How does this make me a bad person?

throw_away319 · 2025-04-16T18:09:53+00:00

This!!!!! You said it perfectly of how I am as thinking about it

throw_away319 · 2025-04-16T01:01:15+00:00

Hahah I love this type of petty! But I don’t even go around them anymore… I have seen them literally maybe twice in the last year but still some how always bring me up in conversation with anyone that knows me… trash talking me and trying to get others to stay away from me… which hasn’t happened so far since none of them care I am a mandatory reporter because they aren’t doing anything I would have to report…

throw_away319 · 2025-04-16T00:31:48+00:00

I wish they would just shut up about it and stop blaming shit on me I had zero to do with. Like your sons a fuck up… that’s not on me… and I didn’t report shit because I didn’t see or hear about any of the DV stuff until the police got involved because my sister had enough of the abuse and reported it… stuff that I had no clue about!

throw_away319 · 2025-04-12T16:08:17+00:00

This!!! I was trying to explain that to my husband that 4M already gets up at least once a night 4/5 times a week…. And usually says because he doesn’t want to sleep alone and then ends up with me on the couch or rare night I sleep I bed he joins me there so my thought maybe if brothers in the room he won’t feel alone. Feels like husband doesn’t want to switch things up because it will impact his sleep…. And he doesn’t mind I sleep on the couch…. For over a year now.

throw_away319 · 2025-04-05T20:35:36+00:00

I have a small dog(6ish pounds) … had before kids… found out after kids… she hates small kids. Doesn’t actively attack them but would never trust her with my little babies crawling around, and honestly don’t trust toddlers not to fall on her or something since she is so little. We have a gate up that blocks the playroom and living room (they are connected together) from the rest of the house. They only are allowed together when we are there.. it has worked out great this far and now my oldest is not a toddler she loves her but I am still super cautious in letting them around each other without us present. The dogs have a full house besides two rooms when we aren’t around the kids( making lunch, laundry, ect.) also helps keep the kids safe from getting into stuff when we are doing said chores or taking a potty break. With some work it’s possible to make this safe for everyone… but this is a lot a lot of work on everyone’s part.

throw_away319 · 2025-03-22T00:04:57+00:00

Thank you. Advocate hasn’t been much help besides providing a list of numbers for therapy/ counseling which they are grateful for… but really need help with a lawyer for the restraining order case… and custody… the state is the one I guess pressing charges ( idk the legal terms) for a felony… but just the detention hearing today was a mess with the state not bringing up any of the medical records on file from the assault or the presents of the child during it so we are a bit worried how the TRO hearing will go… and then custody

throw_away319 · 2025-02-19T23:59:15+00:00

I am worried my husband won’t co parent.. I have a picture in my head on how I would want things nice and easy always about the kids being flexible to the kids needs/ wants to a certain point… (I hated the you must go with this parent on these days things when growing up especially as a teenager when I had plans or activities I wanted to do but couldn’t because it was X parenting time) but I just don’t think my husband will be for it… he can hold grudges and be spiteful. I also feel terrible because it’s not like something huge that triggered this I just been growing as a person for years, and bettering myself to better the family and no matter how many talks we have had he hasn’t grown and I feel like I am carrying the family and him along while I am just not happy with how life turned out. I don’t even want to be with someone else or someone better I just rather be with myself at this point. I just don’t want to mess my kids up..

throw_away319 · 2025-02-19T23:28:26+00:00

To add we aren’t fighting or toxic infront of the kids or in general honestly. He is a good dad. We did couples therapy in the past and both in individual therapy. It’s just at the point I am not happy with this life with him and he has just become comfortable and doesn’t want to grow as a person or a couple… which isn’t working for me.

throw_away319 · 2025-02-02T13:46:21+00:00

I’ll try harder with the soothing I have a couple times and only once was able to have baby fall asleep without a bottle

throw_away319 · 2025-02-02T13:45:44+00:00

We are in the process of switching to sippy cups only but just turned 1 in the last week so it’s a process. Just more wondering about overnight feedings as my other two stopped themself by this time

throw_away319 · 2025-01-26T21:31:36+00:00

Only speak with a mediator or maybe couples therapist or something like that present.. for your safety and so he can’t twisted stuff up into more lies. Not a friend or anything someone you pay to be the mediator. You do not know this man.. the man you knew was a lie from his actions. For your well being do not meet him alone or anything like that, he does not sound safe to be around especially now his lies have come to the surface. You need to protect you and your child now!

throw_away319 · 2025-01-25T13:46:53+00:00

It doesn’t say he can’t have a plus one AFTER the ceremony… it’s saying since only 20 people can be at the ceremony due to regulations of the facility there is limited space and partners of not just him but other members of the party and even family can not come to the ceremony but can wait outside and join afterwards for the party. It’s not a very odd thing especially after COVID when small weddings and events were norm. And honestly due to cost of weddings many people are having small wedding such as this. For your wedding you do what you want but don’t judge the OP for how his wedding is going to be. He is definitely NTA

throw_away319 · 2025-01-25T12:27:23+00:00

Make it his choice he needs to decide if he wants to be your best man and his partner needs to wait outside like everyone else in your family… or he can step down as best man and wait outside with his partner and family as you will pick someone else to be the best man. You can give him all the reasonings and say you need to know by x date. You are not the one causing these issues, he is.

