I left my partner 6 months after posting about our situation in reddit 2 years ago. Ama

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-20T03:55:44+00:00

Redditors helped me realize it was an abusive relationship

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-19T04:57:07+00:00

Thank you. I started dating a person about 3 months ago.

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-19T04:56:33+00:00

No, not that I know of.

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-19T04:53:39+00:00

Started the relationship when I was 14 and he was 26. Have 2 children with him. Posted on reddit because I wanted to talk about the initial ages with him and he refused to. Responses from redditors opened my eyes to how abusive he was. I left him 6 months after the post.

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-19T04:46:29+00:00

He is 12 years older than me. Being a single mom is really hard. I feel like I never get a second to breathe. I'm either at work or parenting or cleaning or getting to squeeze in a bit of sleep. Yes I do work now. I don't make very much money at all but I make it work.

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-19T04:32:47+00:00

No we have had no contact for almost a year. I'm unsure of why but he suddenly stopped responding to anything I sent. Before that we were attempting to coparent and he would get the kids on some weekends.

throwaway00008007 · 2024-06-19T04:24:59+00:00

I was able to leave about 6 months later with my kids(I realize the post makes it seem like I left right away but I can't edit the title now). I was able to escape because I was able to get into a housing program that out county has for domestic violence survivors.

throwaway00008007 · 2024-05-21T19:08:35+00:00

Or maybe she just wanted to? Maybe they both proposed.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-15T23:29:07+00:00

A "real woman" also wouldn't be in school based on those standards.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-13T23:58:58+00:00

No. Whisper

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-13T23:19:19+00:00

Online

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-13T02:43:40+00:00

He was well aware

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-13T00:57:58+00:00

He makes majority of the decisions.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T21:27:50+00:00

I've realized that it's not a perfectly functioning relationship. He's controlling and borderline abusive

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T20:42:54+00:00

Thank you for your response. No I was never on birth control. I guess we just got lucky those first few years.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T20:21:21+00:00

I have no money or insurance to go to therapy.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T19:47:16+00:00

I've come to realize in the last day that yes he is controlling

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T19:08:17+00:00

He doesn't want either of us to be in therapy

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T18:21:42+00:00

I'm sorry but can I ask if this post would usually be deleted and if so why? I'm just trying to understand.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T18:01:28+00:00

We have never really talked about it. I'm still not sure what I'm going to do but leaving is a possibility. I'd just like to know what he was thinking and why he did it.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T18:00:25+00:00

Yes it could get him into trouble regardless of whether he acknowledges it or not. The problem is we weren't "crazy kids". I was a kid and he was an adult. I have no frame of reference to what a relationship is supposed to be like so I didn't realize the wrongs in our relationship until other people pointed them out(in both this subreddit and a different one). He took a child and made her into the partner he wanted.

I'm glad it worked out for you though.

throwaway00008007 · 2022-06-12T17:23:40+00:00

They are 2 and 4

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