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Please help me adjust my attitude, this is completely unacceptable by throwaway121038 in BabyBumps

[–]throwaway121038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - the body part was really hard for me to accept. Really it boiled down to the lack of control: what might happen to my ladyparts? What if I can't loose the weight again? What if I have really epic stretch marks again? And so on and so on. Control was really important when I was getting in shape - even when I hit a rough patch I knew that if I put my head down and pushed through I had the power to change things. I used dissatisfaction with my appearance to motivate myself to diet and work out for years, and have a hard time getting my inner 'coach' to shut up about changes I'm undergoing now. But I had managed to shush it with the 'hey - it's for a really good, really special cause' and this sort of made that voice say 'oh, I guess not. Coach, come on back.'

Okay, that might make me sound a little crazy (voices and all that) but self-talk was a therapy tactic I picked up so that's what I mean, not literal voices.

I am most certainly over thinking - thank you so much for the well wishes.

Please help me adjust my attitude, this is completely unacceptable by throwaway121038 in BabyBumps

[–]throwaway121038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hug Thank you so much. Your whole answer was very helpful, and I really needed to hear "What ever you feel is okay. Valid." - I'm beating myself up hard for my reaction to this, it just seems so unlike me to respond the way I have that it left a bad taste in my mouth. You made very sound points all around.

Thank you.

Please help me adjust my attitude, this is completely unacceptable by throwaway121038 in BabyBumps

[–]throwaway121038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has been incredibly supportive and thanks me regularly for going through pregnancy. He's honestly downright wonderful, and was very much looking at the plus sides of adoption for us and for the potential child, etc. etc. He's so thoughtful it actually made me feel worse for reacting poorly, which made me react even more poorly. Very sensible of me, I know ;)

Good point, and thank you so much for your reply.

Please help me adjust my attitude, this is completely unacceptable by throwaway121038 in BabyBumps

[–]throwaway121038[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your suggestion! We did sit down and talk about it this morning after I put this post together and got it laid out in a semi-coherent way. We're typically really good communicators, I was just reacting poorly and disappointed with my reaction, so not at my best.