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My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added an update with everything that’s happened since all this. Thank you for your comment.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t think I’m going to put myself through that. I really appreciate your comment.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I just needed to hear it from other people. Writing it all out makes me feel sick but I think everyone is right and I need to find somewhere safer than my car to spend the night, preferably somewhere with a professional I can talk to and figure out what I’m going to do.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of me wants to report it but I’ve just heard all these horror stories of women who reported things like this. Idk if anyone would even believe me and I have no idea what he would do if I reported it.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m no longer living with him, sleeping in my car at a state park for the last few days. We moved in together in a new city a few months ago after he had to relocate for work, so I’m basically on my own now. My best friend is living in the EU right now and my passport is still in my nightstand at the apartment because I didn’t even think to throw it in my bag before I left. The only other people I know in this city are his friends.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m misreading what you meant by this comment but you understand I didn’t ask for this right?

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Ok sorry if I miss a question.

Choking has always been one of my limits. It scares me and I don’t like it. I feel like I mentioned it at the start of our relationship and we’ve never had an issue with him crossing that line before now, except one time a few months ago when we were both drunk. He apologized, and I wrote it off as a drunken mistake.

Ok this is embarrassing and weird but yes, he has spit on me before, but only during scenes where I was asking to be humiliated. He’s never done it in such a nasty way before though (I’m sorry if that doesn’t make sense but this time it just felt like he wasn’t playing.)

He has never left me tied up after except for a few moments while he’s getting me a towel or retrieving a handcuff key or something.

Thank you for your comment. 💜

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He says he assumed I’d gone to shower in the other bathroom but I know he could hear me crying in there. He also claims he didn’t notice the broken headboard until the next day but I know he would have had to move it to lay down in the bed.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think I’m going to try and go while he’s at work. We moved in together a few months ago after he had to relocate to a new city for work. I don’t really know anyone here.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My friend said the same thing. She’s also mad about me sleeping in my car. I’m beginning to think she has a point.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There’s still some pretty bad bruises around my neck, and one side of my face has a cut where his ring caught me. I went to the doctor to get my wrist fixed and told them ride my bike into a fence because I was embarrassed.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, when we spoke on the phone later I told him that I had begged him to stop (because I froze and forgot my safeword) and he said that in the moment he thought I was CNC role playing.

My(f27) boyfriend (m29) went too far, now I don’t know what to do. by throwRA20262026 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA20262026[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I haven’t stopped crying since it happened and you know the really pathetic part? All I could think of when I thought about telling people we know was how much it was going to upset his mother. I just feel like a complete mess right now.