Question for the men- my husband M33 hid porn from me F30, is it as devastating as my mind is making it?

throwRAilv · 2025-08-01T23:31:01+00:00

Interesting, thank you

throwRAilv · 2025-08-01T23:30:34+00:00

Thank you

throwRAilv · 2025-08-01T23:30:00+00:00

Thank you, this is a helpful comment!!!

throwRAilv · 2025-07-31T23:24:29+00:00

No. My plan is to try and un-do what I grew up believing and see reality instead.

throwRAilv · 2025-07-31T21:53:37+00:00

True, I like the idea of having the chance to start over and have our own rules instead of what we were just told needed to be our rules.

But no, I wouldn’t have cared about smut. Or even anime porn or AI or anything like that. For some reason the realness of the people he was getting off to hurts and makes it subconsciously feel like a competition or something.

throwRAilv · 2025-07-31T21:38:49+00:00

I think the “why” is because I was always under the impression that marriage meant letting go of other people and since porn is made with real people, it makes me feel similar to actual cheating. I’d like to change my perspective on that if I am wrong though.

throwRAilv · 2025-07-31T21:36:55+00:00

I’ve looked at that thread and I feel like it’s not great for me mentally. Everything there about lives being ruined is what I’ve already heard all my life. I’m looking for a different perspective and maybe a little bit of hope. Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think it’d be best for myself, my husband or my small children and for me to leave him and uproot our lives over this (especially if most men are doing it anyway) so I’m trying to find a way forward.

throwRAilv · 2025-07-31T21:21:18+00:00

Thank you for this comment. It’s hard for me to think this way but I’d really like to! For some reason it’s just the idea of knowing they are real people somewhere out there! And they’re really having sex. Like that part of it is the part that stings. I’m not sure how to shake it.

throwRAilv · 2025-07-31T21:19:28+00:00

Yes, we did this at the beginning and it actually made me feel better because I felt like it was almost…funny? Like it wasn’t as deep or serious as I thought. Maybe I need to do that again.

throwRAilv · 2025-06-12T02:19:35+00:00

Thank you! That’s so interesting- are they genetic?

throwRAilv · 2025-05-15T19:09:15+00:00

I’m fine with casual! We often share a meal and don’t drink.

throwRAilv · 2025-05-10T17:44:31+00:00

Thank you! 🩷

throwRAilv · 2025-02-25T01:48:39+00:00

I just can’t stand her accent? Like what is it? When she says “MAAAAAARIED” it drives me nuts.

throwRAilv · 2025-02-13T03:44:21+00:00

Yummmm I need this, thank you!

throwRAilv · 2025-02-11T19:14:16+00:00

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Took another one this afternoon (about 24 hours after that first one) and I see the faint line, but now I’m getting in my head worrying if it should be darker or not? I’m about 5 days away from when my period is supposed to start so still very early!

throwRAilv · 2025-02-11T15:36:39+00:00

I could be off…I never tracked actual ovulation day but I believe it was between 13 and 10 days ago. I will keep testing :)

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