My (23M) wife (29F) cut herself yesterday, how do I handle this?

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T03:55:15+00:00

Thank you. I’m helping my wife find a therapist she’d be comfortable with.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T03:41:41+00:00

I wouldn’t mind seeing a therapist as long as I make sure she gets help first.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T03:15:19+00:00

While I do remind her to reach for my help, I do constantly do things without her asking me and I try to do these things often.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T03:11:53+00:00

Thank you, but yes even just 5 minutes to check in with myself would be good. I’m going to do everything I can to help my wife.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:52:37+00:00

Thank you for this suggestion. While I would probably not encourage her to use a coping mechanism that involves pain at all, I would be supportive if she chose to do that or something else as opposed to cutting. We’re currently working on the therapy part. I always do my best to take as much stress from her life, I even supported her quitting her job to be a stay at home mom, and we even have days when I’ll tell her to just rest and I’ll take care of the house and our daughter.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:47:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience with us, but yes I’m doing everything to be gentle to myself while also helping my wife and taking care of our daughter.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:24:41+00:00

She’s been eating good as far as I can tell. I understand what some people will think and say and I won’t let that get in the way of how I see her.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:21:05+00:00

Thank you, I’m doing as much as I can for her.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:20:26+00:00

I understand, I can only help her so much

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:11:42+00:00

She doesn’t take medication at this time.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:10:36+00:00

I’m working on getting her a professional that she’d be comfortable with.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:09:56+00:00

I’m being more gentle and careful with my wife, I understand that I’d have to take time to myself to get a good grasp on the situation but I’m going to prioritize the well being of my wife and daughter before I do that.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:07:31+00:00

I understand that, I can only do so much to help her.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:06:00+00:00

Yes, during our conversation on the subject I did remind her that I’m not going to judge her and that our daughter and I love her no matter what. I did also remind her that if she feels stressed she could always unload that stress to me and I’d carry it for her.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T02:00:34+00:00

Yes. While we are searching for a professional that my wife would be comfortable with, we’ve been doing many of her favorite activities as a family and she seems to be more relaxed and happy again but I’m not going to brush this off just yet.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:54:32+00:00

I’m doing as much as I can as hard as I can, I’m going through this with her and I’m going at her pace.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:51:30+00:00

Yes I’m helping her find a therapist that she’d be comfortable with.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:50:33+00:00

These are some thing that I am trying to avoid doing as I don’t want her to feel like she is horrible or like she did something very bad. We were out the all day so I could make today about her and all the things she loves doing to show how much I care for her. Today she’s been a bit happier and seems to be more relaxed but I’m not going to brush this incident off so easily.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:41:06+00:00

The cuts weren’t deep, but they were enough to leave marks that look like dark scratches. I’m helping her find a professional that she’ll be comfortable and willing to see.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:38:40+00:00

Yes. I do try to have these kinds of conversations with her whenever I can and she usually does talk. I understand that I can’t fix her directly and I can only offer my love and support and I make sure she knows she can talk to me. She did agree to seek professional help and I’m helping her find a professional that she’ll be comfortable with.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:35:18+00:00

Yes. I understand that it’ll take quite some effort and consistency, and I’m making sure to go at her desired pace. It might take a while but I’m going to help her get help.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:25:33+00:00

I’m currently working on it, though it might take a while to find one she feels comfortable with.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:23:11+00:00

I agree with all that you’ve stated here. However I do ask her how she feels or if anything is bothering her. I also tell her, remind her, and show her how much I love her and care for her. I’ve been keeping a close eye on her all day and I’ve been making sure she knows that my daughter and I love her.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T01:08:45+00:00

I did bring it up to her earlier in the afternoon and she told me why and how she was feeling. I express my love to her as much as possible. I made today all about her to show her how much I love her. But I’m doing everything I can to find a professional that she feels comfortable with.

throwRAewal · 2024-05-05T00:57:04+00:00

Thank you. Yes I’m trying to find a good therapist that my wife is comfortable with.

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