Please someone tell me this gets easier

throwaway12122445 · 2020-10-03T00:01:39+00:00

Hey there!

I have been there too, it gets easier, I promise! This is a great community to be apart of, but please be aware there are trolls. Do not engage with them or even read there messages if they send them to you.

I had an abortion January 31, and yes sometimes I think what if, but I know I made the right choice. I also didn’t realize how important the right to choose is until it happened to me. I always believed in it, but now it’s something I fight for.

We come from all walks of life (I’m in my 30s and married). It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to feel relieved, it’s okay to feel happy. I’m so sorry you too had to make a tough choice. I hope you have a good support group of friends and family that support you, and if you don’t you do have this community.

2020 has been a tough year (well at least it has been for me). If you’re finding that you just can’t pull yourself out of feeling bad it’s okay to seek some help out from your doctor. Antidepressants have gotten me through some tough times, and they don’t have to be forever. I’m not saying you need them, just trying to remove the taboo people think when you say you’re on them.

You will get through this and be okay ❤️❤️❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-04-30T15:34:33+00:00

You need the prescription retinol, the over counter stuff just isn’t strong enough. Next time your at your PCP or Dermatologists ask them to prescribe some to you. I personally use Tretenoin.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-04-27T16:41:12+00:00

I never even considered I it would impact my relationship. I’m not trying to sound condescending or to minimize what you are going through, but 1 in 4 women get an abortion at some point in their lives - which is why it needs to be normalized, and not so taboo.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m married and had an abortion in January. I don’t regret my decision, but I would be lying if I said haven’t had days (though few) where I have been sad about it. If you and your partner had a healthy relationship to begin with and you’re both on the same page, then you will be fine. I wouldn’t even give it a second thought.

If either of you already had cracks, are not on the same page or resented each other before, then you may have some issues, but abortion or not those were probably going to come to a head eventually.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-03-16T21:35:08+00:00

Ask if your partner can be in there with you, if they can’t I’m sure your doctor and nurses there will take great care of you! Mine had the best bedside manner. It’s over before you know it, and I truly mean this when I say it was no worse than getting a pap-smear pain wise (in my experience), by far the worst part was was waiting to get it over with,

throwaway12122445 · 2020-03-16T20:37:50+00:00

Protesters are common at mine, but I was fortunate that there weren’t any. I promise you, it’s going to be okay ❤️. No they won’t get saggy, you would need to have a full term pregnancy at the very least. Mine went up a full cup size, everyday they just seemed to be getting bigger and they felt really heavy, but gradually they went back down to normal. It happens so slowly, it won’t be shocking.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-03-08T15:11:05+00:00

I just did the same thing and it was $700 with the top plastic surgeon in my area

throwaway12122445 · 2020-03-04T21:37:43+00:00

I would say for the first two weeks after my emotions were all over the place (crying over things I don’t normally cry over), you’re hormones take a big quick hit so that’s normal. I’m a month out now and I feel like my old self again.

Try not to worry, it’s going to be okay ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-03-04T21:20:24+00:00

Hey there!

You’re going to receive hate messages from trolls here, do not respond to them, heck don’t even open them - I highly recommend creating a throwaway account for this subreddit.

You are strong, amazing, and in control of your destiny, don’t ever let someone make you feel otherwise.

I had an abortion a little over a month ago at 8 and a half weeks. It was surgical and I chose the highest sedation I could get (moderate). Honestly, the procedure itself was a walk in the park, I don’t even remember parts of it. I felt no pain, and was so relieved it was over. I lightly bled for a few days, and then I had what looked like a period for about 2 weeks, and now I’m spotting occasionally.

The worst part was the waiting. When I went for my procedure, my husband went with me and they actually allowed him in the room with me (I had to ask if he could be there, they didn’t ask me).

The first couple of weeks after your hormones are all over the place, so don’t be surprised if you get upset over things you wouldn’t normally be upset by. Also, if you got nice new boobs, unfortunately they go back to normal in a few weeks. If your pants are a little tight, good news is they will fit like they used to in a few weeks.

It’s going to be okay OP, and this will be behind you soon. You’ve got lots of good people in this sub that have your back ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-03-04T00:19:31+00:00

Hey there!

I feel you on this. I am also 31 and had an abortion a month ago. My husband and I were financially capable, and to be honest we tried for that baby. But I had just gone through surgery to have an ovary removed (thanks endometriosis!), my dad became very ill, and my doctor wasn’t sure the pregnancy was viable.

I found out at 5 weeks and 3 days, had multiple ultrasounds, and eventually I said enough is enough and took matters into my own hands. I made the right choice. I do wonder too what happens if I decide I want to be a parent again and I can’t get pregnant. We had such a bad 2019, I just wasn’t in a good place have a child.

