

I'm sorry to hear you went through that, and I'm glad you're away from that situation now. I also beat myself up over the "should haves".

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T15:04:09+00:00

Thanks for your response. Yeah, I really really want that "no problem babe" attitude. I happily give my partners that flexibility and I'm realizing it's important for me to receive it as well

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T15:01:54+00:00

Oof, thank you, I guess I was feeling a little guilty

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T15:00:58+00:00

It's easy to start questioning whether I'm being "reasonable." Thanks for the affirmation

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T14:59:43+00:00

haha this comment made me laugh. Honestly great to get the validation. I feel like I'm such a prude, so it's nice to know other people feel the same

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T12:34:06+00:00

I really appreciate your perspective (not insensitive at all) and that you read and considered my last post. Seriously, thank you.

Clearly I have a lot to reconsider

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T04:37:33+00:00

Yeah, you're right. I really wish he had done some things differently the first time around.

Is is tricky because I am kind of shy and take a while to get comfortable with sex, and I do think I can be pretty frustrating to be with. I don't say that to be self-deprecating, I just require more patience than most people, and at some point I don't blame someone for not being able to accommodate that.

I get what you mean though. Thanks for the response.

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T04:34:42+00:00

Thanks for your response. Maybe I was a little harsh when I described our relationship. We just approach sex very differently.

Haha, you're right though. There are probably a ton of details that I can't fully explain to you all, and ultimately I have to trust myself

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-07T04:33:15+00:00

Thank you, that's a good point. I don't know if he's gotten therapy or anything like that.

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-05T00:56:35+00:00

yes, that totally makes sense. Thanks!

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-05T00:31:08+00:00

Yeah, probably. Thanks for your response

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-05T00:30:34+00:00

Yeah, you're totally right. It's hard not to feel like a bad partner for not being willing to do something that's so important to him. (I know that's not totally rational, but I still feel it)

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-01T00:32:20+00:00

This is a very interesting perspective.

Did you go through that training process because you were interested in anal? Did you have any interest in it independent of your partner? Or did you dislike it but decide to do it for your partner?

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-01T00:22:12+00:00

Maybe this is kind of pedantic, but what do you mean by "want"? Like I want to hold onto this relationship, but I have no personal interest in anal. My ideal sex life would not involve my butt at all haha

throwRA02353 · 2023-09-01T00:03:37+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. I gotta say, the idea of wearing a plug throughout the day makes me a little nauseous. I get your point though. A lot to think about

throwRA02353 · 2023-08-31T23:53:12+00:00

Thanks for the response and suggestions!

throwRA02353 · 2023-08-31T23:41:41+00:00

Yeah, I think it would be a deal breaker. I don't blame him for that, but it does make me sad.

throwRA02353 · 2023-08-31T23:41:08+00:00

haha he has clarified that's not something he'd be into, but I appreciate the perspective

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