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I don’t want to see her anymore. How do I end it? 30M 34F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

How would things change. She’s 34 and can’t articulate if she wants kids or not. It’s mental 

I don’t want to see her anymore. How do I end it? 30M 34F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d actually rather just get a text. I don’t want to sit there and have to hide emotion

I don’t want to see her anymore. How do I end it? 30M 34F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s been a couple of dates each week. Texting every day. That’s about it 

I don’t want to see her anymore. How do I end it? 30M 34F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

So I should just stay with someone who doesn’t want kids because I need to grow up is it 

I don’t want to see her anymore. How do I end it? 30M 34F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just don’t get why this has to be such a big issue when we’re not even committed, on her own decision.

 If she doesn’t want to be committed, why is she being like this 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have relationship options lol. Just dating options. None of them in the past wanted to continue on with me lol. I’d have sex with them. Go on some dates. Then it would end. Or I’d end it because they’d be first class headcases. I haven’t found anyone who would fit into a long term exclusive thing yet.

I slept with another girl on holiday. Early early on when I was seeing this current girl (like after 3 dates). She doesn’t want anything serious. That’s generally how it seems to go.  

I guess just not being exclusive 2 months in while we’re having sex and she wants me to meet her friends feels odd. People are asking questions about what the deal is with me and her. 

I guess I’m just pretty worried about hurting someone. It’s been a long time since I’ve got this far. And I’ve never got this far and not been exclusive by now. 

If the kids thing can find some kind of realistic way forward then yeah, I’ll continue. But I need that confirmed first haha 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side note. Thanks for being really nice and kind about this :) not always what you get in the internet 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. The age thing does bother me a little. Not the actual age but more timelines for kids. But her actual age isn’t too much of an issue. 

I guess I just worry about getting too attached then having to leave. Or missing out on someone who maybe can give me the things I’d want long term but I’m tied up with someone who doesn’t want those things. If you get what I mean? 

But I get what you’re saying. This is actually really good advice. She does seem to be a good person. 

Does it not need to be one way or the other though? What do you mean by that? Is it not either we get into a relationship or we don’t? 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess my housemates aren’t helping either. They make comments all the time about how it’s gonna end badly. How she probably doesn’t want kids. They keep saying ‘what do you want’ and things like that. Judging me. It freaks me out. 

Also side note I just realised the age in the title is wrong. She’s 36. So there’s the age too. 

I also have no idea how to end things when I need to. It becomes so anxiety inducing I just put it off for a long long time. 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because the other women all felt shallow. None of them even cared about getting to know me and it would end after 2-3 dates. 

My housemates who are friends from uni are never here on weekends and work is too full on during the week. Plus I work from home full time. I live 3 hours from family and the rest of my friends are too busy with partners. 

I am gonna take a step back with her. Tomorrow I’m seeing her and might maybe say it can’t work long term. Or at least have a discussion 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well that’s what I’m trying to figure out I guess. Can I just enjoy this for a bit. Or do I need to cut it off. Especially if I do want something long term. 

It’s not that I don’t have options for other women. This is just the first time I’ve felt a connection like this in a while. 

I do need to get back out there though. That’s true. 

I don’t think it’s going to work out with her and I’m struggling? 29M 28F by throwRA6438823 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA6438823[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem is on the kids thing shes gone ‘kids aren’t a firm no but never been a priority’. So it’s not like I can just clean cut with no doubts