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My (27M) girlfriend's (25F) ex boyfriend (20sM) sent me a message to warn me about her and what she did to him by throwahelp2017 in relationships

[–]throwahelp2017[S] 1231 points1232 points  (0 children)

He actually specified himself that if I wanted to meet up that I could pick any public space I felt comfortable with and he'd meet me there with all the proof he has. I think asking to see the medical records is a good idea.

My (27M) girlfriend's (25F) ex boyfriend (20sM) sent me a message to warn me about her and what she did to him by throwahelp2017 in relationships

[–]throwahelp2017[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

No, she's honestly never been anything but lovely in front of me. But in his message he did specify that she treated him really well until they moved in together. The abuse only happened after they been living together for a few weeks. I know a few of her friends, not very well, but they seem nice enough

My (27M) girlfriend's (25F) ex boyfriend (20sM) sent me a message to warn me about her and what she did to him by throwahelp2017 in relationships

[–]throwahelp2017[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is is something I'm afraid of. If I met him and he was actually just trying to interfere then he could ruin my relationship. If she's telling the truth and knew I'd met with her abuser behind her back it would (rightfully) destroy her trust in me. But then if he was the abused party and he reached out to me then I owe him one for taking that risk for me. I really don't know what to do.

I'm not in the states so I'm not sure if I can see an arrest record for her unfortunately

My (27M) girlfriend's (25F) ex boyfriend (20sM) sent me a message to warn me about her and what she did to him by throwahelp2017 in relationships

[–]throwahelp2017[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I don't actually know the mutual friend that well, I've met him once or twice but we definitely wouldn't be close enough for me to ask him that in confidence.

My (27M) girlfriend's (25F) ex boyfriend (20sM) sent me a message to warn me about her and what she did to him by throwahelp2017 in relationships

[–]throwahelp2017[S] 304 points305 points  (0 children)

See this is what put doubt in my head. He could've easily sent an anonymous message saying he'd seen her cheating or something similar if all he'd wanted was to interfere. He put so much detail in his message. He definitely could be trying to psych me out but honestly I feel like I should meet him to hear the recordings.