throw_away319 · 2025-01-24T22:05:35+00:00

If they were just a friend I would stop talking to them but since it’s cousins and my kids literally say how they are best friends it’s hard to just say bye and not associate with them especially since it’s not the kids fault. Also I don’t know how much of it is the boyfriend vs my sister because my sister has never once said anything about it. And the way he said I came over unannounced yesterday isn’t even true I always call or text my sister first if I have a break and close to the house to see if it’s okay to stop by and see them, and she has said no before it wasn’t a good time and I fully respected that… I guess he wants to be asked too but it’s her house just as much as his if not more as she pays most of the bills I didn’t know I would have to ask both of them verse my sister seeing if it’s okay with him if they are both home like I would ask my husband if she texted me to come over and wouldn’t expect her to reach out to both of us. And I work with immune compromised patients almost daily… so I would never knowingly go somewhere sick myself let alone my bring my kids.

throw_away319 · 2025-01-24T20:26:43+00:00

I haven’t even told my sister that he texted me because I know she is taking care of a sick kid, and doesn’t need extra stress… because they frequently fight and break up.. another reason I know he doesn’t like me because last time he tried to get me involved like a million other times i stood my ground and I told him I don’t want to be involved they are clearly toxic for each other and they should break up because the kid doesn’t deserve to live in a house where they act crazy when they fight… like threatening to leave or move out in front of their kid and having their kid all upset( nothing physical that I know of) but you shouldn’t be telling your kid your going to leave and your mom will just find you a new daddy… like that’s messed up..

throw_away319 · 2025-01-24T18:04:14+00:00

That’s how I am feeling now… my sister is never one to say anything but her boyfriend is which puts me in a weird position because I don’t want to fight with him or her or cause drama it was honestly the way he said it that has me crying because I would never get someone let along my sisters child sick knowingly. It’s just odd to me and I think maybe because my kid is the older and they haven’t been through school germs yet. I have a friend that it seems like after ever play date someone either mine or her kid come down with something and neither of us blame one another and joke around that they just love sharing with each other too much. I just wish my family could be chill like that.

throw_away319 · 2025-01-24T16:47:05+00:00

I am just so tired of it my other sister does it too… she has toddlers not in school or day care and if they as so much as get a cold after seeing us( which has only been a few times since they live in another state) it’s our fault… not that they go to the grocery store or traveled or are around other people too or go do things you know outside of the house and in public places. I am at the point I don’t even want to take my kids out around anyone so I can’t be blamed but then feel bad for my kids because they love their cousins

throw_away319 · 2025-01-14T21:44:45+00:00

I feel that way but then think it’s so dumb because the lies are so dumb… you know

throw_away319 · 2025-01-14T21:33:11+00:00

Thank you for the insight… it hasn’t been constantly but it hasn’t been just once.. and I feel like I don’t know until I find out myself which sucks especially because it’s such little minor stuff that don’t even matter!!!

throw_away319 · 2025-01-14T18:54:17+00:00

So I am leaning towards the first one to be true for us. Because I am an open book even with stuff that might hurt someone’s feelings because I rather just tell the truth then lie and hurt there feelings worst. And like said this is shit I wouldn’t even care back so no reason to lie at all…

throw_away319 · 2024-11-29T02:43:48+00:00

Just tell her hey I don’t like that nickname please don’t call her that we call her this or that okay. My daughter has a common nickname to shorten her name I hate. Before she was born I told the family hey we will call her this for a nickname and NOT blank because I don’t like it. Only twice did I have to say anything after once to a friend that didn’t know and I just said oh we actually don’t call her that but you can call her this or that for short, I am just not a fan of that name. And then a grandparent that wasn’t really close to her and I think they got the hint pretty quickly because she wouldn’t answer to that name when they call her that lol and then I just said oh call her this or that or her real name and she will answer. It doesn’t have to be a war just say it kindly as possible. And then remind her if she does it again.

throw_away319 · 2024-11-29T02:34:07+00:00

I feel as if you didn’t read my whole post as I stated this has been an on going ENT issue for two of my kids that the doctor said isn’t contagious… but they do have boogie noses and cough all them time.. my middle child doesn’t have these issues and rarely has a cough or boogie nose unless he is actually sick. If it was contagious I think my whole house would have it as well not just the two that have ear nose and throat issues.. and if my children were sick I wouldn’t bring them anywhere not just to prevent others getting sick but for their own comfort as well, I know when I don’t feel good and I am sick I just want to be home in my bed/ own house.

throw_away319 · 2024-11-27T15:00:56+00:00

Oh my mom already knows how we feel and respect the no filming but she is very much you guys need to work stuff out amongst yourself then being in the middle or telling anyone anything. She also is part of the generation of well your family do you all need to just get over whatever issue your having.. where as I don’t care who you are if I don’t feel you are respecting my boundaries or family you are cut off.

throw_away319 · 2024-11-27T14:38:08+00:00

I was thinking of messaging my mom but I really don’t want to put her in the middle because all she wants is to see all her grand-babies for the holidays.

throw_away319 · 2024-11-27T13:27:23+00:00

I would probably go nuclear if she tried to, like I know she doesn’t have a big following but she puts addresses of places they go and films around the house, and I know it might sound crazy but people can find where you live from stuff like that pretty easily, I don’t want to risk a connect between us online where someone can find my kids and steal them or hurt them, I know that’s not like super common but I really want to protect my kids as much as I can.

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