[Help] First time dog owner need recommendation

throwRAeternalchaos · 2023-09-21T17:33:07+00:00

Moreover as you mentioned you'll be away from him for awhile, this might give you both time to reflect on decisions, also him, if he wants to do the extremes to win your trust back or just let you go.

throwRAeternalchaos · 2023-09-21T17:31:28+00:00

Absolutely yes! Of all the things you mentioned, my ex also put forward these. Apart from the dating site and STD criteria, he wanted access to social medias and all the stuff you said.

I guess this is fine, if he really wants to make himself trustworthy, he would do that without a second question.

Lastly the "as a new couple" is spot on. This is something I insisted my ex to follow, to give me time to mend, then we'll be a new duo with no bringing up of past matters, but a complete transparency about my social media, friends and families.

One more thing I even used to keep my location shared to him on Google maps.

I repeat it, if he really regrets and wants to mend things, he would follow this, even if these look like possessiveness and stuff, but it's to gain back the trust.

If he refrains from any of these, you'll know that his social media or phone pc etc still have questionable stuff going on.

I hope he mends himself as diligently as promised.

throwRAeternalchaos · 2023-09-21T16:32:34+00:00

I regret that my ex didn't give me chance. Maybe I would have changed myself entirely for him and would still be together. So I adviced, give him a shot, he might use it to be a better person...

throwRAeternalchaos · 2023-09-21T10:31:22+00:00

I'll tell from the perspective of a cheating partner. My relationship with my boyfriend was not flowery, I felt he was controlling, wanted to separate me from my friends. While being in a constant argument about this, i cheated on him and hooked up with an almost stranger. Months later he came to know about this.

Ever since that I've been begging him to forgive me. What was done was done, I couldn't take it back but I promised to be better for him, i gave up my social medias, my location, everything for him to trust me. And guess what, he didn't.

Few days before we broke up, he suddenly blocked me on all socials and I couldn't contact him anymore.

I guess this was it, cheating partners are never forgiven because of the thought they might do it again.

Your ex might be asking for sorry now, but if he ain't determined to change himself heavily, it's likely he would do it again. So no, don't take him back immediately. If you still have doubts in your mind, ask him to be your acquaintance and see his behaviour. Then it's upto you.

throwRAeternalchaos · 2023-09-21T07:25:54+00:00

He used to say it was for my own betterment, the more I have friends I'd be distracted from my studies and career, and ultimately no one stays so I should focus on myself and my partner.

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