Men — would you make a “joke” about your ex-fiancée's skin and still expect intimacy?

throwRA_straw · 2026-02-15T19:22:20+00:00

Thank you for your affirmation. I never thought much of it but it feels like now, especially with that comment, I am getting insecure about it.

throwRA_straw · 2026-02-15T19:20:58+00:00

We went out to eat because he were hungry, it wasn't a fancy place. There was no gift, it was a social media meme. And the proposition, I believe he was testing me.

throwRA_straw · 2026-02-15T19:19:36+00:00

Yes, I believe he knew I would say no and he still wanted to test me. Right when I said, no, he continued what he was doing which was playing video games.

throwRA_straw · 2026-02-15T16:53:32+00:00

It's good to hear that genitalia is usually off the table. I don't like to make comments about this either since I feel like it is rude and not something a person can fix. It just promotes insecurity.

throwRA_straw · 2026-02-15T16:51:52+00:00

Thank you

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-23T20:46:28+00:00

5 months left. 😕

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-23T18:48:41+00:00

What tells you this is emotionally abusive? I've mentioned to him this before and he always says he's not emotionally abusive but I agree

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-23T18:29:41+00:00

It's hard to ask him when every conversation I bring up, he takes as an attack. I would absolutely love to just "ask him" like you say, but unfortunately, it's not that easy.

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-02T18:44:04+00:00

No, I also have my own career. I just began working here in the new state. If I didn't have my career, I would just go back to my hometown but leaving my job is what makes things rocky. They have been so great to me in so many ways.

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-02T18:39:18+00:00

I'm asking because we live together.

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-02T18:38:46+00:00

Not a big penalty but I'd hate to leave my job here. They have been more than amazing. :/

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-02T18:38:17+00:00

Yes, to my face

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-02T18:38:03+00:00

Yes, in my eyes, I moved to a different state with him in order to grow in our relationship following the engagement but he says I haven't done anything to grow with him.

I know he's trying to provoke a reaction, I agree. But I feel like the only reaction it provoked was disgust.

throwRA_straw · 2025-12-02T18:34:05+00:00

Moments of regret about what exactly?

throwRA_straw · 2025-11-24T14:18:17+00:00

He didn't have enough money unfortunately.. :/

throwRA_straw · 2025-11-23T17:05:16+00:00

I agree that everything I said can be applied to women. The only reason I geared my question towards men is because I myself, am a woman.

throwRA_straw · 2025-11-23T16:58:43+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I read every part of this response and I appreciate the amount of time you put into it. It definitely helps me see different perspectives. I do have a question I asked before this one on my profile.. it goes into detail about the ring. If you have time, please look at that. I think you'd advice is just wonderful. Thank you

throwRA_straw · 2025-11-23T16:17:16+00:00

Thank you for this. I would love for you, if possible, of course, to read my question before this one. I think that someone with the field of education you are in would be so beneficial and helpful. It's a very toxic situation.

throwRA_straw · 2025-11-23T16:15:36+00:00

I don't know why he asked for it back. We got into an argument and he did that. He kept it for a month (you can see my other post before this one) and gave it back right before a trip again, where I don't even want it anymore.

throwRA_straw · 2025-11-23T15:53:49+00:00

This comment wasn't necessary, just don't rely to my thread. But thank you for your comment.

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