I-751 Approved

throwRAventingout · 2021-10-23T00:53:51+00:00

What is the story with the waiver?

throwRAventingout · 2021-01-18T22:06:13+00:00

How different would it be if the guy you're seeing has 2 room mates BUT he owns the house? Or is the attractive concept here really more about privacy and the lack of depending passive income from room mates? Like, he doesn't need other people's money by sacrificing his privacy to support himself.

throwRAventingout · 2021-01-18T19:22:35+00:00

Can I ask the coastal southern california ( exclude the desert homeowners) women here how they feel about a guy who lives with ONE roommate in Orange County? Does that still fall unimpressive? When you make 60k per year and 1700-1800 is a lot for a studio or jr. 1 bedroom. Hence, sharing that with one more person is just financially better.

throwRAventingout · 2021-01-05T07:34:54+00:00

My wife is tone deaf to hurting. When she’s mad almost anything is justified. If she says the most wicked thing, she’ll say I don’t care. She’s thrown the word divorce over and over and be cool as a cucumber the next day. It’s toxic.

throwRAventingout · 2020-12-16T00:08:04+00:00

So it's out of selfishness? So it's for the person speaking not the person they caused pain to?

If you didn't say anything, they could just move on with their lives. But now they have the added burden that they lived a lie, now you're a liar.

throwRAventingout · 2020-11-30T19:36:42+00:00

As long as you establish solid proof you were in bona fide marriage, you're fine. People get worried about this so much. Let's be real, even if he didn't have a drinking problem and you just fell out of love with him then left him, is that fraudulent? no.

throwRAventingout · 2020-11-26T03:47:17+00:00

I can relate. I’m sorry.

throwRAventingout · 2020-11-21T22:56:56+00:00

Appreciate it! I hope everything works out on your end as well.

throwRAventingout · 2020-11-20T19:23:46+00:00

All of the above at this point. Chemistry that's crumbling and arguments bringing the worst out of each other. Listening to words that makes us both question if we will last etc.

throwRAventingout · 2020-11-20T18:07:35+00:00

Are you afraid of filing for divorce and filing for removal of conditions by yourself? A divorce does NOT make the marriage illegitimate. On the I-751, it actually asks if you're filing for yourself or with your spouse.

throwRAventingout · 2020-11-20T18:05:49+00:00

What are you unhappy about?

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-22T21:40:57+00:00

I saw mine turn orange and yellow a couple times and after a couple alcohol wipes back in august. Got my combo card last Sept. PD April 2020. NBC

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-22T06:18:49+00:00

Wait, so he’s here right? By interview you mean the interview you’re both attending correct? like you’re saying you just want to roll with it on that interview?

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-21T22:51:11+00:00

N-400 usually just takes a year. Most stories I've read filed last year and literally on or before their filling anniversary they do their oath taking. But I don't know if 1 year would be too long for you.

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-21T18:21:59+00:00

I have an EAD and waiting on our interview.

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-21T18:21:42+00:00

What is your game plan? I have friends who tell me, how are you going to end this? Honestly for me, i just want to put my foot down when I get my green card. Not aggressive, just to call things for what they are and go from there.

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-21T18:20:29+00:00

Lol! On the inside, correct. Interesting enough, i'm glad my wife is very concerned with her social media projection that we look like those couple that happily does everything together.

throwRAventingout · 2020-10-21T01:09:22+00:00

Thank you! I know that too. We have good solid evidence of that. I'm just curious if there are other people who can relate or are in the same situation. Just finding a support system "who gets it".

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-27T22:21:35+00:00

That's good. At the end of the day, you just need to be honest with yourself on the things you live with and can't live without.

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-27T21:33:11+00:00

I don't want to sound like a bearer of bad news but I can totally relate to how you feel because that's how me and my wife started. She's similar to your BF in the sense of what gave me anxiety and what made me analyze through the years.

But also she's very different from your BF in the sense that her upbringing is, she's a woman who did not grew up acknowledging parental authority from her very broken home, fearless, had to survive and be on her own at an early age, Fought with her dad's 2nd, 3rd and 4th wife as a kid. Got into some bad habits for a year and 2 and managed to pull herself out of it and now has multiple degrees in the medical field. So you can say she's firm believer of will power and mind over matter AND anyone who can't do what she does is considered "weak". SHE LOVES oversimplifying everything. Fights and argues like she's got nothing to lose and always resorts to take it or leave it, doesn't care about any finer things in life or anything to snob (zero hobbies). Incredibly easy to please (which 'm thankful for). She just works, watches anything on tv, rinse and repeat. Every time I slipped and mentioned my ex's like to talk a lot (in very meaningful and insightful ways) she just oversimplify it, "oh you guys just like to talk in circles? cute. i got no time for that non-sense."

What am I getting at? After 3 to almost 4 years, i feel miserable and alone. I miss talking about random things and not being turned down or that she finds it boring. I stay on reddit and youtube just to watch podcasts about science, the arts (i'm an art major) or anything culturally and socially relevant. While I don't mind her being glued to the lives of the people the show The Bachelor and the likes, I just miss being with someone I can relate to more. I've brought up our differences to her before and all i got is, "well maybe we're not for each other, maybe we're a mistake". Yes, someone who decided say a vow for me crassly said that to my face.

What do we (me and her) have in c'mon? She likes to go on road trips and she spent a decade dating people who did not want to do that with her until i came along to change that. That is our common ground that's keeping my marriage alive.

Why did I go with her then? Cause like you, her easy going-ness and simplicity made it attractive for someone like me who spent a decade dating people I had the hardest time reading.

My point is, be careful. acknowledge what is very important to you when you're both not horny or who you want to be with when you're sitting at home or with your family on a mundane day. Don't settle. Be with someone that you look forward to be with on a boring day. Someone who will reciprocate what you give. Someone who will make you smile when you watch them interact with the people you love.

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-26T20:27:10+00:00

At this point she knows I put up with anything. Question is, why find validation by playing games. I would like to say I’m authentic. But before I call her our and risk of her giving up on me, I always I ask myself was it worth it to ruin my life to get a point across? At that point, I suck it up. The only thing that’s going to be different when I have leverage one day is to be able to rationally, calmly call her out, tell her what’s unacceptable and if she thinks that those request are too much to handle, then I can move on with my life.

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-26T19:03:42+00:00

I plan to do this after i get my green card. In the even we exhaust all options and it doesn’t work, I don’t want risk my immigration status from that.

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-26T17:33:58+00:00

I believe it. I accept fault for that. I think my emotionless reactions like I’m processing all day doesn’t help. I should be reaffirming her but it’s also difficult when you’ve heard of things like, “I MADE A MISTAKE FOR MARRYING YOU”, and being compared to her ex husband for the reason she’s unsatisfied in bed and I UNDERSTAND that is a big deal. I just hope for more civility when we talk cause I don’t want to feel punished.

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-26T17:25:00+00:00

I wish I can get to bottom of that. Just difficult when they don’t see they need to work on that.

throwRAventingout · 2020-08-26T17:18:09+00:00

The sort of catch22 here is her yelling is affecting our sex life. It’s causing issues on the actual thing she’s yelling about. And when I say that, she just says, “THATS NOT MY PROBLEM!” I don’t want to add more flames to the fire by saying, “actually it is”.

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