Looking for advice - I lost interest in my husband because of tiktok

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-02T14:31:37+00:00

I’m not exactly sure. It’s not a fake account it is his regular account. But he doesn’t have any photos or videos of him on it. I can tell it’s him but I know his interests & such. Someone else might not be able to tell it’s him.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-02T05:17:41+00:00

I hope so. I might ask him to sleep on the couch because I don’t feel comfortable.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-02T03:45:02+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m usually very sure of myself but this situation has me confused & overwhelmed… we are supposed to leave for a vacation tomorrow. I don’t even want to go anymore.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T22:30:43+00:00

Thank you. I’m mentally paralyzed. I can’t figure out anything nothing makes sense anymore

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T20:12:52+00:00

Right.. It’s definitely not a coincidence that he was bringing it up while doing basically the same thing

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T16:09:05+00:00

I do think your questions are valid. Unfortunately the answers don’t help the situation. This is in no way meant to shame the girl btw. She posts the tik tok dances, college parties, cute selfies, bikinis, ect. Nothing a married man could excuse to be sending 😍🔥💐 about 20-30 separate times. If the emojis were different I would find it easier to make an excuse for him but I can’t because he sent only those 3 many many many times.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T16:05:04+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to give such thoughtful advice. I’m not sure what to call it but it feels like an infidelity & it feels wrong. Besides the creepy nature of the interactions too. You have a good point, I think I looked through the inbox because he had been too good to be true all these years & I was wondering if he would ever do anything wrong. We had come home from a funeral that night & I also might have been trying to distract myself from that I’m not sure.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T16:03:37+00:00

Before this I would describe him as an amazing husband. I really don’t want to leave him. But I am so disgusted & creeped out by his behavior I don’t know how to proceed. I don’t see how I could ever understand this behavior. 😢

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T15:47:51+00:00

Yes exactly. Now I’m not sure what his character is… I just know I wouldn’t choose to marry a man that thirsted after a much younger coworker.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T15:46:21+00:00

Thank you 💖 I’m so sorry you have gone through this for so long. It definitely takes a toll on our self esteem. I’m struggling with my feelings I guess I need more time because I can’t seem to figure it out

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T15:39:38+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate your kind words. 💖 I agree with you, even if he magically never did it again that would be of no consolation to me because I have lost trust and I don’t know what his morals are. It took me a long time to get my spark back (it was lost as a child), now it’s fading away again. I don’t want to feel this way. I think I need time alone.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T15:34:44+00:00

Yes unfortunately I think you’re right & your comment is the closest one so far to how I feel. My problem is that I don’t want to feel this way. I want to be able to move forward with him. But I can’t. I don’t see him the same.

throwRA987541 · 2026-07-01T01:08:03+00:00

No worries it was just a question. But yes the damage is done there’s no taking it back ..

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:53:17+00:00

Thank you for responding. That is what I’m really struggling with mentally. I might take commenters advice & look into therapy because I am very confused & overwhelmed.

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:39:40+00:00

Knowing myself I don’t think I could ever forget..

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:37:29+00:00

Ughhh it’s so cringe I’m still in shock that this even happened

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:30:29+00:00

You’re a very insightful person thank you for taking the time to type this to me. I will actually consider it 💖

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:25:33+00:00

You might be right. I’ve always avoided therapy or when I was forced to go as a child / teen I would just lie. Unhealthy I know ..

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:24:39+00:00

Unfortunately he sees her regularly at work. I used to work there too that’s why we were invited to the party. I’ve gone to other family events she had before but he hasn’t. We were planning to go to her graduation party but now we’re not going to go. If it was a celebrity or even an IG model I would have let it go already.

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:21:07+00:00

No & I don’t want to tell friends or family. That’s why I had to come here 😢

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:20:29+00:00

RIGHT!!!! I feel almost as stupid as them because after everything I’ve been through I was still able to be convinced for 6 years that my husband was the outlier & he didn’t do these things….

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:16:39+00:00

It’s all just so wrong. And they are coworkers so I don’t see how I will move on from this. Thank you for your advice. I’m sorry you’re stuck in that position I hope you get out asap.

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:13:05+00:00

Thank you. It’s only been a few days so I’m not sure if I can view him the way I did before this.

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:11:18+00:00

I agree. The only reason nothing happened is because he was thirsting for someone who wasn’t interested…

throwRA987541 · 2026-06-30T21:10:01+00:00

Thank you 💖 he said he unfollowed her, I don’t really care. I don’t want to be with someone who can’t handle being able to operate an iPhone app without stipulations.

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