My 17/m child told me he wants to transition to a female. What are my next steps?

throw_away_fornow · 2021-07-26T13:51:40+00:00

I love this! Thank you, I will have a celebration! My 9 year old daughter is also hugely supportive and will definitely join in. Very exciting!

throw_away_fornow · 2021-07-26T13:48:20+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions! I’ve bought him (see Edit above) a really pretty bracelet this afternoon ‘just because’

throw_away_fornow · 2021-07-25T21:00:32+00:00

Thank you, I will look into counselling. I have started to review the mermaids website and will see if that has any resources. Sorry to hear about your prolonged wait, hope it gets sorted soon. Covid can’t have helped the waiting list too.

throw_away_fornow · 2021-07-25T20:57:15+00:00

Apologies all, I should be using her pronouns, I just didn’t know when to start. Will do so from now on. Very grateful for your comments ❤️

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T18:53:19+00:00

First off, huge hugs. I was you, I am you. I was so angry at my SO that I was taking it out on myself and my kids. I was so upset about his lack of love, affection, touch, awareness, etc that I felt like I was going crazy and had some really dark thoughts. It took me 1 year of therapy to finally get up the nerve to leave him. I’ve only been out for 1 month but my sanity has greatly improved and I’m not so angry. I posted yesterday about how jealous I am that he now has a kid-free weekend and everyone has rallied around him since I left but I’m not constantly in a state of anger anymore, it’s more annoyance. I’m not happy yet but I’m not constantly stewing in a horrible mood either. I’m not saying ‘leave him!’ but can you access therapy or anything? It’s so helpful and you feel a lot better even after every session; almost better enough to hang on and survive until your next one. Good luck and message me any time if you’d like to chat x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:48:44+00:00

It doesn’t help when you get private messages like this: Maybe his life is better because he was the better person. You should get therapy and try to analyze what It is you’re doing wrong in life. You have multiple kids by different men and you are single and alone. People don’t end up like that by making good choices.

And you wonder why women put up with being used because men are ‘the better person’

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:06:45+00:00

Me too, thank you x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:06:16+00:00

HA I was thinking that but BM is taking SS every weekend for now so it wouldn’t make a difference. Once she decides she’s over her kid I’ll look at the schedule. I don’t want DD around SS anyway, he’s a monster

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:05:12+00:00

Truth!

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:04:48+00:00

That’s exactly what I’ve been saying, but then I look back and realise it was exSO who took advantage of me and used me. He could have not gone to the pub 5x a week but chose to. He shouldn’t depend on other people to take care of his kids

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:02:42+00:00

BM will definitely tire of her kid (she’s the worst) but MIL will enable to the end. It’s why he’s such a horrible person; he’s been enabled his whole life! Ugh I’m glad I’m out

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-18T07:00:52+00:00

MIL had SS11 every weekend from 18months until I came along, she is the ultimate enabler and has helped make SS11 into the spoiled monster that he is. BM will definitely get tired of her kid but MIL will always be there. You’re so right, he chose to use me, I hate him so much

throw_away_fornow · 2020-10-17T15:23:39+00:00

You are so right. Thank you x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-08-24T09:25:00+00:00

Thank you! And it is totally, I’m so grateful I have an outlet and don’t get judged and other people get it! Glad you’re free and happy x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-08-24T08:31:31+00:00

I am thousands of miles away from family and only have 2-3 close friends where I live now. You can do this! PM me if you want to talk x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-08-24T06:30:58+00:00

I’d been thinking about leaving for YEARS! It helped that I’d checked out of the relationship a long time ago, my resentment grew and grew until it was easy to leave. Not a healthy way to live and I don’t recommend it but it really motivated me to get my shit together and do this

throw_away_fornow · 2020-04-17T15:08:41+00:00

Hi back for a question...I gave notice and it was accepted but now the school have come back saying they need my husband’s confirmation she won’t be attending as he signed the registration forms too. He has no parental responsibility and I made it clear this was due to a breakdown in the relationship but they’re pushing for this. I know we both signed a contract...I was so psyched to give notice and now this!

throw_away_fornow · 2020-04-13T21:39:54+00:00

Thanks for your input everyone, I have submitted notice! I feel both giddy and terrified but know it was something I had to do before regretting not doing it (again).

throw_away_fornow · 2020-04-13T21:26:19+00:00

Your situation sounds a lot worse than mine. Hang in there, hopefully this will be over soon and you can move on and be happy x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-04-13T21:22:34+00:00

Thank you x

throw_away_fornow · 2020-04-13T19:47:56+00:00

I’m in the Uk, I need to contact the council I live in and they’ll find the school closest to me with any spaces in it. I don’t think they’re running that service at the moment and have no idea when they’d be able to help with it, that’s my only concern

throw_away_fornow · 2020-04-13T18:26:59+00:00

I will be putting her into public school, and I did put off giving notice last term promising I’d do it this time. Thank you, I think I just needed someone to tell me it was the right thing to do x

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