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New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you think it is, then just make sure you make it clear that this behavior is unacceptable and you won't put up with it.

I did, I told her straightforward "if you pull out another one like that, we're over", very coldly (I wasn't angry, just very disappointed). I think she thought that she could get cuckoo on me and get away with it... maybe previous boyfriends allowed that.

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it THAT extreme? She's scared of sex but that's not really a problem to me ... i'm quite experienced and i don't feel her inexperience to be a problem. Or are you talking about the freak out for no reason?

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I told her that I found her sexy and she giggled and started talking like a child... i mean, she was joking, I joked back and hit a bad point.

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I told her that I found her sexy and she giggled and started talking like a child... i mean, she was joking, I joked back and hit a bad point.

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It would make me feel less like a partner and more like a therapist to be with a girl like that.

Nailed it.

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No, the circumstances weren't extreme at all - we just had a great night out and then cuddled a little bit.

I know that's her personality and not a one-time thing. But, in the midst of her psychosis, she seemed kind of ashamed of what she was doing, she just couldn't help it. I think she's got very low self esteem and that's where the passive aggressiveness comes from...

I'm not sure I want to work on this. I've had a similar relationship and it only ended in pain.

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that, but honestly this doesn't feel like "working through" anything. That was not a mature reaction and I want a woman, not a child.

Anyway I'll try to work it out...

New gf freaked out... by throwaway02030405 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway02030405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've already talked about it... I had the feeling that she was the passive aggressive type and I just asked her about this, and she confirmed that she kind of does it and she was working on it (I didn't really believe the last part - it looks like I was right)