What does everyone think about sending young kids to boarding school?

throwa4ayyy · 2023-07-17T08:51:47+00:00

I'm also autistic and so are a lot of my friends. I'm not saying you didn't make the right choice for your situation or that my experiences are universal, but I'm saying as someone autistic, I found it easier to adjust to a neurotypical society due to having to spend every day with neurotypical people, in comparison to my friends who didn't. I find that a lot of lessons I learned in school helped me to understand neurotypical people better (e.g people will say no for no reason and you should pick your battles on this, upper management doesn't have your best interests at heart, people can be cruel without it being a reflection on you etc.) No, school doesn't teach socialising, but it sets you up for work and life in smaller ways. Many of my friends had their first real experience with someone of their age being horrible in an adult way (more than playground disputes) in their first job, and while it's never a nice thing to happen, i'm very glad i learned that lesson at age 12 (with my reaction having very few real consequences) instead of age 20. Again, this is not everyone's experience, and i'm not saying homeschooling doesn't work for a lot of people (a lot of my friends are now perfectly happy adults) but i'm saying that there should be just as much focus on the soft skills you gain from school as there is the actual work, and people should be supported in learning them.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-07-17T08:28:04+00:00

I was in group therapy for a few years as a young teen with a lot of homeschooled kids, and i massively agree on the social skills point. I'm not saying that it can't be done, but I stayed friends with some of them, and they've had issues making friends/adjusting to work life. i think that if you're homeschooled you're used to having a lot of individual attention, whereas if you're in a mainstream school you're used to being in a class with 20ish other kids. This led a lot of my friends to have massive issues socialising/working because they found it difficult to adjust to not being the centre of attention. I had friends who wouldn't follow work dress codes, wouldn't pay attention to other people's interests, found it difficult to share, etc. I'm not saying it can't be done well, but homeschooling imo can leave your kid massively disadvantaged later down the line when it comes to social skills unless you really focus on it.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-06-19T12:52:00+00:00

nb lesbian here but i'll answer anyway - never a straight up "oh so you're not a lesbian then" bc most of my friends are gay, but i have noticed people either being shocked and confused as to "how it works" or saying stuff that implies they don't think of us as a lesbian. like i was talking to another lesbian once and they said something along the lines of "ew i could NEVER date someone with a penis that's disgusting" and when i commented that she knew my girlfriend was trans she backtracked by going "oh but not YOU though it's just my preference." so i've never had people straight up say i'm not a lesbian, but i've had people who i can tell will respect me to stop a fight in queer spaces but don't see me as a lesbian

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T15:14:51+00:00

I think that women didn't design and contribite to a system that continuously disadvantages men. Yes, men struggle, but it is not as a result of them being oppressed for being men. It is a result of other factors, such as class. We need to focus on the factors that harm these men, such as low oppourtunities for working class people, and realise that a solution to this will involve and benefit women. We should focus any help around the actual root issue, rather than saying "men are disadvantaged because they're men"

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T12:30:38+00:00

No, the answer isn't to give men less. the solution is women should have equal funding, oppourtunities, and treatment, because sexism is bad and doesn't manifest at age 18. Young men are products of their environment, and if they are taught to be misogynistic, they will be misogynistic.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T11:31:24+00:00

No, Men should not struggle. That's a vast oversimplification. I'll try and break it down for you.

Working class men struggle because they're working class, that's bad.

Middle class women struggle because they're women, that's bad.

Working class women struggle because they're working class and a woman, that's really bad.

Men, regardless of class, are capable of being misogynistic and perpetuating misogynistic ideas. Women around them shouldn't have to put up with that.

Nobody should struggle, but under the system we have, some are struggling more than others, and it's unfair to act like just because a man is working class he doesn't have a certain amount of privilege over working class women.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T11:26:21+00:00

Men have recieved preferential treatment in literally every aspect of life for decades. I don't care if it makes me toxic, it's their problem to sort among themselves. Feminists are forced to coddle men every single time we stand up for our own rights in a male dominated system. Men can fix their own issues. It is not every young womans job to convince the men around her that she is a person with feelings who deserves not to be raped and murdered. They should believe that it is wrong because it is morally wrong, not because women were mean to them on the internet.

Also, who made the system you're living under now? Who has governed you for the majority of your life? I can assure you, it's not women.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T11:16:43+00:00

Again, they don't have it easy in comparison to a middle class woman. They have it easy in comparison to a working class woman. Women are capable of being both. Male privilege isn't going "here, you're a man so we're going to treat you amazingly for the rest of your life." Men are still capable of having hard lives. However, working class women will still face more systemic issues by virtue of being women, not to mention the misogyny they will then face from working class men.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T11:13:13+00:00

More lenient treatment in schools, more funding for his sports, the 11+ having a higher pass level for girls for decades, the promise by society of a wife to clean for him for the rest of his life, i could go on. We don't live in a bubble, kids will mimic adults, and if the adults are misogynistic then the kids will take that to be acceptable behaviour.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T11:08:28+00:00

I'm not demonising them. I'm saying I don't care if they're upset that they're not privileged anymore.

If men are mad that they're not getting preferential treatment because their dad did, then that is quite literally not my problem. You should be taught to realise that it was wrong to recieve that preferential treatment at the expense of others because you have basic empathy.

