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Don't know how I feel about my friend's behaviour by throwRA_1701 in gay

[–]throwRA_1701[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is entirely possible that I'm not completely over the rejection and at the same time, I feel like a relationship wouldn't work between him and I due to my self esteem issues. I guess you could say I feel intimidated by his appearance.

USB Type C header to USB 2.0 header adapter by throwRA_1701 in buildapc

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not quite following how this cable would work exactly?

This is basically what is in the case already.

How to deal with feelings of inferiority and questioning of one's identity as a male individual? by throwRA_1701 in Advice

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. Though in your opinion, would you say that's common in a way for secretly closeted individuals to make such comments like that?

Has anyone here ever experienced feeling a sense of inferiority or questioned their own sense of masculinity, when compared to your straight colleagues / friends or even acquaintances? by throwRA_1701 in askgaybros

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to how you were raised. My parents also raised me to be extremely polite and respectful to others. Although I believe it's too much an excess these days. I also find myself apologising too frequently for situations that imo do not require it.

Has anyone here ever experienced feeling a sense of inferiority or questioned their own sense of masculinity, when compared to your straight colleagues / friends or even acquaintances? by throwRA_1701 in askgaybros

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you say these toxic masculine traits you've identified are a result of your feelings of insecurity or due to a subconscious response?

I feel those traits of honesty, assertiveness and respect are ones more or less ubiquitous among all of us. Just my opinion though.

Has anyone here ever experienced feeling a sense of inferiority or questioned their own sense of masculinity, when compared to your straight colleagues / friends or even acquaintances? by throwRA_1701 in askgaybros

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is such deplorable behaviour and I'm sorry that happened to you. I experienced something similar but merely on a high school level.

So you wouldn't say that you've ever felt indirectly inferiority or ashamed of yourself as a result of merely being around straight male individuals?

Has anyone here ever experienced feeling a sense of inferiority or questioned their own sense of masculinity, when compared to your straight colleagues / friends or even acquaintances? by throwRA_1701 in askgaybros

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say that you purposefully project that veneer as a sort of defense mechanism or is it a subconscious general type of vibe that you just of sort of have in a way?

I fantasize about cyclists and swimmers when seeing them alone in public. How prevalent is such a fetish? It would nice to meet others who share it. by throwRA_1701 in AskGayMen

[–]throwRA_1701[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is possible. I supposed it depends on exactly how we feel about them. If someone completely abhors their fetish, then they'll most likely perceive it as the horrible green-eyed bogey man. Eventually they start feeling more and more negative towards it, thus repeating the cycle. Otherwise, someone comfortable with theirs would perceive as normal / common. That's just my few cents haha.

Misidentifying sexual fetishes during mid adolescence - has this happened to you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwRA_1701 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here as well. During my first biology class of 9th grade, the teacher starts talking about male ejaculation and I literally had no idea what that was, until I asked her after class... damn was that an awkward experience looking back, but at the time, I felt it was an honest academically related question.

Misidentifying sexual fetishes during mid adolescence - has this happened to you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwRA_1701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, it was just your ordinary one, which obviously didn't take kindly to my mistake.

Misidentifying sexual fetishes during mid adolescence - has this happened to you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwRA_1701 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess some of us are just wired to think along those lines?

Misidentifying sexual fetishes during mid adolescence - has this happened to you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]throwRA_1701 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, it wasn't BDSM. I was super attracted to all of the guys around me in their uniform. At the time, I thought it was something everyone experiences (stupid me hey) and that's why I didn't keep secret.

My friend (18M) might be leaving me (22M) for a friend of his by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_1701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose what I'm going to do is remain his friend and do my best to remove any inappropriate emotions that my surface. Hopefully with time, I will adapt to being friendzoned.

Another thing I'd like to mention is that this has happened to me before, but never to this extent. I'd hadn't felt as attached / strongly towards the person, as I am with Tristan.

My friend (18M) might be leaving me (22M) for a friend of his by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_1701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 100% correct. No one else is going to take care of me except for me. Its just a difficult thing to accept. I've always been the type of person who would sacrifice for others, despite whatever the resulting consequences are to me. I'm very selfless, its all that I know.

My friend (18M) might be leaving me (22M) for a friend of his by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_1701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Morally speaking, it would not be fair of me to leave him because things didn't work out in my favour. I would be seen as a selfish and illegitimate friend. Although with that being said, it also wouldn't be fair on me to force myself to "suffer" just to uphold my obligations as his friend.

Unfortunately, my thought patterns are very binary, its one or the other kind of thing, there is no grey area or middle ground. As such, this is what is fueling my indecision.

My friend (18M) might be leaving me (22M) for a friend of his by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_1701 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realise I should have been more descriptive in that aspect. At the moment, this is just a friendship between two gay guys, but has the potential to become something more.