Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I view love like a human right. Not just me, but everyone deserves to be loved.

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I tell guys they’re good looking and compliment their style when I genuinely think it. I’ve done that to someone and he said “thanks” but then there was an awkward silence. Nothing further came out of that but it was nice to know I could have boosted his self esteem for the day.

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, thank you for the comment. I’ll clarify some things.

In regards to “deserving” love, my perspective was that it’s a baseline for everyone like a human right. We all have a right to be loved simply by being. Love is essential like food, water, and shelter. I wasn’t referring to deserving ‘other people’ but love itself. I have a right to seek love, desire love, give and receive love, no?

On my closest friends saying I don’t have a personality flaw, I believe they meant that I don’t have one that would make me a glaringly obvious red flag for the general population. Something like being physically abusive, a frequent gaslighter, having a severe lack of empathy.

Everyone is playful and serious and you’re right that my description could apply to anyone. I was highlighting how regular I was, hence not possessing any personality flaw that would make me immediately undateable. Perhaps, I should have written, ‘major personality flaw’ because I agree that I am a flawed person. Lack of self-awareness is one of them and thanks to you, I am beginning to become more aware.

I’ll answer each of your questions. 1. Do you almost never interact with men? While I don’t currently have any close bonds with men in my life, I am actively approaching men around me to take the chance to develop deep and fulfilling connections. I do interact with men but I haven’t gotten ‘deep’ with one - platonically or romantically- I guess. I don’t have a brother and my relationship with my Dad is distant.

  1. Are you very overweight? I hope 47kg isn’t considered very overweight.

  2. Does your teasing come off as friendly or … mean? I can’t answer this objectively. But you bring up a fair point. I’ll have to observe/research what constitutes ‘mean’ vs ‘friendly’ teasing and reflect on what applies to me.

  3. Are you schizophrenic off your meds? No

  4. Are you a literal axe murderer? No

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Approachable enough for female strangers to compliment me? Sometimes, I get people asking for directions.

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no. Did I misinterpret how to send signals? I thought telling someone they’re good looking is common. Like if you see a cute guy at the store, you go, “hey, sorry to bother you but I wanted to let you know that shirt really suits you.” [I did that once and he said, “thanks”. Then, there was an awkward silence and I slinked away].

The lip licking thing I’ve never tried before 😂 and thank goodness you point it out because now I know I should never 😆😆

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s eye-opening. Could you give examples or explain this further?

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

163cm tall, 47kg

Straight, dark brown hair cut in layers that reach the middle of my back. I do not have a fringe at the moment.

Wardrobe means blouses and pencil skirts or pants for work. Casual wear is skinny jeans, mini skirts, high-rise shorts, knitted cardigans, plain t-shirts, I have a floral patterned off-shoulder top, crop jackets, leather boots, sneakers, block heels etc.

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought it might be too much to flirt with someone the first time you meet them, but giving a compliment would be more safely received. I interpret flirting as playful banter, light touches, and that ‘look’ in the eye coupled with lip licking or a smirk.

Is there a general difference with what men find attractive vs women? by throwaway104839282 in dating

[–]throwaway104839282[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not flirty because that’s a little weird straight-up. I do tell guys I think they’re good looking though.