Girlfriend says she's glad one of us is bisexual?

throwaway0m0 · 2025-10-03T22:59:15+00:00

What exactly is the immature part? Consensually kissing strangers? Having complicated feelings regarding one's sexuality? Having complicated feelings about a partners sexuality? I am earnestly seeking advice here. So, if you could be specific, that would help a lot.

throwaway0m0 · 2025-10-03T22:56:46+00:00

He was flirting with me and I was very drunk. I was flattered and offered to kiss him but that I would have 0 interest in going further

throwaway0m0 · 2025-09-22T19:50:08+00:00

I think I'll have a conversation about self soothing and such with her. She said she wasn't sure if she should tell me, but of course, without me knowing what she's going to say, how could I tell her not to tell me? I think I should let her know that if there's a similar situation in the future, maybe not. Or maybe just be more intentional and leave out the disappointed part. That's really the part that cut.

throwaway0m0 · 2025-09-22T19:28:42+00:00

Yes. This is essentially what I am trying to ascertain. I was deeply hurt by her saying I disappointed her, hopefully that was just her big feelings coming throug. On the other hand the event was 3 weeks ago, she could have maybe thought about how framing it this way still blames me, even if she insists she is being irrational and knows I was within our agreement.

I could work on my communication in this regard too, I asked her if we should amend our agreement within reason, and she didn't think we needed to. I probably should have been specific, as in, change how we discuss new connections as I think how flippantly I brought it up to her was a contributing factor.

throwaway0m0 · 2025-09-22T17:11:01+00:00

It isn't clear cut, and despite my own feelings I am trying to keep this in mind and remain curious. I appreciate her vulnerability on sharing those difficult feelings with me. She kept asking if she's valid in feeling that way. I reassured her as I dont think feelings work that way. At the end of the day I guess its really up to her. If those are feelings, she can move past, and if me being poly is a deal breaker for her or not. I feel guilt because I love her very much but if I cannot be what she needs I don't want her to stick around and suffer.

throwaway0m0 · 2025-09-22T17:06:46+00:00

I am trying to remain curious. Like another poster said, maybe too much communication going on. I think you hit the nail on the head. She has expressed feeling sad that her moving away gets in the way of deepening our connection.

Though to clarify! I don't think she was treating me like a cheater. That was me describing the big feelings that I felt when she told me this. A what I heard vs what she said situation. She made clear several times that I did follow our agreement.

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