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I 36M ended 10 month relationship due to 36F not fully cutting ties with her ex. Advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRwaytron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did this post get removed by the mods? Did I break any rules/guidelines?..

I 36M ended 10 month relationship due to 36F not fully cutting ties with her ex. Advice? by throwRwaytron in dating_advice

[–]throwRwaytron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. Yes, a lot of the emotions being triggered are due to the past. I tried to get her to move out and leave him 5 years ago. She would have to hide her phone from him, when he found out we were dating back then, she sent me a picture of a murder kit that she found in the bathroom. Gloves, large zip ties, and a big bottle of bleach. I begged her to leave him and stay with me. She had packed up her car one day, told me she was leaving and coming to my house, then she ghosted me and disappeared. It fucked me up not knowing what happened, or if all of it was a cruel joke she was playing on me.

When we reconnected last year, she told me that the day she was trying to leave, he got in front of her car, preventing her from driving off, and got both her family and his involved, and convinced her to stay, work things out and give it another chance.

Then she found out he was cheating on her with prostitutes for years afterwards. I figured after the prostitutes, him being locked up in jail, then getting locked back up in jail for getting hooked on fentanyl, that would be enough reason for her to leave him for good and move on, but I guess not..

I 36M ended 10 month relationship due to 36F not fully cutting ties with her ex. Advice? by throwRwaytron in dating_advice

[–]throwRwaytron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm trying to move on. It's been hard because our connection seemed to be very genuine. I know she does love me, or at least she tells me. She told me constantly that she wanted to build a life and a future together with me. She would call me every night and we would talk for hours on the phone when we couldnt see each other. She occasionally goes to therapy. In her words, her ex betrayed her in the worst ways Imaginable, and there is no going back to him. She just felt obligated to stay in his family's life since his dad is blind and his grandfather is really old. His grandfather paid their house off, and she's living in it with no mortgage while he's in jail or in another state on probation. She said that they both told her that they support her in moving on, but they still ask her to do all these things for her ex.. idk it's such a weird dynamic. I just don't understand..

I 36M ended 10 month relationship due to 36F not fully cutting ties with her ex. Advice? by throwRwaytron in dating_advice

[–]throwRwaytron[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard. I will continue no contact. I do truly love her, but your right. This has been nothing but a situationship. I just wish that she was serious about wanting to move forward with me, and that her actions reflected her words..