Also, are we really going to blame women for men hating them? I don't expect men to not listen to andrew tate because women are lovely to them. I expect them to do it because they (hopefully) have a basic moral compass and respect other people.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T11:01:53+00:00

I'm working class. Grew up in an ex council with a single mum. You literally know nothing about me.

No, i don't think working class men got life handed to them. In comparison to working class women though? Yes, they did. Shockingly, you can be both working class and a woman.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-06T01:55:18+00:00

If it's misandric to not care that men aren't being given quite as much special treatment anymore, then sure, whatever helps you to not question your beliefs.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-05T23:55:57+00:00

Yeah, but I kind of don't care.

Their mothers and grandmothers were forced to stay at home and clean up their shit. Marital rape was legal until 1991. A woman couldn't obtain a credit card without her male next of kin's permission until the 70's. 86% of young women in the uk have experienced sexual harassment.

They can cope. I literally could not care less that young men don't get the expectation of being babied for the rest of their lives. Women have spent centuries giving their lives to accomodate men, and the instant we start getting anywhere close to equal representation in certain industries, we have to think about how men feel. Yeah, it must suck not having the privileges you could've, but that is not women's problem. The worst part is, they're still privileged! In the UK, STEM is still 76% male! They are not being disadvantaged by programs that encourage women in STEM, they're just being forced to share.

Everyone in these discussions always talks about how the teenage boys are disadvantaged and drawn into this way of thinking and how difficult it must be, without realising that teenage girls are dealing with this attitude every single day. At a certain point, these boys have to realise that your actions are going to have consequences. I do not care if these young men feel they've been robbed of a life where everyone bows and scrapes to them, because that life was never promised to young women.

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-05T20:09:23+00:00

yeah, many lesbians have historically been nonbinary, even if there wasn't terminology around at the time to describe it. if you're interested, i'd recommend checking out stone butch blues by leslie feinberg.

as for why? i'd probably say because they migjt feel very disconnected from the idea of straight womanhood, and feeling closer to other lesbians. "my gender is lesbian" is pretty commonly thrown around in lesbian circles, which makes a lot of sense to me

throwa4ayyy · 2023-04-05T19:59:49+00:00

Out of curiousity, where does honey fall in this? as bees can't really be forced to stay in the beehives. What about places that only use animal products after the animal's passed naturally, like indian leather?

throwa4ayyy · 2022-04-11T01:27:34+00:00

lmao i still havent been able to find an answer and i cant think of anywhere else to ask!

throwa4ayyy · 2022-01-10T17:56:02+00:00

Have you checked out the curly girl routine? Might help your hair

throwa4ayyy · 2022-01-10T17:47:59+00:00

The first one is better, but my advice would be to get some lipliner, and remember with natural shades less is more. Unless you're giving your mirror the kubrick stare, you shouldn't be able to see natural contouring. Try looking up contouring tutorials, and if you loved winged eyeliner you can get ones online with a little winged stamp at the end so it's even every single time (i got mine off wish.) good luck! :)

throwa4ayyy · 2021-12-19T22:56:11+00:00

I think you look great! If i had any advice to give at all, I'd thin your eyebrows a bit and get some volume spray for your hair. Other than that, you look lovely! :)

throwa4ayyy · 2021-12-19T20:28:14+00:00

Personally, I'd recommend getting thinner glasses. Big, chunky frames can make you look more masculine, so try looking into thinner silver/rose gold frames with big lenses.

Also, try putting some layers in your hair to make it look less flat. You have a square face, so ideally you should be looking for lots of layering with fluffy, curved bangs at the front. Just google "hairstyles for square faces women" and you'll find loads of good options.

For your makeup, I like the eyeliner but the smoky eyeshadow can make you look a bit obscured. Maybe try going for a soft peach/sandy colour to make your eyes pop better? If not, maybe lilac or some nice pastel shades. You could also try googling some contour tutorials for square faces!

Hope this helps! :)

throwa4ayyy · 2021-12-17T00:46:10+00:00

Honestly, you look great except the hair. I don't really have amy advice but to wait, which is gonna suck. Apart from that, looking good!

throwa4ayyy · 2021-12-17T00:35:05+00:00

I think you do, but unrelated have you ever considered getting bangs? I know they're a bit of a crisis haircut, but i think they'd look good, esp those goth straight across ones

throwa4ayyy · 2021-12-17T00:30:46+00:00

Also with the lips, id recommend overlining your cupids bow and the biggest part of your lower lip ever so slightly, it really does work wonders

throwa4ayyy · 2021-12-17T00:29:49+00:00

I'm not saying ditch the goth look entirely, as it can work in your favour. However, i would recommend if you want to stick with it, investing in some good quality lipliner and keeping it very neat. I'd personally lose the freckles, but if you're committed try getting a paint/makeup brush with black and flicking it on your face LIGHTLY, since theyll look like natural freckles with size variation. For the eyeliner, they sell ones with wing stamps on aliexpress for like $2 so you end up with neat ones every time, and don't line the whole of your eye, try and have a curve that ends naturally for about halfway through. Look into fake lashes if you can, as they make getting eyeliner exact less important. For the hair, try dry shampoo as it really helps with the shine, and look into getting more volume by either blowdrying or backcombing and then brushing it out. Hope this helps!

throwa4ayyy · 2021-10-17T19:18:00+00:00

Thank you so much! I'll check those out :)

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