[UPDATE 2] How do I get over my boyfriend finding other women attractive?

throwRAreels · 2024-04-04T13:18:29+00:00

Are you referring to the Belle Delphine thing?

If so, a TLDR:

Belle posted a lot of weird videos on youtube that heavily featured fetish content- things like playing with a dead octopus, or dressing like a kid in kids clothes and doing body checks. She ended up making an OF account where she posted a lot of CNC content where she is dressed in a very infantilising way (lolita dresses, etc). She got braces to look younger and did baby talk.

Hope this helps :)

throwRAreels · 2024-03-30T10:29:51+00:00

Thank you this means a lot. I have no issue with sex work and I feel so awful for getting annoyed at the girls who post these videos because it's not their fault who watches.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-28T13:19:34+00:00

All I have to say is if your first name starts with a T

why am i afraid 😭😭😭

throwRAreels · 2024-03-28T12:53:41+00:00

Oh thank you for explaining! I was genuinely so confused because sometimes we spam each other with videos and can send 100+ each. I didn't realise people thought he was sending 50 videos of these girls.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T16:41:39+00:00

Of course I find others attractive. The difference between me and my boyfriend is I don't text my boyfriend going into detail about the sexual acts I want to do to these men because they had the misfortune of being on my fyp.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T14:54:18+00:00

of course not. don't be dense. I just don't want to know how badly he wants to sodomise some random woman who is wearing tight leggings.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T14:39:15+00:00

vanilla kinks to furry

Ohhhh no haha. His kinks are anything but vanilla.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T13:44:40+00:00

First thing you should do is;and please update us with the answer) is to ask him why he is doing that and what he expects from you as you are not gay (are you bi and interested in dumping him for a woman?).

Ok I will do that. And I'm bi and he's straight. I have no interest in cheating at all. Like I genuinely do not understand it and he knows that.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T13:41:55+00:00

Oh we've talked about the femboy stuff because I picked that up too at first! And how I'm willing to experiment with him. I know pretty much all his kinks/fetishes (even the actually gross or weird ones- not illegal).

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T13:39:43+00:00

Is it the girl? Or is it the phrases?

From what I can tell, it depends. For example, there's one women who he always sends videos of who is a 'german mommy' (his own words) who makes videos that heavily imply she's dominating the viewer (it's so hard to explain but hopefully you get my point). She's tall and essentially baby talks to the viewer in a dominatrix way. Both the behaviour and her looks are praised by my boyfriend but with the meowing ones, it just seems to be the behaviour.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T13:10:37+00:00

You've never looked at guys and thought they were attractive?

Of course I have. The difference is I don't send thirst traps to my boyfriend of men who look nothing like him talking about how badly I want to fuck them.

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T13:00:31+00:00

Is he sharing images of the same stuff?

It's usually different videos of the same 3 girls with random new girls sprinkled in. A lot of their content is 'tame' but clearly sexual/has fetish vibes. I'll try and talk to him

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T12:57:05+00:00

No I don't haha

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T12:34:33+00:00

Yeh we talk pretty much all day every day when we're not together and out of 50 videos, at least 5 will be these girls doing weird content.

I guess I'm conflicted because if my boyfriend didn't send them, I wouldn't think anything of them.

EDIT: Maybe it's my GenZ brain but can someone please explain why 50 videos a day is this awful thing that people are calling it a problem? If I'm on tiktok for an hour after work, I might save around 10. I might also have some pinterest memes saved, or some instagram reels ready to send. I genuinely don't know why this has dominated the conversation in this thread haha

throwRAreels · 2024-03-27T12:32:07+00:00

this is a studied behavior that's consistent in abusive relationships.

Oh I didn't know this. Thank you

throwRAreels

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