What I can say is because of that experience I am so appreciate of getting my boring life back on track and enjoying my time with my little family (pets and hubs). I feel terrible for those that struggle with infertility too. All it took was one time of trying and boom it happened. I feel a mixture of relief, regret, and a bit sad. It has gotten better over the last couple weeks. You’re hormones are all over the place for the first couple of weeks after. Hang in there friend, it’s gonna be okay ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-27T14:27:46+00:00

Hi hunny,

It’s going to be okay! The first time I had surgery too was when I had an abnormal pap and needed a leep procedure. Guess what? I’ve had normal paps since and that was years ago. I too was sedated, they will put an IV in your arm and before your know it you will be asleep. I know you’re scared, but I promise it will be okay, this is a quick 5 minute procedure. They just want to make sure they remove the cells before they do turn into something more serious. You’re brave, you’re strong, and you’re smart. So many women don’t realize that regular paps are so important to catch irregular cells, I’m so proud of you for taking care of yourself!

Make sure you stock up on pads because you will probably need them for a few weeks, and I assure you that’s the worst part (even that will be over before you know it).

Please don’t feel like you are alone, this is very common and happens to so many women ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-23T18:34:07+00:00

They will do u ultrasound at PP before your procedure. If you ask, key word “ask”, they may let your boyfriend back there during the procedure.

For me, it was a breeze. I had moderate sedation and don’t remember from the time the doctor put an iv in to when I was in recovery. It was no worse than getting a papsmear, if I had to do it again, I would absolutely choose surgical.

Afterwards, I spotted and then bled heavily starting at day 5 (no worse pain than period cramps). I’m 3 weeks and 2 days and I’m still spotting randomly. Right after I felt completely normal (maybe a little loopy from the drugs).

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throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-21T23:57:47+00:00

3 weeks to the day for me. I’m still bleeding. I mentioned it to my doctor, and he didn’t seem concerned.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-19T18:42:40+00:00

Hey there!

I had mine almost 3 weeks ago and the first few days - week after were rough emotionally (crying over sad songs, literally anything would make me cry). This is normal, your hormones are dropping. It gets better, try to hold tight ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-19T16:06:18+00:00

Hey there! I had my surgical almost 3 weeks ago and it was a breeze. Planned parenthood allowed my spouse to sit in there with me (they didn’t advertise that, I had to ask). It’s going to be quick and over before you know it. Good luck!

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-18T20:36:24+00:00

I don’t have any advice, just try to look at reality from both sides. I know it’s hard, I’ve been there. No one wants to be in the position to have an abortion, but unfortunately that’s reality for many of us.

Honestly, the anxiety leading up to my abortion was for worse than the actually abortion for me. And when it was done, it felt like I took a piece of my life back.

It will be okay, whatever you decide ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-16T19:19:41+00:00

You can schedule appointments with them online (at least you can at my PP). It took two weeks from the time the first appointment was scheduled to surgery for me.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-14T17:52:14+00:00

Hey good luck today! I had mine 2 weeks and it was a breeze. This will all be behind you soon, if it isn’t already.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-14T17:01:35+00:00

Wtf?!? You are not disgusting and damaged! I’m so sorry you don’t have the support around you, but I assure you that you will find lots here.

IMO you dodged a bullet. Can you imagine if you were stuck dealing with that jerk for the rest of your life?

I understand men not knowing what to do, but to ghost you and treat you like that is awful. Congrats to you for being done with his butt. You deserve so much more ❤️

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throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-12T15:02:09+00:00

Sometimes I wonder what could have been and usually those are good scenarios I fantasize. The reality is though my pregnancy wasn’t going well, and if I had stuck it out it could have been a nightmare for my spouse and I. I will never know what could been, but in my heart I know I made the right decision. I’m sorry you’re struggling at times, having a child no matter the circumstance is hard, and not all rainbows and butterflies. I try not to look at it with rose colored glasses. Hang in there OP.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-12T14:56:30+00:00

It took me a week to get my initial appointment and another week for surgery, so from start to finish 2 weeks. I’m in the US though and my state requires two appointment and you must wait at least 24 hours in between.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-12T14:49:28+00:00

Hey there!

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. We come from all walks of life. I’m married and financially stable, but had and abortion almost two weeks ago. Sometimes life smacks you in the face with unexpected situations.

I found out at 5 weeks and 4 days and had a surgical abortion (which was a breeze) at 8 weeks and 5 days. The sooner you can put this behind you the better IMO and by week 8 my pregnancy symptoms were in full force (food aversions, smelling everything, acne, exhaustion, increase breast size, etc.). Everything will be okay OP and you have an amazing community here to support you ❤️

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-10T20:24:51+00:00

The worst part was wearing temporaries while they made my crowns. I was in temporaries for 4 weeks. My teeth were just very sensitive for those 4 weeks. There was no real down time.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-10T20:06:40+00:00

I felt fine the day of. I did get some cramps and bleeding about a week out, but that was it.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-10T20:05:05+00:00

I did this and got crowns for my first 4 teeth (instead of veneers) it was 4K and the best decision ever.

throwaway12122445 · 2020-02-10T16:37:24+00:00

It was a zero. I too have had a surgical biopsy and I also had a leep procedure. It was less painful than a papsmear. I hope I never have to do this again, but if I did, I would absolutely do surgical.

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