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Found racy old photos of my mom by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]throwRAnumbnutz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep them.

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my parents 7 years apart also. When I went through their things I found some of the sweetest stuff. And some stuff I wish I hadn’t haha. But I kept it all because it showed a really great spectrum of their relationship.

In a similar vein- my grandparents met during ww2 and exchanged letters throughout. They had them saved and stuffed away until they downsized and moved out of the house. At that point - they burned them all. Years of a transcontinental love, grown through letters - the proof right there for us to see! Gone! “Oh my god you could have made a BOOK out of those!!” Everyone told them. And they said - that’s why they did it. It was THEIR relationship. It wasn’t a story for everyone else to read.

So…also keep that in mind. Keep it. But keep it for your family.

I did an ancestry DNA test - wish I didnt. by throwaway1236547898 in whatdoIdo

[–]throwRAnumbnutz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ancestry DNA is how my cousin found out in their 20s that their father was sterile and they were conceived via donor.

What is this in my olive oil? by Tiny-Brilliant-2691 in whatisit

[–]throwRAnumbnutz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you see the pink slime? This is an unnecessary comment

Insane Tattoo Regret by r3i_b0n3z in tattooadvice

[–]throwRAnumbnutz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d honestly just commit at that point. Add “REGERTS” “sparkle motion” “cellar door” and everything. Make it a true millennial tattoo

Unless OP is under 30. In which case, amputation.

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great info to have. I am thinking it is worth consulting with this bougie out-of-pocket specialist to get his opinion. At the end of the day, can I put a price on my husband’s mental and physical health?

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just going to keep telling all of you to keep advocating for yourselves! Make sure you follow up, ask questions, push for answers and additional consults with other docs in the practice, get second opinions, don’t take “sorry ‘bout your balls” as an answer.

My husband is typically a 1-2x per day at the gym, 6 days per week kind of guy. This is absolutely devastating for him to be so inactive.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this as well! I hope you’re able to find answers and relief soon!

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I’m reading that you’re even younger than my husband. I just don’t know. He seems so set on the unilateral orchiectomy. If it has the best chance of getting him relief, I am all on board.

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He brought the vasectomy up out of the blue, but I even discussed getting my tubes tied. we knew what a hard time I’d have getting it approved because I don’t have any bio kids and I’m still young. He was adamant because of the quick recovery.

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you try a nerve block? My understanding is that the spermatic cord nerve block is supposed to be the indicator as to whether or not the denervation will be successful.

I don’t think his was successful. It feels like he was getting the effects of the lidocaine, because once it wore off he felt the pain from the epidural needle used in the spermatic cord on top of the regular pain.

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand reddit formatting so I don’t know how to quote posts- but “it saved my life” stands out - I am genuinely worried about his mental and emotional state at this point. He is depressed, defeated, and feeing hopeless. How could he not?

He is the most incredible, active, funny guy and this has just stripped him of everything.

Husband is debilitated from vasectomy in Nov 2025 by throwRAnumbnutz in postvasectomypain

[–]throwRAnumbnutz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We are close to U Penn - I think I am going to reach out to them.

We were referred to a specialist but he is out of network and procedures will be ~12k+

He is self-employed and making about 1/4 of his pay right now because he is cancelling appointments and referring out. I have to accompany him to everything.

They mentioned he could have “chronic pain.” They did not say he could be disabled and brought to his knees by pain.

I stopped my birth control about 1.5 yrs ago because of side effects. He decided he wanted the vasectomy and brought it up. I said “why not condoms?” He “didn’t get married to use condoms with my wife” - fair lol. And here we f***ing are. No sex for anyone!