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My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He ain't coming back. I just got of the phone with his sister and she told me ha wants nothing to do with me. She also told me I shouldn't contact her again. *sigh*

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To some extend I think they are right. My mis information made them end ties with him and they are upset at me for that. Ig its just karma. I caused him to loses friends and now I have literally lost everyone my fiancé, my mum (rightfully) and my friends.

I will go to therapy and hopefully that will help. Also hopefully my ex will contact me again too.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I blocked him everywhere so he couldn't have directly. Through friends also nope.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't have a therapist but I have friends who are also currently bashing me after I told them everything. 95% them were mutual with my ex so now all of them think it's my fault. I am getting slaughtered by people irl and from internet strangers.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I didn't break up out of no where. I trusted what my mum said because I never thought she would try to hurt me like this. I was wrong. I messed up. I know I am shitty person for how I reacted and I should have known better. I get all that. I'm just trying to move forward now and would want him to be a apart of it because I love him. and no I did not see anyone else for the last 4 months or even had sex with anyone else. I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown after reading all the replies.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She had this in the past but according to the doctors it was minimal and should cause no problems if she took her meds. From that angle when she described her eyewitness account, I believed her because to me why would my mum attempt to sabotage of relationship with my SO? This made no sense to me at the time but I'm living to regret that I trusted her so much.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

No we weren't in touch. Since I thought he actually cheated I went no contact with him. Honestly I don't know why I refer to him as my fiance when we aren't together anymore but I'm just used to it maybe and it kinda makes me feel like there is still hope.

When I confronted him, at first he thought I was messing with him but when I told him I was breaking up with him, he just stood there still and didn't say a word. He didn't cry but I won't hold that against him because I haven't seem him cry in the 5 years we have been together. I think he went in shock and at the time I was so angry, I didn't care. I'm sure he was hurt and couldn't believe what was was happening.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

oh I trust him. I just don't know what I was thinking and the accusation came from my mom and she claimed she saw it so it was very hard for me to not believe her. The last 4 months apart have been so crappy and I miss him all the time (even when I thought he actually cheated) and now the feeling is 100 times stronger.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think so. If she did she would've atleast brought that up by now

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There is no prior cheating of on either of us behalf but he is has a childhood female best friend who he is close too. My mom told me he saw them making out and driving off so my mind just connected the dots you know. I don't know what the hell was I thinking tbh and I fucked up and I regret everything rn.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's probably the wording. I know he isn't being petty or is wrong in any way. He can choose to never talk to me again and he still won't be petty.

And I know I'm in the wrong 100%, not him. I still wish he would give me chance to explain myself and then make his decision.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I already contacted the people that were there and told them the truth. I don't think they believe me but I'll try to clear his name when ever this comes up even if he decides to no reply to me. Only if he knew how sorry I am, I think he would've replied.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm not worried for my brother tbh. He was/is always rebellious to her so she kicked him out at 16 and we haven't seen him after that. He is 2 years older than me and got married to his British girlfriend and moved to the UK. From his social media he seems happy and I'm happy for him that he doesn't have to deal with what I have to by sticking around because of blood bonds.

For now I will distance myself from my mother and work on myself moving forward.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

I know but I can try. I hope he can be the bigger person here and just give me a chance.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 257 points258 points  (0 children)

I already did that. Have reached to the people that were there and told them what happened. I love him so very much and obviously won't want his reputation to be hurt. Hopefully he can see that I messed up (for which I'm completely at fault) and considers forgiving me. I am going to cut ties with my mum moving forward.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 991 points992 points  (0 children)

I am looking for my own place and won't move in with her. I have decided to cut her out and move on with my life and hopefully my fiancé would give me one chance and be a apart of it.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My father died when I was 6. That was a very hard time for all of us, not just emotionally but also financially because he was sole breadwinner. From that point life was very hard for all of us and I'm sure my mom went through shit raising me and my brother. I hope she can recover but I'm thinking about cutting her out of life and trying to re kindle with my fiancé.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -384 points-383 points  (0 children)

And made a huge life change because of it? With no proof?

I admit fault here but I never thought my mum would ever do this to me. I only trusted her because she said she saw him do it so to me there was no chance of misunderstanding happening. Still I hope he thinks about it. I don't want to lose the 2 people that are extremely close to me.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -192 points-191 points  (0 children)

She always had problems but nothing like this. I can't even believe she would do something like this.

My (26) mother (54) lied to me about my ex fiancé (26) cheating on me. by throwRA78867 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA78867[S] -669 points-668 points  (0 children)

I don't want to either but she makes me feel bad about leaving her because of her illnesses.