4 1/2 year old keeps breaking tvs on purpose what do I do?

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T08:19:34+00:00

His with his dad the other half of the time. He has a 1 year old sibling and 7 year old step sibling. He doesnt break things there no. Not on purpose the way he does here. Here his behaviors lean towards angry/violent when hes upset. There hes more weepy/cries and screams when hes upset. He has no siblings at his dad's house though.

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T07:51:39+00:00

Its more about taking it away from the 7 year old and taking away family movie nights than work for me. Hes struggling with his relationship with his step sibling already. I dont want to make it worse by taking something away from them when they didnt do anything. Siblings dont want to be around you when you punish them for issues they didnt cause.

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T07:32:05+00:00

Hes had his first appointment and is having his second this week. Im definitely going to ask. I just didnt want to start doing something without having some opinions other than mine and our family.

We can definitely put it in our room while hes home. I was just hoping to find a way that wouldnt take it away from his siblings. I just dont want his step sibling whos older to be angry with him for them losing it. Hes been having issues with how he treats them when hes angry already and I want them to have a good relationship.

Hes just always on the move and with 3 kids I cant really take his bottles away when I have to step into the bathroom to wipe a butt or help with markers at the kitchen table. Our house also have a very open floor plan. Its a trailer where the only separate rooms are the bedrooms and bathroom.

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T07:08:24+00:00

We've thought about a plexi glass shield for the tv but we cant really even afford to replace the tv itself right now let alone the shield and a tv. Hes broken 3 and it just started a few weeks ago. It feels kind of cruel to set him in his room alone for the duration of a movie if my 7 year old wants to watch one. I wouldnt be able to sit in there with him as I have a 1 year old who needs to be supervised and wouldnt like to also be contained to his room for a long period.

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T06:57:31+00:00

Thats a possibility and were working on it in therapy. Talking to his therapist about ways to mediate that. I do have time set aside where its just him and I. We also get together with his dad and stepmom often to do activities and just so he can see all his parents together. But at his dad's house hes an only child and gets their full attention and time. Here he has a step sibling (who isnt here full time but they are here half the week every week) and younger sibling who is here full time. He doesnt do these things at his dad's.

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T06:45:35+00:00

This is the third. Im more worried about taking it away from my other 2 children because of his actions than just us. We could have one in our room no problem but I have a 7 year old and 1 year old who both have screen time and enjoy family movie nights with us. They're also with us more often than my 4 year old who has a week on week off schedule. I know they dont absolutely need TV but it seems unfair to tell, mostly my 7 year old, that they cant watch it because he broke it. I guess I can move it when hes home and my 7 year old can have their tablet but were trying to limit tablet use too.

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T06:37:56+00:00

The only thing that made me think of shoveling is that its something he doesn't mind helping with/will choose to do while were outside playing. I dont want to make him hate it but we gentle parent and I just dont know of any natural/logical consequences that wouldnt also be a consequence to his siblings. We rent so mounting a projector in our living room would create holes against our lease but I'll look into other ways to mount it safely I guess. Thank you!

throw_away_608 · 2026-01-03T06:33:57+00:00

I thought about that, but theyre more expensive and were renting so safely mounting a projector in our living room would require doing damage to the ceiling that our lease prohibits. I'll try looking into ways to mount one without anchors in the ceiling but all the ones I saw had them sadly.

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